The way I talk to women is too 'friendly' and does not communicate sexual tension. How can this be fixed?

Jake_STi-RA · 2013-10-21T05:14:26+00:00

Maybe this is you? Voice tonality. A difference if your voice goes down, up, or stays stationary can make you sound hostile, trying too hard, or normal. I need to work on it as well.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4VDslvC4_5w

On a side note, what's with the condoning and trend of people posting essentially, "Be a loud asshole that's better than everyone"?

TodayI_Yearned · 2013-10-21T07:54:44+00:00

Touch. Her. More.

You know those ads saying "Scientist hate this guy because he found some big secret"?

Kino is that secret. When you walk up and say hello, immediately grab her hand and introduce yourself. Throughout the conversation keep touching her. Do you like this girl? Does she turn you on? Then how can you possibly keep your hands off her?

I know a lot of guys(especially the learners here) don't yet have the stones to kiss a girl on the cheek or lips as a goodbye so I've got a good little trick:

Grab her hand in yours. Lean in to kiss it then flip it over and kiss your own hand while looking her in the eyes. Boom. Magic.

iKill_eu · 2013-10-21T07:50:39+00:00

If I had to give a tip, don't be afraid to make overtly sexual jokes about the two of you. Make it obvious that you're kiiiiinda joking, and make it light (don't tell her about how you're going to be doing her in the urethra with a penis extender later).

jamespet · 2013-10-21T11:10:32+00:00

you probably back off when you feel tension yourself.. so for example..you go to touch her..and you feel the tension so you stop. Or you go to speak your mind and disagree with her, but you feel the tension and stop..just flow naturally..if you feel the tension..keep it there..mix up her emotions, speak from the heart, touch her right from the start and ure all good

jmikolash · 2013-10-21T15:53:16+00:00

Speak to stimulate. You know that thing in your head that you're scared to say? Say that shit.

Sr_Wafffles · 2013-10-21T03:46:12+00:00

Do NoFap for at least a week and you'll naturally start showing some serious intent. After a while of this you'll get the feel for what it's like.

Some other tips (this one is tough, it is somewhat subtle and abstract) are to not shy away from sexual topics. Also, do NOT NOT NOT be judgmental about ANYTHING sexual...besides rape. Do not be ashamed of your own sexuality but don't just throw it out there, let there be a hint of mystery.

thesupreme333 · 2013-10-21T07:19:39+00:00

Today at work I was standing around waiting for a delivery when a Co worker I'm attracted to was nearby. I motion her over and simply say "talk dirty to me". She wasn't initially paying too much attention (looking in another direction as she walked towards me) but as soon as I said that she rapidly turned, made strong eye contact and smiled as she playfully slapped me on the arm. She walked away afterwards, smiling the whole time.

Make sex references would be my advice. Sometimes just shamelessly say something over the top to see where you stand.

bob020 · 2013-10-21T04:41:01+00:00

Do it with a boner?

Afeni02 · 2013-10-21T02:54:37+00:00

I especially have trouble with people that I already know that I have met in a 'normal' context where there was no implied tension.

Make your intentions clear from the get go, friends or nothing. Also, Escalate and/or Direct Game.

nivar · 2013-10-21T18:14:02+00:00

my 2cents, sexual intent is not shown by words. most of them are shown through kino, body language, voice, tone, the words you use, seductive smile, seductive eye contact.

readonlyuser · 2013-10-21T17:38:43+00:00

EYE CONTACT. PROXIMITY. TOUCHING. SEXUAL MISINTERPRETATION/JOKES. SMILE.

2013-10-21T03:34:49+00:00

talk to girls like you're better than they are. don't be an asshole about it, keep it light and playful. if a girl assumes you to be of a higher social status than herself and you show sexual interest, she'll likely reciprocate.

L1AM · 2013-10-21T05:12:28+00:00

I feel like the easiest way to create sexual tension is to talk about (at least vaguely) sexual topics. I've used this one before and it certainly adjusts the frame each time:

Do you know why girls like abs so much? Turns out they're the key muscles in thrusting during sex.

Prereq: have some semblance of abs to show them or subtly suggest at. This'll get them thinking about abs, then your abs, then what your abs are good for.

e: why does this have so many down votes? Talking about sexual topics is certainly an easy way to create sexual tension...

L1AM · 2013-10-21T03:13:21+00:00

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Title	The way I talk to women is too 'friendly' and does not communicate sexual tension. How can this be fixed?
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Date	October 21, 2013 1:39 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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