People think that they have to be well-accomplished in order to have a ton of confidence. They think they have to have money to have a ton of confidence. These things help, but what if you're starting from square one. You have no confidence. It's just an "empty plot in the land of confidence".

Think of your confidence as a structure or skyscraper. If your build your confidence on unstable ground, it will come toppling down in certain situations. This is why I don't believe in "faking it until you make it".

A Clear Mind Is A Confident Mind

So the first thing you want to do is have a clear mind. A clear mind is a confident mind. It's like leveling the land and clearing the debris of any BS that has been accumulated over the years by either other people or what you've conditioned yourself to believe.

Sit in a quiet room with your eyes closed. Focus on your breathing and heart rate. If a thought enters your head, phase it out. If it's a positive thought or a negative thought. Phase the thought out. Do this for at least 10 minutes a day. The goal is to have a clear mind that allows you to feel more than overthink.

Some of you may leave a comment, "How does a person "not think" that's impossible". You will always have a thought pop into your head, but the more you can phase thoughts out of your head, the more alert you become. You're not mentally masturbating about a girl liking you and you're not getting depressed because you think a girl is gonna reject you. This is when you level the land so you can leave room for what's next.

Taking Action And How To See Each Outcome

A man with a clear mind can take quicker, well-timed action. He's not forced to take action because people are telling him to or he's forcing himself to. He's taking action because it's what needs to happen at that specific moment. In the beginning you have to condition your mind that you are not afraid to talk to women, so in the beginning you need to talk to women you like.

When you have a clear mind, you don't create fantasies and scenarios in your head. You just take the action to see what happens.

"This girl is cute. Let's see what happens if I smile at her and say good morning."

Any response or sign she gives you is feedback. It's either wanted feedback or unwanted feedback. It's not always that you're ugly or she's not attracted to you. In either way, it should only tell you if she's interested or not, not to tell you if you're attractive or not.

"What the hell does that mean?"

Just because a woman is not attracted to you doesn't mean you're ugly or unattractive. And just because she's interested doesn't mean she's attracted to you. Sometimes women will string men along and play mind games with them. When you have a clear mind, you're able to move on instead of be at the mercy of her mind games.

Eye Contact And Being More Focused And Aware

When you approach a woman and actually get into a conversation with her, that's not the time to fantasize. You want to pay attention to what she's saying. You want to pay attention to her body language. You want to listen to the message she's giving you. Eye contact is very important because it shows you have a level of confidence. It shows you're paying attention to what the person is saying. Don't give a woman a blank stare because this means you just see her, not listening to her. It also means you're not paying attention.

When you have a clear mind, you're listening, looking around, looking at the person in front of you, making it a point to remember what they said, etc. If she's talking and you're wondering if she's interested or not, you're gonna miss everything she said. You're gonna miss those signs she's giving you that she is interested or those signs of she's uncomfortable or not interested.

A lot of men waste their time, trying to convince a girl that she needs to choose him. He's getting all worked up over one girl. When you have a clear mind, you know that your awareness will allow you to spot the ones who are interested.

Yes, the more aware you become, the more women you'll find who are actually interested in you.

Get Out Of Your Head And Into Your Body

When you're stuck in your head, you're creating false outcomes. This prevents you from taking action. This is also why you tend to get those butterflies and let them overwhelm your actions. When you're in your body, you feel the fear, you feel nervous, but you take action anyway. Brian Begin calls this "Stepping Into Tension". Believe it or not but if you're attracted to a woman, and she's attracted to you, if she sees that you're a little nervous when you talk to her, it makes her less nervous. This lets her know that you like her too. So she can relax a little herself. It happens if you like a girl and you find out she likes you too. All of a sudden you may feel a weight lifted off of your shoulders and you can relax a little more.

Anyway, the more you approach in spite of that nervous feeling, you'll start to get use to it. As a matter of fact, you'll see that nervous feeling as "a reason to approach this girl". If she's making you nervous, you're attracted to her. Being that you have a clear and confident mind, you tell yourself, "This girl is cute and she's making me nervous. I think I'm attracted to her. Let me go up and talk to her to see what happens."

When you get out of your head, and into your body, you start to trust your instincts a little more and may actually be right in your decisions.

Try It And See How It Works For You

You have some work to do to build your confidence. The tallest skyscrapers weren't built by men wishing that the skyscraper would be built... they had to take the needed action to build it. Once you try it, and see how you feel over time, you'll see how ridiculous it was to get all worked up in the first place.

Good luck!