[FR]My first approach ever. I sucked but It felt so good!

2017-01-26T12:27:32+00:00

Amazing work, man. I'm the same way--if she's into you, that's just a bonus. The real victory comes from taking your fear of rejection and kicking it right in the fucking teeth.

jleemur · 2017-01-26T15:00:52+00:00

Be creative man! Walking up to a stranger to say "Hi" & shake their hand will most-likely create an awkward situation. Instead, start with a funny comment, or question. Comment on her boots, make a shitty weather statement, ask her for the time, etc.

Nevertheless, it takes balls to approach. Great job man!!

greenday5494 · 2017-01-26T14:04:16+00:00

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Tamazin_ · 2017-01-26T18:31:51+00:00

Dont go "Hi!" and stretch out your hand to shake hers. Say hi without the hand and after you've talked for a bit you can do "Oh by the way, my name is X, nice to meet you!" then you can stretch out your hand. Less aggressive (and creepy) :)

ninjamuffin · 2017-01-26T16:01:57+00:00

I also noticed you said you were only waiting to go after attractive girls, I'm assuming you're being pretty picky to make your effort worth it.

You instead should just go for girls who will keep you busy and learning, if your goal here is to become better at pickup. Go for some 5s and 6s, they will be more receptive and you don't lose out on any potential if you fuck up. It's just a more comfortable training environment with lower stakes.

Now if you just want to fuck the hottest girl given your new seductive powers go for it mang, just know that that isn't really practice

GradientsandIdeals · 2017-01-26T13:48:12+00:00

You're awesome dude.

revente · 2017-01-26T12:40:40+00:00

We are proud!

SandMonkey911 · 2017-01-26T15:28:33+00:00

That was most likely the worst it's ever gonna be. So good for you for not letting it get you down! It'll go better next time!

selymsivad · 2017-01-26T15:34:38+00:00

This post is very relatable and inspiring! Very nice work.

Azelas · 2017-01-26T12:51:14+00:00

Can't wait to see another FR man, good job and keep going!

Diablorouge · 2017-01-26T16:07:56+00:00

Nice effort Rabbit!

So I find that the best way do a cold approach on the street is incorporating the environment around you to break the ice and start the conversation. For example: If I am walking down the street and I see a beautiful girl that I want to talk to, walking in the same direction, I pick a destination (that's infront of both of us) and ask, "Do you know where this place is?" When you are walking the same direction, you can naturally transition the conversation. If you can turn it into a coffee or drink then all the better!

Keep trying, The more you try the better you get!

MrGiggleFiggle · 2017-01-26T22:27:34+00:00

"I just wanted to talk to you. What's wrong with that?"

You could say "I just wanted to talk to you because I think you're cute and wanted to meet you".

caP1taL1sm · 2017-01-26T17:24:21+00:00

Think less, just move your feet towards the girl

1z1z2x2x3c3c4v4v · 2017-01-26T17:42:03+00:00

Good job on the approach!

You may have spooked the girl running up behind her then trying to grab or shake her hand, so next time, just a simple "hi", with good eye contact and a nice genuine smile.

Try to get in front of her, so she can see you coming, next time.

follow_it · 2017-01-26T18:03:25+00:00

Right on dude, this is a great accomplishment! You'll be soo much more prepared for the next time you approach a girl.

haterherren · 2017-01-27T00:25:08+00:00

I'm proud of you man! :')

zdelarosa00 · 2017-01-27T02:23:50+00:00

Shit that went good. I always take into consideration the thing that goes around teached in here about the experience having two main reasons, better yourself (which attracts people), and having fun with rejection. I like your choice style man, pickups that make an attention call are the ones i most like. "Hey that book, have read X author?"/"Nice boots, like the ones Y wears in Z movie". Anyways. Take the beer guy advice "To be the most interesting man in the world, read, read everything."

ViciousKnids · 2017-01-27T06:18:02+00:00

I noticed you were

A) going out JUST to meet girls

B) very nervous

Don't "go out to meet girls." That puts pressure on yourself and doesn't help those nerves. Go out for a beer or two. Go somewhere popular (I go to a bar in a college town). Sit somewhere with a lot of traffic (I sit directly in front of the taps). Go there once a week or so. People will notice you. Go on pong night. Or karaoke night. Befriend the bartenders, other people see it and it gives you a bit of status. If the staff bothers getting to know you patrons will, too. If people approach you, man or woman, don't sweat it. Just act as you normally would. Don't try to be "smooth" or "cool." It's very noticeable when people are acting unnaturally. Be patient. It'll happen sooner than you think. Just like fishing. You'll catch nothing if you cast and immediately reel it. Let the hook sit there. Have a beer or two. A bite will come along.

Title	[FR]My first approach ever. I sucked but It felt so good!
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Upvotes	160
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Date	January 26, 2017 12:12 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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