About me: Mid 40’s, Ok looks, average build (a bit overweight). I have slept with maybe 50-60 different women which may not be much for a PUA Guru, but considering I’ve spent 95-99% of my life in LTR’s, I think I have done ok. EDIT: I calculate my overall time as a single guy to be approx 2 years, so most of those 50-60 women were during that time period.

I have very specific game. Bars and clubs are my forte and I haven’t gone into much depth with day game or anything else. I tried many styles, including NLP, but the style I use most is C&F (Cocky and Funny) as taught by David D’Angelo. I love this style because it is awesome fun, and that is my main goal when I go out: Have as much fun with girls as possible!

Everything I write here is stuff that works for me. If you have other techniques, then great. If you don’t agree with what I say, that’s fine too. I just know this works for me.

If any beginners/newbies are reading this, this link is absolutely vital for C&F: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/gbhbm/lesson_3_importance_of_projecting_an_aura_of/

I cannot stress the importance of being happy and in a positive, fun mood. The more fun you are, the more attractive you are to the opposite sex.

I also firmly believe in integrity. When I first started out, I would say almost anything to get a woman into bed, and some of them got hurt emotionally. I was often left with an empty, hollow feeling and it was horrible. These were beautiful, sweet girls and they deserved to be treated with respect. I made the decision that it was better to go home alone and fap to some porn than to hurt the feelings of another human being. These days I only feel disgust towards assholes that treat women like crap.

My method is this: If I am taking a girl home for sex and I only want a one-nighter (but I suspect she wants more), I will tell her “I confess I am sort of seeing someone else, so whatever happens between us tonight will probably just be a one-time thing. Is that ok with you?” If she is fine with that, then great, but if not then I say goodbye and go home alone.

If you are a novice, or shy, or just starting out, your main goal at this stage should be to just feel good about yourself. If you want to run a marathon, you cannot simply go out and run a marathon without working your way up to it. Same with Seduction. Start at your own level. For ages I was excited to come home and say “I said hello to 5 different girls tonight!!!!”

As time goes on, you can expand your conversation. For Gods sake, do not hope to go out on your first night and get laid. Sure it happens, but it is rare. Otherwise you will most likely go home feeling like a failure.

At the bar:

The best option is to have a vibrant, friendly wingman who you can clown around with. I found that girls were much more open to chatting with two outgoing, fun guys. Plus you can challenge each other and have a laugh when/if you get rejected. I had a wingman who was better looking than me and we were great pals. Girls found him very attractive, which was great to get their attention. But it was my charm that got me laid. When we went out together, I had almost 100% close rate.

Going out alone: I did this a LOT when I moved cities. It can be hard. I would walk into a bar/club with a pleasant smile on my face, order a drink, then casually stroll through the crowd, making eye contact with both girls and guys while smiling and nodding, with an occasional “Wassup?” or “Hows it going?”. I think this is called something like ‘establishing social value” or something. I would pick out a decent looking guy and try to establish conversation and have a laugh with him. If he was boring, I would move on to another guy. At this stage I ignored all the women in the venue.

Some girls will watch you and observe your behaviour. This technique established me as a friendly guy who is easy to talk to.

It was important to get the humour going pretty soon after meeting my new wingman and to keep it going. If the conversation was failing, I excused myself and moved to another guy, or I picked a small, fun looking group of people, where I introduced myself again and fired up the conversation.

Once my “base camp” was established, I had 2 primary methods of approach, (but I also kept a lookout for other opportunities).

Method 1: (This method got me more sex than anything else) I would wait until I saw a cute babe at the bar, then I would quickly but discreetly make my way up to the bar next to her, even if I had only half finished my drink. I would stand next to her for a bit, half ignoring her, looking around at nothing specific, waiting to be served. Then I would casually turn to her and use the BEST PICKUP LINE IN THE UNIVERSE: “How’s it going? Having a good night?”

Now if you are a novice, or shy, or just starting out, I would wait for her answer and simply say “Great, have fun!” and maybe stop there. All you want to do at this stage is feel good about yourself.

Boom! You have just approached and opened a cute girl.

I should also mention that this line is ONLY to test the sociability of the girl. If she screws her nose up, just laugh and move on. If she responds positively, then great. DON’T follow her if she walks away and DO NOT say you will talk later. You have just established yourself as a non-threatening conversationalist and you can go back to her a bit later. The second time you speak with her, she will be more open to you.

Manage the conversation based on her response. If you have any rehearsed routines, maybe use one here.

Tips for the bar conversation:

Use the band/DJ as a topic: ask if she likes them, are they any good, etc

Ask if she is here in a group, any special occasion, etc

Try some C&F if you’re up for it. I try to make a funny observation about something nearby, or ask her if she’s been hit on by any guys yet, then ask her if she LIKES to be hit on. She will probably say she hates being hit on by creepy guys. I would say I ALSO hate it when creepy guys hit on ME and roll my eyes.

If she is open to conversation, she will ask how YOUR night is going. I like to try different things here. I might jokingly complain about all the cute girls hitting on me when all I wanna do is have some fun with my friends.

If the conversation is going well, I ask if she/her friends want to come and join (me and my wingman).

I sometimes get them to qualify themselves. This also works well. I tell them we are looking for some fun people to join us as we want to get a fun group happening. I ask: Are your friends fun? (IE: do you qualify for my table?) I sometimes act thoughtful and say “hmmm, I don’t know: You may be cute, but I’m not sure if you’re fun…” etc, etc. It doesn’t really matter, just tease them!

If you’re feeling really confident (I have done this a few times), stay at your table, look around exaggeratedly and point to a couple of cute babes and click your fingers and wave at them until they see you, point at them, then beckon them over (make sure you have a BIG smile and a fun look on your face!) and qualify them using the previous example. Suggest they look SORT OF fun, but you’re not really sure. Demand they tell you a joke or something to qualify. I think you get the idea. This is HEAPS of fun!

Worst case scenario is they give you a weird look and walk away. So what? Have a laugh! Obviously they are not fun enough for YOUR table. You are having fun here!

Vary the conversation between playful C&F and genuine conversation. Use any routines if you have them. Try to probe a subject deeply rather than asking a string of non-connected questions. Then tease them about something they say, or do! Eg: Hey great shoes, have you ever fallen off them? (BTW I think this is a bit of a neg).

I make stuff up as I go. When you are relaxed and confident in the Cocky/Funny Zone, stuff just pops into your head.

In Part 2 I will share some powerful routines and games I use to build strong rapport and escalate.