I'm basically the kind of guy described in the title, and am trying to develop that sexual vibe in conversations more since I really liked material such as Sixty Year's of Challenge and Liam McRae's Rapid Escalation and it clicked with me about how you should hold more eye contact, pause, talk slower, get in her space more, etc.

However, I frequently get into intellectual conversations by accident. Its as if I go into explaining mode automatically, offering some kind of logical reason to why some things are the way they are, rather than basking in the emotion of the moment and vibing through it. This, to me, feels like there's always this social barrier between me and the sexual intent I want to deliver. Maybe sometimes I can joke and tease and possibly flirt, but over the span of more than an hour, the conversation could easily fall back into something more... day-to-day and non-sexual (unless alcohol). At this point, its been an absolute mental chore for me to try to do and I believe its my biggest bottleneck.

My thought in my mind for slowly fixing this is to 1) make sure I'm on nofap, thus being more naturally horny and craving sexuality, 2) be in a situation with a girl where I'm sitting next to her and can get in her space, 3) making sure I look her in the eyes more and talk slower, perhaps avoid going into unfavorable conversation threads by accident at the same time.