Hey guys, I've been browsing seddit for a little while now and I thought I would try and provide back.

In this tip I am going to liken the approach and talking to women (or whoever you are approaching) to applying for a job. To break it down even further, I am going to divide it into applying/interviewing for a job when you already have a job you don't mind, you're just looking for extra pay or hours, against not having any job and essentially being 'desparate'.

When you already have a job, at least in my case, job interviews I go to now seem so over hyped. I don't feel the need to exaggerate who I am as an individual anymore, or try really hard, because at the end of the day, I already have a job, and although getting this job would be great (extra pay, or better hours), it isn't the end of the world if I don't end up getting it. Through this mindset, you can come off as extremely confident, and your honestly can make you a very attractive candidate for the job.

If you compare this to applying for a job when you really are in need of a job (straight out of education, new city/town/country) and you literally need the money to survive, I'm sure you will find yourself exaggerating, watching your every move, hoping that you say the right things just to ensure you can get the job. This only comes off as desparate, and like potential dates, employers can sense this from a mile away.

Now if we translate what was just said to pickup and approach, a lot of the tips transfer over. If you act like this cute girl giving you the eyes at the bar is just another girl, but you've already got a sweet deal going for you, and getting this girl would just mean you're getting a bit more bang for your buck, then you can come off as confident. This approach to 'approach' also helps deal with the issues that I see a fair bit around this sub, such as putting the pussy on a pedestal. Another key point is that unlike potential employers, you don't necessarily have to prove or show that you have another gig in the background, which makes this easier for you to pretend that there's others of this girl already yours.

TL;DR - Treat approach like you're applying for a job when you already have job, "eh if i get turned down then i still have this sweet job, but if i get this job then i will get more pay, more hours"