I just felt like sharing a little hope for the guys still in the teeth of divorce. Maybe you’re separated and lonely, Maybe you’re hovering over that inbox waiting for the next bad news or back-and-forth emails with the lawyers at great cost. Maybe you’re trapped in the house with her because neither of you want to give up your claim and it’s tense and horrible.

We signed our final papers several months ago and after some adjustment, with complete honesty, life is great.

When I see the kids it’s joyful and amazing. When the kids are gone I get to work on myself and my home and career. I’ve started dating again, it’s so different from when I was in my 20s. I’d forgotten how fun it was to make new dates laugh. I’d forgotten how nice a first kiss was. There’s life out here. There’s air and freedom and the whole entire world. It’s so easy to forget the insomnia and frazzled nerves but I don’t want to forget it because I know so many men are living it right now.

Guys, hold on and keep fighting. I love y’all and I wish you the best in this. There’s daylight out here. You’ve got this.