I have two other threads I made if you want the whole story of my week.

This is my FR meeting her for the second time Monday and getting a kiss (my first) on the way out. This is my FR having a different girl over to my place to cook dinner wherein I push forward and get makeouts and grabby with this chick

There's kind of a reason tonight may not have been very impressive 'feat', though I'm pretty happy with how I did in general. Still counts! Not a virgin anymore! Read on...

I met her at Ikea to check out furniture as I'm working on furnishing my new place and "want a female opinion." Honestly, this time I wasn't really feeling the Ikea date. I wasn't really pumped or in-state...I found myself being kinda boring and not too playful. It was kind of crowded and maybe I'm a bit uncomfortable gaming in bright lights around other people. I was kinda slow getting started with the other girl in the last date as well. Maybe I need to look into ways to get into state beforehand.

We get out of there and drive up to my place. Back to my place, we pop in a horror movie and begin watching. We each drink about 2 beers during the movie. No kisses yet.

I remember a smooth move I had thought of earlier. She had mentioned she makes her own jewelry and was working on some earrings. I texted her about an hour before the date telling her to wear some of those earrings as I was interested in checking them out. So, a little after the movie starts, I say, "hey I wanted to see those earrings. Are wearing them?" So she starts showing me the one closest to me. My plan was hopefully she would show both and I'd have a chance to reach across, touch the far one, then caress her hair, then kiss, but it got so fucked! She only showed the close one, I think my appropriate arm was around her, or in between - I couldn't naturally use it for this. So I ask, "are they both the same?" (hahah wtffffffuuuu!) and do the reach across anyway in a really awkward manner. She laughs and I go in for the kiss from afar. Got a good makeout. Then she's like, "that was smooth!" I'm like, "nope it wasn't." She says, "Yeah that was awful" I just laugh it off like it doesn't bother me. It doesn't really. It was funny and fun.

Anyways, we do what I think is standard make-outs (didn't need any moves..just went in and got it when I wanted it) and petting the whole movie with her sighing sexily and grabbing me a lot. I didn't do anything fancy all night - just kept moving forward - escalating. At one point she resisted me rubbing between her legs then up to her crotch subtly. That's all the resistance I got all night. Next, I take her upstairs to my room.

So we're getting hot and heavy, taking off some clothes, she says something like, "How far did you want to go?" which is weird, right? Like there's a menu. I think for a second...people in the last threads were saying how I might want to mention the v-business and frame it like I've been picky. So I just change the subject...I thought this was relevant, "So, you might find this surprising and or novel, but I have not done this before." She fucking JUMPS off me (thought I was fucked here...in a not-fucking sort of way) and goes, "WHAT?? Are you fucking with me??" "Nope. I used to be pretty shy, now I'm not, but I've always been picky. You're pretty cool."

She's still kinda flipping out and away from me, so I ask what the huge deal is. Apparently she's a recovered sex-addict and this is going against some arbitrary rules she has now in order to be a "good girl." She mentions something about not sleeping with guys until the 5th date or later (umm this was the 3rd and we were about to fuck...now the virgin thing changes something?) and also something about virgins...like she used to go after them before. Honestly, I'm not sure. I had a big erection and was not following.

So we're having this conversation, I'd gotten her back next to me and am slightly rubbing her a bit again. I tell her that if she's really got this addiction problem and whatever we'd do together would be bad for her, I wouldn't want to do that. She starts giving me a BJ since we weren't going to have sex she said. Huzzah! At least a BJ (another first!) I'm thinking. I guess that's within her guidelines if we stop there.

She's sucking and I'm hearing her start to do the sexy moan again like she loves it. Then she's like, "ok get your condom, we're having sex....I really want to" :P I ask her again if she's sure about that because I don't want to be a part of making her have a problem again and she says she's sure. So, I dunno...now I'm wondering if I shouldn't have listened and just stopped. Fuckin' ethics.

So we have sex. Not gonna go much into it. I did not squirt in 2 pumps. I'm pretty bad at certain things, but now she knows I'm a virgin, she's instructing me. Ehhh....kinda emasculating, but yeah, I would have really fucked it up more than I did if she hadn't been. Good learning experience! Learn from a pro! I also finger her, then I hoped against all hopes that if I put my juicy finger near her mouth that she'd suck on it, so I gave it a shot and came back a winner!

We were 'tender' in bed for a pretty long while, then about at 1 am she says she's gotta go. Apparently dad is very strict (another girl living at home for me.....). Kisses and stuff. Things are nice. She's not acting like she messed up. I dunno where this relationship might go. I feel like I'm pretty squarely in beta-ville now because of how she took charge in bed. I like her, I'll see where it goes, but I'm not hooked on her or anything. From what she said, it seems she's trying to have normal relations and not slut around like she may have before. The other girl I'm seeing may be more GF material...though I'm not positive I want that right now.

Anyway, I'm finding that I'm almost not nervous at all with this girl. I felt pretty good with the other girl too. I was kinda wound up before a date, and I was a bit uptight about talking about the virgin thing, but once things got rolling, I wasn't worried. Pretty psyched about that. It lets my confidence show through easily....because I am confident! Pretty stoked it seems my past AFC doesn't come through. Telling the girl about my v-card literally knocked her on her ass.

I don't think I'm gonna FR about straight dates and particularly sex stuff anymore. I think whatever interest people might have had in these three FRs was about my quick arc from first kiss to first bone, and that's done. If I have some awesome move in the future, or something crazy rad happen, or I get into sarging/club game, I might mention it, but no more stories. I don't feel great detailing this private date stuff without the girl being in on it even though she's anonymous (me as well).

tl;dr - lost my virginity to a (recovered?) sex addict.

EDIT: She just texted me this morning saying we have to hang out again because she left her earrings at my place. Hahah. Pretty sure that was on purpose.