Does it matter why you're rejected?

roadywan · 2013-10-22T23:37:49+00:00

No, it doesn't matter. Forget about trying to discover the root of the reasoning. Its a waste of your time and potential. Pondering the failed events of the night serves no other purpose than to add fuel to a possible AA fire.

Keep in mind, whatever your approach/line/opener is, you're repeatedly posing a question to the target. So regardless of whatever it is you're saying or doing, the question pouring forth from your mouth is "Yes?" The goal, of course, is to garner a response of "Yes".

Taking it down to brass tacks, whatever her reaction, reason, or response, that is the answer to the question at hand. If it's immediately "No", write it off as a miss. Don't forget, you're probably in a target-rich environment. No need to waste your ammo on a long shot.

Note: The answer should be considered fluid and dynamic in that you have to make an effort to keep it from changing to "No"

2013-10-23T01:27:19+00:00

There is no such thing as rejection, only misunderstandings. I reflect but never dwell- abundance mentality!!

joshsway · 2013-10-23T00:45:13+00:00

What they SAY doesn't matter. If you can somehow figure out the real reason, then yea, it's useful information to have.

puntingbaxter · 2013-10-22T21:43:38+00:00

For whatever reason women think lying or leading someone on is less hurtful than the truth.

Hilarious, when the most common reply for whats most important in a relationship is honesty.

Mouthpiece · 2013-10-23T01:46:45+00:00

Yes, it matters why. No, it doesn't matter what she TELLS you is why.

Splatterh0use · 2013-10-23T05:26:30+00:00

Those are some of the stupidest and childish excuses I've ever heard in my life. That doesn't even make sense because they are already represent some prejudice towards you, probably by some retarded and underdeveloped women that will always have excuses in their life to justify their immaturity. If a girl pulls out any of these excuse or something similar without knowing you or without even going at least on one date, they truly are hopeless cases. It also seems that lately some people have been having issue with socializing face to face, probably because they spend so much time interacting through social sites that reality for them is becoming difficult to deal with, and probably they develop personality challenges and incompatibilities leading to pity excuses.

LiftBodyUpThenDown · 2013-10-22T21:56:16+00:00

To answer your question, yeah it matters why you're rejected. If you know why you're rejected by a girl, it gives you the opportunity to understand how you can be accepted by a girl. Onto your examples...

The first one sounds like a stupid bitch.

The second one sounds like she actually just finds me unattractive.

The third one sounds like she actually just finds me unattractive.

HappyJerk · 2013-10-23T02:45:01+00:00

Here's the thing OP. Women are driven by very powerful instinctual subconscious emotions. If those instincts are in your favor then you're good to go, if not there is nothing you can do. You see women with men that are "wrong" for them all the time - its because their emotions pushed them into that situation even though they are getting fucked.

So, in a sense, it doesn't matter. You aren't activating these strong emotions so these women are just making excuses for not dating you.

But here's the real question: why are you asking them to date you? You shouldn't be asking women to date you. You should be telling them. You don't ever want to give a woman an opportunity to reject you, because she will take it, even if she likes you. You're better off keeping women in a state where they are constantly worried about YOU rejecting them. You should make them feel like they are lucky to be in your presence and it could end at any time. Yeah, I know, if you''re not used to doing that it sounds crazy, and it's a tough balance to strike, but that's the definition of an alpha male.

Those emotions hijack their logical brain and make them do things that they logically shouldn't or wouldn't do.

ZiRALiX · 2013-10-25T07:52:46+00:00

It does if there's a pattern.

kingcal · 2013-10-23T02:52:24+00:00

If it's a girl you've just cold approached and she immediately blows you out it doesn't matter. There are a million things that could've influenced her decision and you have control over almost none of them. Worry about why some random girl rejected you will only drive you insane.

In your examples, with girls you've apparently taken the time to get to know at least a bit, it may be relevant.

The first girl told you she didn't want to date because of your diet. Being a vegan, she probably has a very ethical reasoning for being so. This is a basic case of incompatibility. Nothing to worry about.

Second girl is just giving a bullshit answer. Ignore it.

The last girl has her reason, and whether you agree with it or not, you don't fulfill the requirement. Maybe the girl wants her space to do her own shit without a guy always around.

In these cases, you can't control why they've rejected you, but you do have to keep an ear open for honest criticism. For a long time, my social life struggled. I thought I was joking around with people, and I never understood why they thought I was an asshole. For awhile I blew it off. "I don't need to change for anybody. I'm fine the way I am." Then I realize after some honest talks with my best friend that I was just making people uncomfortable by routinely crossing lines with them and my jokes. I started being careful about what I said and my social life is much better. It's the same with girls.

If a girl says she's breaking up with you because you're too needy, clingy, possessive, jealous, aloof, etc... It's probably a spot on judgement of how she feels you treat her, and these are negative personality traits that need to be corrected.

Title	Does it matter why you're rejected?
Author	uber_kerbonaut
Upvotes	16
Comments	44
Date	October 22, 2013 9:15 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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