Seddit.. I am normally pretty good at talking to girls but.. I just saw a girl who I think is "the one" and i literally can't say one word to her.

nihckered · 2012-08-27T14:03:57+00:00

It happens to the best of us. We think this girl is the bomb and we don't want to mess it up so we freeze up and don't act how we normally do. She probably would be attracted to you if you just acted normally. Just treat her like any other girl because you don't want to put her on a pedestal, that will pretty much guarantee a loss.

Yeah yeah, easier said than done. Just realize that shes a girl just like everyone else. She poops in the same toilet as every girl. She farts just like every other person. She throws up when she drinks too much, etc.

itsmevichet · 2012-08-27T15:07:30+00:00

The fact that you met a stranger and think she might be "the one" is indicative of how far you have to go.

There is no "the one." She's a girl. Talk to her. Find out about her. Be your cool self.

Just a girl, OP. Nothing more.

Also, read this article about oneitis and this article about how to ask a girl out on my blog, Table Theory.

2012-08-27T18:16:24+00:00

Happy fapping!

2012-08-27T19:05:41+00:00

You don't know her and you think she's 'the one'. I think you have to tackle that problem first...

SincereSamsara · 2012-08-27T14:00:23+00:00

Get to know her friends, if they help you out chances are she's into you as well. It will be kinda awkward at first but it's already awkward.

blitzik · 2012-08-27T22:01:30+00:00

I see another "the hottest girl I've ever seen" probably every other week. It's not that special, and you'll never know if she's the one unless you talk to her like she's a human being and find out. You might not even like her personality.

UnapologeticalyAlive · 2012-08-27T15:14:13+00:00

Easy solution: say one word to her. Done.

Seriously, next time you find yourself in this situation, remember this moment and think about how much you're gonna regret it if you stay quiet again.

ominous_anonymous · 2012-08-27T19:40:23+00:00

How is she the "one" if you can't even talk to her?

2012-08-27T19:53:51+00:00

Hesitation leads to masturbation, my friend.

sivin96 · 2012-08-27T15:30:06+00:00

There is no 'the one' at first sight.

Approach her like you would any girl.

frifri · 2012-08-27T17:17:17+00:00

She is NOT the one

WolfInTheField · 2012-08-27T20:58:37+00:00

I had something very similar not long ago, OP, and what I did was this: put it in perspective. Retreat for a few days and think it over. Then return and see whether you can deal with it. Seriously man, she's just some girl, you have to consider the possibility that all of this is in your head, and hardly at all related to who she is.

stephylococcus · 2012-08-27T21:54:19+00:00

aww that's sweet. but you don't know her. just keep conversation really neutral to start with (perhaps you like the same tv programmes, or games, or sports?). be disciplined with yourself. think about what you are going to say beforehand so you won't choke. take a deep breath and just do it.

2012-08-27T22:38:02+00:00

Maybe I'm just an anti-romantic but in my opinion. Nobody is 'the one' that sort of decision takes time.

2012-08-28T02:39:50+00:00

Oh yeah that happens. Just gotta control your behavior better in the future.

LoftyDaDan · 2012-08-28T06:59:30+00:00

The reason why you freeze up when you talk to her is because you've put too much weight on your interactions with her. Do what everyone else in the thread has been saying and realize that she's not a goddess.

dxdifr · 2012-08-28T22:19:10+00:00

Imagine 300 "the ones" in line behind her waiting to talk to you, because you are a fucking superstar.

Title	Seddit.. I am normally pretty good at talking to girls but.. I just saw a girl who I think is "the one" and i literally can't say one word to her.
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Upvotes	16
Comments	27
Date	August 27, 2012 12:47 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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