Introverts typically prefer interacting with smaller numbers of people rather than large groups, take more time to open up to strangers, and don’t mind being alone as much.

Although it sounds contradictory, introverts can be outgoing. Being outgoing means being friendly, initiating an interaction with someone in a positive manner, a trait not solely reserved for extroverts. Although it may not come as naturally and requires more work to get into that mindset, an introvert can be just as charming when interacting with a stranger out in public. As mentioned previously, being introverted often means being more at ease being alone, which is powerful and is the biggest deterrent against neediness.

On the other hand, being shy is the biggest impediment to being good with women, or with people in general. It doesn’t matter if you are handsome, jacked, wearing amazing clothes. If you cannot hold a conversation,or are constantly feeling insecure, you don’t have a chance out there.Being shy means being closed off, emotionally defensive, self-conscious, and fearful of the opinions of others. It is rooted in the fear of rejection.

There is no magic solution to prevent shyness and build self-confidence. It is different for everyone. Therapy, group activities, saying hello (not creepily) to strangers when out, working out are actions to consider.

However, the most important thing to remember is that being shy is not a static quality that only introverts exhibit. It may require more initial discomfort,but introverts are just as capable of being attractive and socially competent as an extrovert.