Positivity

You know how some guys just seem to be magnetic around women. Before I started getting into pick up, I was not magnetic with women. I was shy and nervous and scared. Like many guys are.

Then one day I was taught a very simple trick. A mind-hack really. A friend of mine told me that a magnetic personality is really just a positive personality. Unshakably positive. Like literally radiating with positivity. No matter what the situation. He pointed out some examples of people that we mutually knew.

I thought about the people he mentioned, and I told him I agreed. Yes, these people always seemed to radiate positivity. The happiness and excitement they had was contagious. Like they could literally enter a stuffy room and within a few minutes everyone around them was smiling and laughing. Now that’s magnetic.

But there was a problem, I told him. These people were positive because they were successful already. All of these guys were successful in business and successful with women. But at the time, I wasn’t. So how could I be unshakably positive, when I didn’t have something to be positive about?

The Re-Frame

My friend told me that in order to “hack my mind” into positivity, I needed to reframe everything that happened to me as a positive thing. Everything.

And not only “say” it was positive but also give myself a reason. Even if the reason seemed ridiculous. Because at the beginning, when you’re first doing this, sometimes the only reason you can come up with is ridiculous, especially when you’re re-framing something you’d normally consider negative.

For example:

Flat tire – I’m so lucky this happened because now I have an hour to relax and listen to this podcast while the tow truck is on it’s way.

Rejected by a Girl – Look how amazing I am. That beautiful girl almost went out with me.

Spilled my Drink – Wow I feel like a king. I didn’t even have to clean that up.

Missed the Bus – This is great. Maybe they’ll be a little hottie on the next one I’d have otherwise never met.

Ran out of Coffee at home – What a lucky morning. Now I can stop by Starbucks and ask out that barista I saw last week.

The Result

By reframing everything into a positive light, you will instantly start to feel happy in situations where you would have previously gotten annoyed. Keep doing it and that happiness and positivity compounds. You start feeling great.

When you’re feeling great, you start acting like you feel great. People around you sense your positivity. It rubs off on them. They start enjoying the positive vibes you seem to be letting off. Women are particularly responsive to these positive emotions.

Then the most amazing thing happens. The negative things that you have to reframe start occurring less often. Positive things start happening. Now there’s less need to re-frame and the positivity compounds yet again. Not long after that, you find yourself being magnetic with women, and with people in general.

With this hack you can see that developing that magnetic mindset isn’t a bunch of hocus pocus and visualization. It’s simply re-framing every event in your daily into a positive light until the positive things just start happening on their own.

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