I’ve been talking to a shit ton of women lately and I’ve found that I’m rarely “approaching” by just going up and saying hi and introducing myself.

Here are a couple examples from my last couple days:

  • asked literally every group of people at the bar a certain question about music (dont want to be doxxed so won’t specify) and two girls thought it was funny and came over to my apartment the next day
  • going off the same question another group of girls brought me & my friend to their place out in the burbs that night
  • asked girl next to me on a plane “what’s your favorite music” and after chatting for a bit she asked my #
  • went next to a group of girls at the bar yesterday and just started a football chant for our local team. They joined in and then dragged my friend and I out to the dance floor
  • at the bar just asked “what did you just order” and started a nice chat that led to some dancing

Just put 0 pressure on it and figure out how enjoy just chatting and you’re 80% of the way there. The rest is just escalation & logistics. In fairness, I need to get better at setting a more sexual frame for the interaction - but it definitely doesn’t need to be the first thing you do.

I’ve never been much of a poster but I thought this might be nice for somebody to read. Or just for me to write it out, idk.

TLDR: chill out, don’t think, opening is nothing, just start a chat and go with the flow