Tips on girls who play hard to get

TofuTofu · 2011-01-13T23:18:50+00:00

Seddit is not about "getting that one girl." Trust in the material and keep an abundance mentality and you'll see your results improve.

Are you a value giver or taker? How are you enriching her life?

My guess is 'not giving value' is your greatest sticking point with this girl. You are placing her on a pedestal and trying to take value from her. Learn to be a value giver and you'll find girls play hard-to-get a lot less often.

Good luck.

2011-01-14T01:17:05+00:00

I'm trying my hardest not to ASK her to come over

ok, so don't ask her to come over, tell her to come over. Just say something like "hey I'm going watch this really cool movie tonight, come over and watch it with me. Oh and btw bring a six pack."

Then watch the movie with her, hopefully something that's mildly entertaining but not too gripping (no oscar winners here) drink some beers and kino escalate.

philosarapter · 2011-01-14T16:58:05+00:00

Before she comes over, text alot of your female friends so that they'll respond during your hang out time... let your phone out in the open so she can see you have some missed texts and calls from girls names.

Change things to your terms. If she wants to hang out, let her know you are busy, even if you arent. Then tell her when she needs to come over. When you are about to kiss her, stop before you do, back off and tell her "Nuh uh uh... I'm not that easy." She's used to guys pursuing her, be the guy that doesn't fall for her little game. Have something of value that she wants. Preferably you. Reinforce in her mind that she wants you. Reinforce in your mind that she wants you.

Remember: You want to build her up, but stop just short of the peak and pull away, leaving her wanting more. Then after she comes after you, you accept it and build her up again... stopping short again. Repeat this process with rapport, sexual tension, and all other interactions. Cut your conversations short (tell a really interesting story and then stop right before the epic conclusion, give her a "to be continued..."). Always leave her wanting more.

Its gonna be tough for both of you to hold back what you really want to do, but with hard to get girls, you gotta play along with their game. Give her the challenge she can't find in other men.

But eventually she'll cave in and once the dam of sexual tension erupts, it'll be a fucking waterfall.

mPUA_2B · 2011-01-13T23:19:12+00:00

Two words ... Cave mann!!!

chumpta · 2011-01-13T23:20:24+00:00

isnt that all of them?

silencegold · 2011-01-13T23:37:44+00:00

I would try being quiet to her for a week - see if she ever contact you. You want to turn the table on her.

07SS · 2011-01-14T04:03:32+00:00

I would say to back off and let her think that you don't need her, because in the end, you don't. You have many options, and she's just lucky enough to be in contact with you.

Only problem is... sometimes they don't come back. But if you think about it, that's probably for the better in the long run anyways.

Good luck

2011-01-14T17:34:42+00:00

maybe your problem is too much pre-date communication. i have a rule where i will spend a maximum of maybe 4 texts and 1 10-minute phone call before i go out with a girl.

generally i will call, and if she answers, ask her out then. if she doesn't answer or i have a suspicion she will respond better to text, i will ask her out within the first 3 texts.

OnionSandwich · 2011-01-13T23:01:53+00:00

Don't trip on your dick. That's her job.

Dyvyant · 2011-01-14T08:28:59+00:00

Dude, don't play her game. It's obvious she's into you at least a little and you've made it (perhaps a little too) obvious you're into her.

This "playing coy" game can be fun when both parties know it's just that - a game. Yet you are actually getting frustrated with it. Next time she tries to taunt you about you wanting it more just reply with "Look, if you want to come over here and hang out, cool. We'll do it. Otherwise I've got other things to do, and I need to make my plans."

And, most importantly...if she then DOESN'T come...then do those other things. Pardon my French, but "Don't put the pussy on a pedestal."

TheDragonzord · 2011-01-14T02:01:13+00:00

Have you tried being yourself?

Title	Tips on girls who play hard to get
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Date	January 13, 2011 10:46 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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