An example of maintaining investment in yourself (read description first).

46xy · 2013-11-15T20:43:30+00:00

I think you come off as needy to be honest.

rusty84 · 2013-11-15T22:36:51+00:00

TIPS This is a bit harsh, but I want you guys to succeed with women.

NEVER start a facebook chat with a girl you have never had a conversation (or only talked to once, and it didn't go too good) asking her to meet up somewhere. Thats creepy, and of course she is going to turn you down! Either send a 'Hey,' but know that she will only respond if she is interested in you, and you have a low chance of actually getting a response if you just barely know each other. OR, send her a custom message with something that is funny, or something that is relevant to her.
> Oh you know not much, just writing the next philosophical master piece for my ethics class, and asking out the pretty girls in my spare time...the usual That is wrong on so many levels. One, in all honesty, she could not care less what you are doing. Two, you put her on a pedestal by saying insinuating she is pretty. What you should've done: made the conversation about her. Girls like to talk about themselves. Get her to tell you story from the place she works at or something, and just get her to elaborate on it.
You did NOT demonstrate you value at first!
The boyfriend was a shit test, and you passed, Good for you!
Don't ask her if she's free, tell her to meet you at a certain place tomorrow instead, and she will give you the time.
you come off as needy... >"So, I'm asking you out one more time" -----don't state the obvious >I overheard ------that just creepy
you ask her what to do, or what she has in mind, you make the decisions, and she is welcome to come along instead.
But of course she wants your validation now! you demonstrated your value and turned her down. That was actually perfect what you said: >I'm good, laziness has no merit for being forgiven and I'm not interested giving my time to someone who wont value it. You don't come off as hurst by it and you seem like the kind of guy that can easily get another date.

jayfabric · 2013-11-16T12:19:04+00:00

Dude sorry to say this but you sound like a little bitch.

Herr_Lich · 2013-11-15T20:51:29+00:00

"I hate not getting my way"

Brilliant

Condorazzo · 2013-11-15T20:57:21+00:00

Interesting example but I agree with the other guy, you came off way too needy in the first half and you likely kept getting flaked because of it. When you made yourself the forbidden fruit, well, then it got a little more interesting for her.

Oh, and: "An exclamation mark is like laughing at your own jokes." - F. Scott Fitzgerald

gtownbingo99 · 2013-11-15T23:37:18+00:00

This should have been posted in /r/cringepics

2013-11-16T06:14:39+00:00

Bordering on needy and made me cringe a bit.. I would have to agree that you've got somewhere despite what you've said rather than because of it.. I have called out in a less over the top manner.. Something like '-10 points for flake' worked well recently. But yours just went to the point of ripping into her I think.

FittersGuy · 2013-11-15T21:34:58+00:00

Props for standing your ground.

But... People still way word?

joshsway · 2013-11-15T21:13:25+00:00

What's special about this? Some guy can't take a hint a girl isn't interested in him romantically but still has to be nice to him because she is a hired gun at a place he frequents and then wastes time calling her out and still doesn't get with her or anything? This seems like a good example of what not to do.

kingofspoonerisms · 2013-11-15T20:20:05+00:00

Slow clap

She's clearly not used to being called out on her behaviour. Good for you for standing your ground. I hope when I am in that situation I will do the same. She comes off as the type who is not used to not getting her way.

2013-11-16T07:33:34+00:00

"word"

2013-11-16T08:56:35+00:00

Awful post asking for vindication.

OP's comments in this thread are beyond childish.

asad16 · 2013-11-16T13:50:44+00:00

I feel bad for you. Not because you seem stubborn/butt-hurt but the fact you are free all day to meet a girl. do something productive with your life, son

TheRedditorist · 2013-11-15T23:20:51+00:00

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Rayofpain · 2013-11-15T22:26:02+00:00

WORD

Sylamatek · 2013-11-15T23:38:59+00:00

I think you brought the hammer down in the most hilarious and over the top way possible but yea I wouldn't do it myself. Props for doing it but at the same time it's not something you should strive to do either. You sound whiny and she sounds impossibly annoying to deal with, whether it being her initial "laid back"ness or her later hilarious freakouts

Edit: Also why do y'all freak out when someone doesn't answer a text within like 5 minutes jesus christ

BigZiggy · 2013-11-16T03:29:02+00:00

This girl seems a little insecure. Do you notice after you challenged her that she came back to seek approval? She must not feel like she respects herself and thinks she needs to prove something to you.

On the other hand, you respect yourself, so I respect you for respecting yourself and being secure enough to let go of the need for external evaluation.

andheim · 2013-11-16T21:20:07+00:00

Jesus it looks like both of you have huge issues. You're abusive and entitled, she's submissive and has a boyfriend. Obviously a slut with how eager she was to make it up to you. I think you guys would make a great couple.

colucci · 2013-11-17T01:43:31+00:00

Oh lord in the skies, please don't let me be this bad at text game, lord please!

colucci · 2013-11-17T01:55:25+00:00

Er are those two convos with the same person?

zach84 · 2013-11-17T05:03:27+00:00

OP, you are needy and got ripped to shreds. Try not to feel bad, you're still learning and are making mistakes and what not. You have a lot of inner game work to do, definitely start meditating daily if you aren't currently. if you hate it just start slow, 5 minutes, 10, 20, etc.

caseyboycasey · 2013-11-16T00:46:08+00:00

Fuck yeah Richmond

Dubyaz · 2013-11-16T02:31:57+00:00

"diversify yo bonds nigga"

Tamriel · 2013-11-15T21:43:52+00:00

Great job :) Does not look needy at all, you managed the situation very well, and you became part of the 1% who doesn't do things her way.

Title	An example of maintaining investment in yourself (read description first).
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	27
Comments	66
Date	November 15, 2013 8:07 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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