3 First Date Rules That Make You Or Break You

chriscalo123 · 2011-01-04T00:25:42+00:00

Something's suspicious when this has an immediate 40+ upvotes within 4 hours when other stories have 6... maybe 7.

Oh, not to mention the site is filled with advertisement.

hadees · 2011-01-03T22:50:08+00:00

I like how he was voted "Australian's top Asian pickup artist". Could they come up with a even narrower award? What about Australian's top Asian left handed scorpio pickup artist.

drakkar4 · 2011-01-04T01:58:55+00:00

Why does this blog spam keep winding up at the top of seddit?

seddit_throwaway1010 · 2011-01-04T06:42:38+00:00

Thanks. I think these dating tips will help with my first after-children dates with my wife of 10 years.

impotent_rage · 2011-01-05T01:45:08+00:00

I didn't even notice that this might be spam...have we found a way to game reddit? I thought that wasn't possible?

Well, regardless, I would like to see more talk within pickup communities about how to date, and not just how to cold approach. Does it do you any good to generate attraction if you don't know what to do with her once you've got your chance?

Here's another tip to add to the list -

Bring her into your world

Dates aren't just about fun activities, they are about further demonstrating your value to her. You want to solidify the idea that you will take her on all sorts of fun adventures and introduce her to all sorts of cool things and expand her horizons far beyond what she'd experience on her own without you.

Are you from a different culture/country/ethnicity than her? Take her to a restaurant that serves authentic food from your culture - the sort of restaurant that a white person would first, never find, and second, would never be able to figure out the menu on their own. Help her choose the best of what your local cuisine has to offer.

Are you from the ghetto while she's a sheltered white girl from the suburbs? Take her someplace that she'll see as edgy, slightly dangerous, etc - like a seedy bar with "street" patrons (but you're right there by her side to "protect" her and make sure she receives no unwanted attention!) or the like.

Or are you the upperclass sheltered white boy from a background of privilege, and she's the one lower on the socioeconomic ladder? Ok, take her to your big company event, the one where they rent out a ballroom in a hotel and spare no expense (ok most companies don't do this any more, this might have been a good tip for the 90's).

Are you into raves? Take her to one. Give her glowsticks and glow bracelets to wear when you get there. If she's openminded enough, get her some good E and take it together.

Do you love jazz? Or the symphony? Or broadway plays? Take her to the best of whatever you are into. Introduce her to something she might not already know about.

Are you from somewhere cool? Take her to New Orleans for a weekend trip and show her all the awesome places that only the locals know.

Do you have an awesome hobby? Do you know cool people? Build a date out of it. Take her camping, impress her by your ability to build a fire/pitch a tent/or other woodsman skills which I obviously know nothing about.

Hell, if it's with the right confidence, you could even take her to a football game and explain the rules of the game to her as you watch.

You get the point. Ask yourself the question - "What adventures and new experiences can I offer to a girl? What fun new things can she experience with me that she might not be exposed to on her own? And how can I build that into a date or something we can do together?"

chriscalo123 · 2011-01-04T03:01:58+00:00

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alexryane · 2011-01-04T01:18:59+00:00

WTF? Just take her to a bar or two, anything else is excessive. Save this level of planning until you're fucking.

Cafe? Museum!? You can't make out in a fucking museum.

afcanonymous · 2011-01-04T03:53:29+00:00

Really? Pay for everything? Is this guy made of cash?

At 2-4 dates per week, I'd be broke constantly if I paid for everything.

blarb · 2011-01-03T23:46:05+00:00

Good read, thank you.

asoap · 2011-01-03T21:08:27+00:00

This is an awesome article. Some of the best first dates I've had have followed these rules. Importantly the mulitple mini dates. I remember jumping from a comfy bar to a jazz place and me and her play fighting over who gets to pay for parking. Somehow paying for parking became the highlight of the night for me.

cowsaint · 2011-01-03T20:15:34+00:00

cool nice share

Title	3 First Date Rules That Make You Or Break You
Author	theasianplayboy
Upvotes	30
Comments	42
Date	January 3, 2011 7:26 PM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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