Turning the conversation sexual?

nobody2000 · 2013-03-11T17:13:15+00:00

This is one thing I'm actually good at.

First thing is to understand that women want sex, and many women will want to have sex with you, but only if they feel comfortable (this is why we always talk about value).

How do I make things comfortable? Easy - witty and cheesy jokes.

The easiest "trick" that I can provide is to repackage "That's what she said."

I was on a first date with a girl I recently f-closed and we were at the bowling alley. There are always opportunities here of all places to drop this line. Heavy balls, slipping your fingers in...you'd be hard pressed to NOT find an opportunity.

So I think she said something to the effect of "Your ball is too big" (she required a light ball, mine was heavy).

..."I've heard that before." and don't forget: SMILE, EYE CONTACT

Here's what you're doing:

Being funny. Everyone appreciates humor.
Throwing her off guard. Teasing someone for a verbal slip up is harmless flirting/teasing. It helps break down her exterior so she can open up to you.
If you smile with eye contact, you are communicating that you're a sexual person. Buried deep in the joke, she's asking herself 'maybe he HAS heard that before!'

Don't overuse it, and definitely don't waste it on a stretch. Use it on an obvious opportunity. You can help facilitate these opportunities by moving the subject to where innuendos are brought up (which is pretty much...everything). Most of all, make sure you phrase is "I've heard that before" (as "that's what she said" is just a lame joke people attribute to Michael Scott).

It's always left me satisfied and smiling...

EDIT - When you drop a few of these, keep calm and kino on...

sdf1 · 2013-03-11T15:42:24+00:00

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throwaway_casanova · 2013-03-11T16:56:19+00:00

It's just like anything else, just do it, but be playful and fun about it. Women generally like to be hit on and also like sex, so just say it with a smile. One tip I've found is to find something unique about her and say you heard girls like that are dirty. For example,

Her: So yeah I spend a lot of weekends working on my pottery.

You: Really? I know this is strange but every girl I've met who's been into pottery has been an absolute freak in bed. What's the connection?

I've only done this one a few times but reactions run from "it's true, we are" to just blushing and an eye roll but definitely not a rejection. Also it allows her to continue talking about pottery or diverge into sex talk depending on what she's more comfortable with.

itsmevichet · 2013-03-11T18:29:53+00:00

I have a hard time turning things sexual

I have a hard time turning things sexual, too.

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... just kidding. Anyway, a part of it may be because you're not talking to the girl as if she's someone you could have sex with.

You're likely talking to a lot of women like they're girls you're going to be polite to and never see again.

I'm not saying that you should get invested as if "she's the one."

I'm just saying that you should pursue the possibility of sex. Instead of being polite and even-keeled, you should be flirting and joking, testing the water to see if she's receptive. And, of course, kino.

If she's game, escalate.

kabrandon · 2013-03-11T16:42:44+00:00

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rucron · 2013-03-11T17:24:48+00:00

The best way to sexualize an interaction with a woman is not through words but actions. Look up the DeCarlo escalation ladder and follow that. Once you've broken the kissing "threshold" things will already be sexual.

NutPunchingIsAnArt · 2013-03-11T19:20:45+00:00

In my experience, you can set a sexual vibe very subtly. A calm centered demeanor, strong eye contact, no fear in touch and enough comfort to have your face right up to theirs, no hesitation at a loud venue in grabbing her head/face when you speak into her ear, no hesitation in grabbing her hips to move her closer to you when you want to speak into her ear...and the vibe can generate without you having to verbally communicate it. Of course, if something sexual crosses your mind no hesitation expressing it in a normal non-creepy no-big-deal matter-of-fact manner.

railmaniac · 2013-03-12T02:51:16+00:00

"... And speaking of the Roman Civilization, how would you like my penis inside your vagina?"

rebuildingMyself · 2013-03-12T09:55:11+00:00

What happened with me the last few times was luck, honestly. She had a freudian slip and I teased her about it. Giggles, blushing, and whatnot was a natural reaction.

AtheistAgnostic · 2013-03-12T14:07:48+00:00

"hey sexy"

voila

deli_lama · 2013-03-12T15:12:15+00:00

Shit! I hope I'm not too late here.

I asked this question on another subreddit, but I think it belongs here.

I'm a tall, decent looking guy. Sometimes, when I'm in the club dancing by myself, I'll see a woman slowly dance over so that she's directly in front of me, facing away (with her ass towards me, which makes me hornier, but I digress). She'll be about 1 - 2 feet max away. There will even be some eye contact (she'll turn around and smile for a second).

This is when I don't know what to do. I want to do something to express interest, but don't want to get slapped :D

How can I express sexual interest without coming off as a creep? I'm new to this (back in the dating game after 10 year relationship). Thanks in advance!

ysef95 · 2013-03-11T20:21:58+00:00

my main point for this is in the general idea to just always say what you want and not give zero fucks. Its creepy if you make it but if you have rock solid balls and go out and say it then it wont be. So hold that eye contact keep that back straight and just go for it you are a lion :D

CuilRunnings · 2013-03-11T20:26:43+00:00

Test for compliance first.

Valman · 2013-03-11T21:47:43+00:00

It's not about turning the conversation sexual. In fact the opposite. All the sexual messaging taking place should be non-verbal until you're actually in the act..

Shpirt · 2013-03-11T15:55:48+00:00

(Offtopic) After reading thread about female masturbation I don't more call asexual objects "furniture".

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Title	Turning the conversation sexual?
Author	ADK89
Upvotes	165
Comments	47
Date	March 11, 2013 3:21 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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