"You're a really good listener"; how do I introduce sexuality and attractiveness into conversation?

Psych40 · 2014-08-09T20:31:28+00:00

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highhopes01 · 2014-08-09T21:59:59+00:00

Instant sexual conversation? Bring up Fifty Shades of Grey..

I am serious.

admirals_go_nuts · 2014-08-10T02:56:20+00:00

Kino and smirking

xray777 · 2014-08-10T05:10:03+00:00

You aren't building value.

Women don't get wet for a man who is fun to talk to. They go for men who demonstrate higher value. Are you a leader? Are you strong/can you protect her? Could you provide for her (feed her)? Do others desire you/follow you?

This is what causes attraction for a woman.

recyclablebantha · 2014-08-10T10:20:51+00:00

Mostly these girls I know/meet in university so it's not like from the beginning out relationship is sort of sexual (as it would be if we met at a bar for example).

There's nothing about meeting someone at university that limits or inhibits the way the relationship has to start out. This is in your head.

When I hang out with them, we have great conversation and I am letting them talk but also putting some good content out myself. Definitely good conversation. But I can never get them to think of me sexually despite being confident, etc. what can I do? I try kino and I do succeed in touching them but I can never really escalate too much.

....how do I introduce sexuality and attractiveness into conversation?

You don't need to introduce these things into conversation.

It's kino, man. The fact that you're having trouble/awkwardness in escalating is the issue here, not a lack in talking about sex. You can "talk" sex all day and it won't get you anywhere unless you can physically get in there in a comfortable way. And you can escalate physically without a damn word being necessary. (It's possible to get a girl to agree to go home with you without words, let alone without words that could be considered sexual.)

I try kino and I do succeed in touching them but I can never really escalate too much.

If we want to get at the real issue here, you need to elaborate on what's going wrong with this part.

IpickupGrandmothers · 2014-08-10T12:58:20+00:00

Introducing sexuality comes from your vibe. It's not the things that you're doing, but the person that you are.

Sexuality should be introduced right from the beginning. Even a simple "hello" can carry a massive amount of sexual energy.

Ask yourself this. When I'm talking to a girl, am I just trying to hold a conversation? Am I just trying to look good or not get rejected? Or am I actually trying to date or fuck her?

ivyembrace · 2014-08-11T04:14:00+00:00

Ask them if they are lonely and explain how lonely you can be sometimes and a womans affection can be the only thing that makes life worthwhile and that youll listen to her as long as she likes whether or not she shows you affection but it is a big desire in the back of your mind especially her attention. Keep trying this same tactic until you find a warm affectionate girl or the same one warms up she eventually will.

Title	"You're a really good listener"; how do I introduce sexuality and attractiveness into conversation?
Author	blkorcut
Upvotes	7
Comments	16
Date	August 9, 2014 8:06 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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