I feel attractive (21M), but never have been in any relationship or any significant romantic involvement.

DriedUpPlum · 2019-05-15T19:04:26+00:00

Self improvement and inner game are not the same thing. That has been coopted by the new batch of PUA marketing gurus.

Inner game is you actively understanding and internalizing what behaviors you have that are attractive and those that aren’t attractive. When fully embraced things like the approach or having a conversation become infinitely easier and can very quickly become second nature.

If you are even considering your height in the equation(just by mentioning it you show that it’s on your mind) then you do not have your inner game worked out.

If you are already being approached by women you definitely have something there. So your observation that you aren’t being direct enough with them is apt.

If a woman says she “doesn’t want to sleep with you” and you’ve done pretty much nothing on that front then it means she is thinking about it.

You’re going to need to act. Women LIKE male relationships. They LIKE sex. When you first meet a woman looking for a romantic interaction they are hoping you can be both of those things for them until you manage to disqualify yourself.

They don’t want men to do everything for them and that means you are going to get comfortable making moves sooner rather than later. all the advice in the world wont matter until you’ve become comfortable with taking action and receiving rejection. Learn for each rejection and don’t ever take it personally.

WIA20XX · 2019-05-15T20:05:21+00:00

You been asking the same type of questions for 5 years

dailymanup · 2019-05-16T07:01:05+00:00

You need a stronger sexual frame and better flirting skills.

jzell3 · 2019-05-15T19:40:08+00:00

Its all in your DOMINANCE frame. I can tell from your words alone that you are far too agreeable and nice.

PeithoPan · 2019-05-16T20:58:45+00:00

> I am below the guy's average height in my country, but I try to believe that it is not the main cause of my lack of results.

That's right. Its not.

> Do I act too passively with women? Do I act like that "dude friend"?

Not having been around you, but from your story it looks to me like a resounding *yes*.

Inner game is incredibly important to build up enough confidence to keep approaching and maintaining rapport and attention. But unless you have a plan, it wont get you much further than that.

My guess? You are waiting for her to initiate sex. That's not going to work. OR you are skipping many steps of the escalation ladder before "asking" for sex.

Have you read about the escalation ladder? If not google it.It tells you how to go from approach, to rapport , to body contact, to isolation, to closing (which can mean sex). If none of this makes sense...well here you go, from this very sub even:

https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/hlmra/dicarlo_escalation_ladder_concise_and_emphasized/

You have to have a plan. Manage logistics. Make sure every one of her possible issues with having sex *right now* is being handled to get to the place you want.

edit: ok. You dont have to follow this tactic to the minute. Its exaggarated and too many details made for profit. What you need to understand is that you have to constantly be ready to escalate the encounter to where you want i tto go. At the same time not pushing to hard or breaking to many social norms. Id have a longer writeup if I had time. Give me a ding if you want me to, and Ill see if I can find some minutes to explain when I have time.

WhatsReddit123456 · 2019-05-15T19:30:26+00:00

Could be the height. Just go for the short women.

lesntoomy · 2019-05-15T19:32:24+00:00

Lets not dismiss all pua has to offer... It stresses inner ggame and convo skills. Youtube search tom torero

Title	I feel attractive (21M), but never have been in any relationship or any significant romantic involvement.
Author	clariness
Upvotes	3
Comments	21
Date	May 15, 2019 6:51 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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