Made up an excuse not to talk to this girl, wow was I wrong

ClearAvenues · 2016-04-06T02:17:37+00:00

"Leagues" are excuses made by the weak minded who are unwilling to approach. You're not out of her league. We're all in the same league.

Crush it, dude.

WazzuMadBro · 2016-04-06T01:49:30+00:00

A year+ ago there was this young stunning blonde at the country bar I always go to. Every time I went I would see her and basically talk myself out of trying to chat her up and get her number because I was too old for her (Im 33, her 23), not in her league blah blah. A few months of seeing her there we ended up at the bar next to each other and I cracked a joke and introduced myself. She was unreceptive and quickly went on her way. No big deal, I made my attempt, got a small confidence boost, and went on my way.

Few months later Summer comes around, she's there, I'm hanging with other girls. She ends up by the bar again near me and I say hi again and she's suddenly very receptive. Get her number in about five minutes. Take her out the following week. Date turns into two. Suddenly she's my girlfriend. Now we live together.

Turned out the only reason she was unreceptive the first time is she was dating someone and he was also there at the time. She also thought i was the one out of her league and her friends all were crushing on me (and it was good i never screwed any of em or i woulda been DOA).

So the moral of the story is that a girl being uninterested can be for a number of reasons. If she blows you off don't automatically assume it's because you have no chance. You may just have no chance at that time.

johnn2015 · 2016-04-05T23:28:38+00:00

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dkasper6696 · 2016-04-06T00:06:27+00:00

Awesome, way to be!

Also, stars and galaxies class? I'm jealous AF right now.

hugaddiction · 2016-04-06T03:32:27+00:00

a lot of girls that would get the "pretty girl" descrition have this problem. I had an ex that said they actually have a harder time making friends in general because most girls assume she is a bithc and most guy assune she will turn then down. She was a little rough around the edges but not as intimidating as I thought she should or would be

dkasper6696 · 2016-04-06T01:12:23+00:00

Please give us an update, OP

tooeasilybored · 2016-04-06T13:11:18+00:00

My ex, gorgeous little korean girl that never needed a drop of makeup. Dated her for 3 years and wow she literally had no friends. Girls assume she's a bitch and never bother talking to her, guys usually don't approach her. Same story with her sister, drop dead gorgeous and not one of those short asians. She had a terrible time at a big engineering university because people see how attractive she is, and they don't ever approach.

Lesson: Just say hi, followed by something else. Can't hurt honestly.

InteriorEmotion · 2016-04-06T03:15:50+00:00

I thought this story would end with her dating some other guy in your class.

Kaeloso · 2016-04-06T04:03:55+00:00

I think a guy once told me in this reddit is that really hot girls dont have bfs because guys dont ask them out. Guys like you aren't ballsy enough to do that.

2016-04-06T07:17:14+00:00

Well shit that reminds me of a girl I used to know.

2016-04-06T00:56:15+00:00

One thing I've learned about women is that they aren't focused on looks as much as guys do. Good luck OP.

And stars and galaxies? Seriously, I want to take that class

locotx · 2016-04-06T02:02:59+00:00

Gonna? . .that should say "we are going out for coffee and a date" . . . Congrats though. I miss college, the first year I was so nervous and scared. Then had a few people guide me along . . got laid by a girl way out of my league . .we dated for a few months, found we weren't compatible . .but after that . . ConfidenceHigh

ThrowawayPUA · 2016-04-06T00:16:07+00:00

When you don't approach a woman, you are being selfish. You are depriving her of something she wants: social contact. If you deny her access to you, then you are denying her the ability to use her deepest instincts to be sociable. Even if she rejects you, she inwardly feels happy to interact and be who she is: a social creature.

Women want what you can give them. Give it to them. Don't disappoint them.

GraciousAntelope · 2016-04-05T23:27:07+00:00

Good on you, good luck!

2016-04-05T23:47:20+00:00

Ask her out ASAP, there is no meaning to fantasize about stuff if you can't touch her or can't have her under your arm. If she say yes that will be awesome, if she say no your time will be saved and other lucky girl will be your interest.

Ricardo2991 · 2016-04-06T02:47:36+00:00

You can have mutual friend introduce you... "Primacy Effect"

Have your mutual friend give you a warm introduction... Then she will already have good thoughts about you when you do talk to her in person.

r4ymaster · 2016-04-06T12:02:32+00:00

We need an update! How did the coffee go, did she take you up on your offer?

londonquietman · 2016-04-06T13:06:42+00:00

This reminds me of my college experience. The hottest girl in college was in my class. But none of us had the balls to ask her out. At the end of year dance, she went with my friend who is one foot shorter than her and twice as fat as all of us. Why? Because he asked and nobody else did.

coolfir3pwnz · 2016-04-06T13:45:03+00:00

"Just fucking do it." - Wayne Gretzky

LUClEN · 2016-04-06T19:28:34+00:00

If you wouldn't have been so bitchmade from the get go you would have found that out sooner

2016-04-06T20:59:45+00:00

Tell us how it goes

Bohr_from_Asgard · 2016-04-06T21:06:07+00:00

Rationalization is a pain in the ass. I'm glad that you were able to see through it.

daf4nk · 2016-04-14T12:37:59+00:00

Stars and galaxies class? I want it too...

quintessentialnutmeg · 2016-04-06T06:53:59+00:00

Awwww :) 💕love is in the air

hcarguy · 2016-04-06T08:30:14+00:00

stars and galaxies class? that sounds kinda fun

TrueLoveDivineLove · 2016-04-06T14:19:44+00:00

I'm assuming she's Aries. If so, I wouldn't bother with her long-term (like marriage perhaps) unless you're an Sagittarius, Gemini, or Leo. But if you're just looking for something temporary, that's fine.

Also, never put women on a pedestal. Don't put anyone on a pedestal, especially yourself...but don't put anyone in the basement either, especially you're self.

Best of luck.

Title	Made up an excuse not to talk to this girl, wow was I wrong
Author	dkasper6696
Upvotes	380
Comments	78
Date	April 5, 2016 11:14 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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