For the people here who have realised that the pick up artist industry as a whole is a scam, where do you go from here? What is the key to finding a gf or getting success meeting women?

MO_drps_knwldg · 2021-10-09T12:27:47+00:00

If you have access, find a therapist. It’s a tool, so it won’t solve your all your problems. You have to work on yourself as well.
Realize that everyone gets rejected and has negative interactions with women from time to time. I have a beautiful girlfriend, have had success with women as I’ve gotten older, but I get side eye from chicks from time to time. You don’t know what’s going on with people sometimes, you can’t make everyone like you.
Get in shape. Whether you join a gym, play a sport, or do a martial art, it’s critical to physically challenge yourself. The mental health benefits and confidence you get can’t be replicated in any other way
Read. This won’t solve your problems, either. That only comes by putting yourself out there. It gives you some perspective though. I recommend Models, The Charisma Myth, The Pook, How to Be a 3% Man, How to Win Friends and Influence People, and my posts
Get in a habit to talk to all strangers, not just attractive women. This will get you used to interacting with all types of people

tellythesloot · 2021-10-09T12:32:41+00:00

You did this to yourself. You let your fears guide you into disparity because you chose to hide from the world and yourself. But guess what? You're alive and it's NEVER too late to change. Go out there and get comfortable with being uncomfortable because you need to work on yourself, and work on yourself like your life depends on it because it. Fucking. Does. Y Right now you've got a one way ticket to being the saddest loneliness person ever and that is a rat race you do not want to be in

Time is running out

Sufficient-Cry-9163 · 2021-10-09T12:17:58+00:00

Just realize there are many women out there who feel the same way. They just want one man to show them some attention and care for them. You wouldn't believe how many women 20-30 have never even been on a real date cause guys nowadays are all about Netflix-and chill. If you ask a girl out for dinner, it might be the nicest thing that ever happened to her. Just find a woman to be nice to.

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-10-09T14:57:07+00:00

Start by looking into cognitive behavior therapy to fix your thought patterns. You see, what you think determines how you feel. How you feel determines your behavior. How you behave determines how people perceive you.

So if you think you are a loser, who women are repulsed by and that you will never get a girl friend (you have a negative view of yourself, of situations and negative future expectations), it will make you feel depressed and unconfident, which will translate into unattractive behavior and women will reject you.

So the only solution is to identify bad/negative thought patterns, learn to spot them and start disputing them when they arise.

Elbynerual · 2021-10-09T12:56:30+00:00

I'm confused. On one line you said "the pick up artist industry as a whole is a scam"

... and then on another line you said "I have never even tried game or dating".

How could you possibly know something is a scam without trying it? This subreddit is a testament to hundreds or more people showing that at least some parts of the industry truly work.

imjustdumbaf · 2021-10-09T15:36:11+00:00

Just realize the fact that most people don't look up to PUAs. People get into relationship n what not all the time without ever needing YouTube videos telling them what to do.

Cmonsterfishing · 2021-10-09T21:00:28+00:00

It’s like sales. Numbers count. If one in 5 says yes to a date. Then you need to approach, and talk to 20 to get 4 days. Forget internet dating…it’s easier for people to say no online. In person, people are more apt to be nice and more sincere, and truthfully, once people have a real person in front of them, it’s harder to say no

TheSunshineMan · 2021-10-09T13:06:50+00:00

So you're a 30 year old virgin and claiming the dating industry is a scam?

What programs have you done?

How many hundreds or thousands of cold approaches have you done doing daygame?

How many hundreds of night game approaches?

Lets get some substance here..

Let me guess, you've never paid for any dating programs and haven't even done 200+ approaches?

"It's a scam" ..

Business coaches are a scam.. dating gurus are a scam.. fitness guys are a scam..

How about you take some ownership here instead of blaming others.

As this will get you nowhere, keep you stuck, and keep you a virgin for the rest of your life.

If that's what you want, keep this attitude.

If you want to make a change..

There's 4,000,000,000 (billion) women in the world..

I was in your shoes, basically a virgin until 30, learned game.. and now I go on 2-5 dates a week, every week, and sleep with 100+ women a year on average for the past 10+ years.

Why have I found success.

Because I stopped making excuses, learned proper game and put in massive effort.

You can have the same success.

The choice is yours, and your alone.

2021-10-10T14:54:55+00:00

I don't know, I still day game out of curiousity, but I don't expect success from it. I am glad because it has taken the pressure off me to find results, since the scandal that happened involving my day game infields.

loofyd · 2021-10-10T15:35:12+00:00

I don't like shady puas either

But there are probably some genuine people out there trying to help others, Pro Bono or for a fee

Don't generalize like that, it's the same as saying every man just wants sex or every woman just wants money

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