A simple belief.. true or false?

rawbface · 2017-03-06T14:24:30+00:00

"Be yourself" is incomplete. It should be "Be your BEST self". As in, the best version of yourself you can be. The advice is meant for people who think they are so unlikeable that they try to act like someone else who is likeable, and fail because everything they say will be insincere. Be true to yourself, your likes and dislikes, your morals and values, etc. But clean yourself up, take care of your health, maintain an active lifestyle, and project positivity. To me I think that's what "be yourself" has always meant.

HiImALocalThrowaway · 2017-03-06T14:18:24+00:00

You are completely correct. The 'JBY' line is used by people who don't really know what it means as a meaningless sentence that somehow is suppose to help others.

Anyway how can you not be yourself? Get a new body? New mind? You can't do that. You are yourself and that's the fact. What you need to do is be comfortable with that fact. Accept it as your friend and utilize it for your own good. Focus on things you love, accept and laugh at your flaws like they're nothing.

What's making you likeable in 'JBY' is having yourself figured out: Knowing who you are and what you want. That is one of the most attractive traits you can have. Fantastic work on figuring this on your own, you're en route to being the person you always wanted to be but never knew who he was.

_TurnuptheSun_ · 2017-03-06T15:03:26+00:00

You're heading in the right direction (Med school? Jesus). You've obviously been working hard on yourself, and it won't be long before you start reaping the rewards of those efforts in game.

Something to always bear in mind is that if you're a guy who takes action and regularly pushes himself out of his comfort zone, you become a higher value man, and women are attracted to high-value men. By default, guys like that are comfortable with themselves, so when they interact with women, they reflect that natural confidence. This is the difference between "natural" game, and all that peacocky/magic trick bullshit that most guys think is seduction.

I would recommend getting stuck into RSD Max's stuff on natural game, it'll give you the tools you need to start applying your mindset to game in a more concrete way. This video is really long, but he shows you how to develop natural game that is congruent with your personality: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b5mFl7ov5xk

t1mman · 2017-03-06T16:24:01+00:00

“Just be yourself” should be “Just try to be your best self”

You must accept your limitation, like having brown eyes or being some height. You *must push your limits * where you can, constant evolution, constantly bettering yourself in any way you can. You’re not gonna grow an inch no matter what you do, but eating fast food and playing MMORPG all week end is just being a sloth.

BTW: Intro-extroversion is a spectrum. You might like some things by yourself while having social needs.

1z1z2x2x3c3c4v4v · 2017-03-06T17:19:41+00:00

Just being yourself and learning how to :

talk to girls, asking for numbers, asking her out, and flirting and physically escalating...are two completely different things.

Any guy can learn these things. But only you can be you... See?

failatsomething · 2017-03-06T17:27:14+00:00

"Just be yourself" is good if you are old and wise and truly comfortable with who you are - your values, priorities, behaviors.

Just be yourself means being who you are at your core, past all the social-conditioned shitty exterior.

It's really hard to break down these walls and face who you are. When you do, then being yourself is attractive. You can be honest with you and with others. Others crave this honesty because it is rare.

You're part way there OP. Meditation is great. So is fucking, when you get around to it :) Both are great practice for staying in the moment, which is an effect of this honesty I talk about.

theslimshadi · 2017-03-06T16:37:18+00:00

Jesus youre 23 and done with medical school??

Sunbeamdreaming · 2017-03-06T18:30:59+00:00

Be yourself actually means be the best you🕵 not don't try hard. It's like a test of some kind. It serves to give you the confidence to be honest with yourself and those around you, and if you are living a lie you'll find someone who you can't stand because they like someone you aren't, you are still being judged so don't just be casual be yourself but the best version of you.

psyocal · 2017-03-06T20:12:25+00:00

Being comfortable with yourself is the best. You will come off extremely relaxed, approachable and you won't spark up any dangerous flags in their heads.

And it will work with everyone, not just women. Being comfortable with yourself is what true confidence is.

recyclablebanthas · 2017-03-07T04:15:28+00:00

I'll never believe 'Just Be Yourself' line,

if being myself automatically made me likeable, I'd be getting quality girls in swarms.

How about the advice givers start saying "Be comfortable with yourself", instead of "JBY", and let them work on it?

Yeah, this is one of those things that gets distorted as people pass the advice around. People have mistook it to mean, "Don't change anything and dump your neuroses all over people."

When really, "be" in the sense of JBY, is referring to the zen definition of the word. "Being" in the sense of true acceptance. Which you don't have if anxiety, self-doubt, and other negative emotions are creepying into your inner monologue as you interact with people.

..... quality girls in swarms.

Also, you ought to get over this mindset. "Quality" is a subjective thing.

Aeon199 · 2017-03-07T06:42:36+00:00

What if you got a degree in candle-making instead? Would you tell yourself, "I'm not good enough for women, therefore I must go and get another degree for a well-paid field, so I can impress them"

I don't like the Red Pill strain I see here, that only ambitious guys can get women. I feel like anyone who believes the "Cracked.com" article is the only way to get women, should simply move to another sub, so I don't have to put up with that thinking anymore.

If it works for you, good. "Damn you're so fucking amazing" is what I'd say. Good for you.

But worldly success is far from the only way to get women. We need to support seduction for all types, including the learning-challenged, socially anxious, mildly autistic.. everyone. Not just those who can "become a physician" because that Cracked.com article says you either aim high, or forget about women. I'm so tired of that, man!

woocheese · 2017-03-06T20:00:27+00:00

Don't panic about being a Virgin at 23. Honestly you will meet plenty of women the more time passes. I met more women after being a student then when I was.

Don't play a character, don't play a game. However be aware of how you make others feel, if you come on too strong pull back etc.

You may be a late bloomer but don't beat yourself up. Plenty of people don't get laid until they are in there mid 20's. Seriously. Don't panic.

Title	A simple belief.. true or false?
Author	arvind1993
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Date	March 6, 2017 1:07 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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