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EmbarrassedReach3804 · 2021-10-22T06:12:08+00:00

This is one of those things that can sometimes mean she will never text you, but it can absolutely mean she will text you.

50/50. You have to wait. Do not text her.

GuaranteeOwn5108 · 2021-10-22T07:30:28+00:00

Not always, I’ve been texted back after an I’ll text you, I’ve also fucked it up by texting her first when she said I’ll text you. Go talk to more girls and if she texts back she text back.

IntrovertDatingCoach · 2021-10-22T05:50:56+00:00

Ah, you made some rookie mistakes here, pal:

After-date texts - should be avoided if possible. They're not necessary, nor do they do anything to build interest.
Suggesting a future date during a current date or immediately after - there is something to be said about the role anticipation plays in heightening attraction. When you ask about another date so soon, you cut out anticipation of when you're going to call again; anticipation of if they'll get a second date with you; and anticipation of knowing how you felt about the other person on the date. Oh, and it's also not necessary - they'll know you want a second date when you hit them up a few days later and ask for one; they don't need to know you're going to do that right after the first date.
Believing the "I'll Text You" line - this is said for one of two reasons: either (a) they have low interest in you, or (b) they have interest in you but they don't want you texting/calling them every single day, all day, so they say this to regulate how often they'll hear from you.

Your best bet right now? Wait a few days before hitting her up again (I usually wait 4 days minimum), then when you hit her up (ideally with a phone call), ask her for the date. No building rapport, no trying to to chit-chat, just get straight to the point and ask for the date. Hope this helps!

MrDownhillRacer · 2021-10-22T10:21:34+00:00

Nobody here knows what this specific girl meant by "I'll text you," because none of us were there or know her. It's not like "I'll text you" is universal girl-code that translates into some special meaning.

Top-Competition-4587 · 2021-10-22T16:06:32+00:00

You definitely do not want to text first but there’s a 50/50 chance she will. She’s been thinking about it for sure

tellythesloot · 2021-10-22T05:43:55+00:00

It's iffy but at this point i wouldn't follow up until she texts you after a couple weeks

quantumactual · 2021-10-22T10:36:58+00:00

This is usually a sheit test to see if you’ll message her before she does. Easy to pass, but I’m sure a lot of guys don’t lol..which is why she does it.

nalik95 · 2021-10-22T07:54:25+00:00

I agree with introvertdatingcoach. I normally do after-date-texts to let the girl down easy if I'm just not feeling it. I guess it's just a courteous thing to do and I value time so I appreciate when people go out of their way to make time to hang with me.

If I'm wanting a second date, a call is always better than a text and suggesting on the first date is better yet.

"I'll text you" reminds me of the line I'd throw at a girl when she said she was busy in the foreseeable future. I'd say, "You let me know when you're free".

At least she got the ball back on her side of the court without you having to hit it. I'd say wait and let her text you back. She could be busy. Or the other reason, obviously not in your favour is that she's not as interested.

sergeiglimis · 2021-10-22T16:03:17+00:00

You made a mistake texting her you are supposed to wait two days then text her but don’t make plans then or you seem hooked. And “once a women knows she has you it’s over and you’ll never have her”

jestercake · 2021-10-22T11:47:40+00:00

She might. She might not. Just don't sit around waiting for it. Just live your life and make other plans.

mishaxz · 2021-10-22T11:59:38+00:00

Depends how flaky she is

fernandito_chiquito · 2021-10-22T12:16:05+00:00

Listen to your boys, were just a bunch of reddit weirdos.

drekoho · 2021-10-22T13:47:06+00:00

Like the HRs say, "we'll let you know"

Edit: HRs/ The recruiters

HughBeaumont500 · 2021-10-22T13:55:24+00:00

Wait and see

Don't be all needy checking your phone every 5 minutes... Biting your nails anxiously

If she takes a while to text (if she does text) DO NOT - as in don't - respond with the quickness, like you're wait for it (which you totally are)

As much time as she took to text you take about the same to respond. If she wants to respond a little quicker - then you can too.

But please don't come off as needy. I made this mistake in my younger days.

Matter of fact I'ma advise you to kind of forget her, until or if she does text you. Right now she has you in the position you need to have her... Picking daisy pedals saying "she loves me, she loves me not"

Clumsysneaker145 · 2021-10-22T14:15:44+00:00

I wouldn’t say it happens every time but definitely when a girl says that get her off your mind and just expect her to never reply again and if she does great if she doesn’t then you’ll already have another girl lined up and forgotten all about her

SalesAficionado · 2021-10-22T15:28:29+00:00

You will never hear from her again

B_O_A_H · 2021-10-22T16:59:41+00:00

She’s not texting you. Same thing happened to me, I had finally secured a date with a girl I spoke to every day. When I asked her how the logistics of the date would work, she said the very same; “I’ll text you.” She never did.

LucasAnimeEnthusiast · 2021-10-22T17:33:05+00:00

It’s true they don’t text you lmao

demonspawn9 · 2021-10-22T18:18:54+00:00

There's a small chance, but this is more like the saying "let's do lunch" no one means it so don't hold your breath.

for6idden0ne · 2021-10-22T20:10:31+00:00

Why are you giving power to her to decide. Just ask it over call after sometime. Case close.

willgo-waggins · 2021-10-22T20:14:14+00:00

It’s dependent on a lot of things.

My current girl is a great in person communicator. Very open, straightforward and means what she says and is honest as the day is long. She doesn’t do ANY social media and is not fond of texting or even phone calls (she has it all day ling at her work and just likes to be away on her own time). So I will go sometimes as much as a week not hearing from her. She also will get busy and forget that she said she would get in touch. So I will send a little message “thinking of you” or “miss you” or such and will almost always now get an immediate response. Sometimes a little learning about each other is necessary.

My son is dealing with the same thing from his girl who also is a bad communicator with a lot going on all the time.

Welcome to the modern world.

Give it a week then something simple like “hope you’ve had a great week I’ve been really busy” will get a yes or no answer.

cannibalstreudel · 2021-10-23T01:20:34+00:00

We have no idea. If you wanna go on a date with her it’s up to you to make it happen. I’d follow up in 3-4 days and try to plan something - a specific place date and time. Then let the pieces fall as they may.

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