Things I've learned over the past year

Worried-Interaction6 · 2024-02-25T18:16:29+00:00

Thank you for sharing your insights. Can you elaborate the second bullet point about momentum please.

Objective-Piano7112 · 2024-02-25T21:07:01+00:00

One of the best practical posts I've seen here yet. I was lacking having sexual energy toward these women I was seeing and they all said they just didn't feel anything romantically. Since I mindfully made the change, I've had much more success

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2024-02-25T22:22:49+00:00

It's not about convincing girls to like you. It's about putting yourself in front of girls who will like you.

A select man will have women who like him putting themselves near him. They will walk up to him at the bar, approach directly , stand opposite him , bump into him on purpose. It's called proximity. I have never chased I chose the one I liked best from the girls who liked me. This is my experience.

Badguy60 · 2024-02-25T20:13:02+00:00

It's not about convincing girls to like you. It's about putting yourself in front of girls who will like you.

Learn this recently and it has helped my game a lot

outlierkk · 2024-02-26T02:17:52+00:00

Man, post some of your wild stories here. we are ready to listen.

ExpensiveGrave · 2024-02-26T03:29:44+00:00

It's not about convincing girls to like you. It's about putting yourself in front of girls who will like you.

This is arguably the biggest keypoint for anyone reading. You really cannot do much to convince a woman to like you. If you meet a woman and she doesn't enjoy your company (regardless of the reason) then you need to move on. In the same way that someone puts a food you don't like in front of you, you can't help it but not like it. The way to get you to eat food isn't by shoving that in your face over and over - it's by giving you something different.

The way you get a better reception from women when you put yourself in front of them is by primarily working on physical appearance. This is the most important thing first and foremost. If you're fat, get fit. If you're skinny, get fit. If you're dressed like a slob, dress better. Obviously, if you lack social skills to where you're stuttering and only staring at her tits like a moron then you need to work on those problems too but 90%+ of men aren't in that position. But, the key here is, all of these things you have to work on now. If you're getting rejected over and over by women then why would you expect the result to change when you haven't? Women aren't changing. You have to change.

Clark-KAYble · 2024-02-28T09:40:39+00:00

It's not about convincing girls to like you. It's about putting yourself in front of girls who will like you.

This point I think is the most important one! Too many people think that seduction is about convincing someone who's not interested

letsgetwizzyy · 2024-02-26T00:54:02+00:00

Girls find me attractive. I have trouble internalizing this but I can't deny it anymore. The ugly nerdy kid is only inside of me now.

Congratulations on the self development. Now, you need to work on your internal state and actually become an internally confident person. Your internal confidence will cause you to externally appear more confident and allow for confidence to literally radiate from within you, and people will pick up in the fact that you are confident because of how you carry yourself. Once there is congruence between your internal state and external state, you will be much more badass.

It's takes time to reframe this, but you first mimic the behaviors of someone who is very confident and then you internalize those behaviors and become a guy who is confident on the inside. So, I know it's hard to believe that you are attractive now, but you are. So, now you have to mimic behaviors of confident guys in every situation so you behave confidently like a guy yourself would.

This article goes into detail about why good looking men have trouble with their internal state after becoming physically attractive: https://open.substack.com/pub/jackedguy/p/why-good-looking-men-struggle-with?r=31tj3q&utm\_campaign=post&utm\_medium=web

epimpstyle · 2024-02-25T19:08:22+00:00

If I go out with the sole intent to approach then I feel weird and fail(no approaches)

This is beyond my understanding and I see that many people say the same thing. What is the logic of this?

When I go to a bar with a friend, we know exactly why we are going there (before we enter the bar) - I don't care about having fun with my friend, we are looking for girls to start a conversation with and that is our goal. In a bar, you either have fun and drink alcohol, or you are there to meet someone, in which case you don't drink alcohol - so you must know why you are there.

Girls find me attractive

How do you know this?

In my case, when I look in the mirror, I acknowledge that I'm not a top model, I'm only 5'7 and I don't expect to get compliments, but it's been 4 years since I approach women without thinking about how I look, because it doesn't matter as long as I'm healthy without physical problems.

Night game has always been a struggle for me until I found the right kind of parties.

I don't know what you mean by that, but in my case I can say it's about the place, because I know party places in my city where is full of teenagers, I avoid that place and I choose another one.

So... how it looks the "right kind of parties" ?

Anonymous sex

This is in movie :-)

Independent-Cod-5938 · 2024-02-25T19:01:46+00:00

Can you expand on the body language for sexual energy? Thank you

yolo24seven · 2024-02-26T09:56:05+00:00

"Night game has always been a struggle for me until I found the right kind of parties."

what kinds of parties do you have success at?

pikestreetjitterbug · 2024-02-29T06:24:31+00:00

Thanks for the tips I like the last one. I’ve always heard women like guys who are assholes at first and I’m smiling all the time as well. So it’s nice to know smiling is helpful.

pikestreetjitterbug · 2024-02-29T06:33:19+00:00

Yo dude. Maybe you can help me. I’m 5’7. In good shape. But Not photogenic. Not so good looking, but my last girl was friggen gorgeous, all because we had such a deep connection. This has happened several times before too. Not sure how all me exes are beautiful when I’m not so handsome but chemistry goes a long way. Now in life, girls do not approach me. They don’t bump into me, make eye contact. I need women to get to know me and then I can make something happen. Sometimes I talk to women and I can tell they are like leave me alone. Okay so how on earth did I get what I consider a 9-10 and can’t get noticed in everyday life.

Title	Things I've learned over the past year
Author	agentStag
Upvotes	165
Comments	38
Date	February 25, 2024 4:49 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1azshu3/things_ive_learned_over_the_past_year/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/things-ive-learned-over-the-past-year.1427470 https://theredarchive.com/post/1427470

Comments