How to smoothly shift to conversation after a DM opener

polarizingpotato · 2020-01-07T16:40:50+00:00

You type too much bro.

Look at her one line response.

Also I never use emojis unless she uses it first (wink emoji shows neediness and desire on your part even though it is subtle).

P.S. typing too much is bad because you reveal too much at once (neediness). You wanna be mysterious and take it slowly. You have 3 sentences already when you could just use one sentence that is witty and go from there.

Chichachachi · 2020-01-07T16:17:06+00:00

Well what looked like a joke turned out to be you asking if she wanted to commit crimes with you. You shoulda switched to a chill meetup to "plot" or something to keep it light and jokey.

devbev · 2020-01-07T17:54:18+00:00

Hey DesperateSeaGull,

Sounds like you're looking for a Transition Strategy to follow your Opener.

Look at her profile, pictures, bio (if applicable) and try to get some actual understanding of how she thinks, what she's like, what might make her different than other girls. Ask her questions about her.

In other words, put in some of the right kind of effort. Knowing what all this entails and how to conduct yourself properly will take time and, most importantly practice, but it'll be worth it if you do it.

In other words, put in some of the right kind of effort. Knowing what all this entails and how to conduct yourself properly will take time and, most importantly practice, but it'll be worth it if you do it.

The result? You'll develop a natural ability to cause women you are communicating with to feel that perfect balance of, roughly:

he's interested in me, but he doesn't seem like he's overly Interested / needy / clingy
he's not telling me all about himself, ruining the mystery, when I haven't even asked about him
he's asking good questions about me - questions I enjoy answering
he's doing different things than most the other 100 guys that I match with every week

etc.

All this said - I know that if you're doing DMs on Tinder or Bumble, and not Social Media (btw, why?), then it can be really hard to know who TF they even are or what to talk about...

To be honest, spending too much time on the dating apps will hold you back. Make sure you are starting at least 51% of your conversations in-person.

To your success.

Let me know if you have any questions at all, I'm happy to help further

Michelangelor · 2020-01-07T16:44:37+00:00

Being funny only opens the door to intimacy with someone. The second step is you making them feel open enough to share with you. Share something with her and then ask her a question. Start simple. Move toward hanging out if she’s giving off positive signals.

chief_yETI · 2020-01-08T03:03:38+00:00

texting and DMs aren't the place for small talk. Save that for real life.

Use texting/DMs for setting up dates, and maybe sharing something interesting that happened today, along with occasional memes. Small talk via text is a great way to get yourself pushed off to the side.

neversleeps212 · 2020-01-08T03:35:02+00:00

So other posters have covered a lot of the core issues here but there’s another really obvious one. In your last message there’s really nothing asking her to respond. Early on in convo with women you typically have to ask questions to keep her responding.

Kinopua · 2020-01-08T04:24:44+00:00

You're being too wordy and too gamey, which makes your texts long and cheesey, you're trying to hard.

Keep it short, light hearted, flirty.

Some pointers:

Don't try to be overly witty, comes off as try hard
Matches her level of investment, if she writes one line, you write one line or less than her would be even better.
Don't be wordy, stop using so many fucking unessesary words, try to convey the message you're trying to get across with less words!
Don't use too many emojis

Those things alone should improve your text with women by a lot.

How to transition, just get off the fucken opener, but remember to keep it short, light hearted & flirty.

ImNSFW17 · 2020-01-08T05:03:29+00:00

Just a side note to some of the comments.. to many to read them all right now. But as for the women assisting with there take on things... well I recently started following some dating advice channels on YouTube and something that really spoke to me was... If your learning to hunt you get help from a hunter. You'll never find a hunter asking a deer how to hunt it. Because the deer only knows how to survive. So if your looking to be friends with women. Ask women (aka deer). If you want a woman and need to get her attention and have her chase, want, desire and respect you.... welll ask the hunters. They have the proven methods. Just a thought.... Best of luck....

Jarin01 · 2020-01-07T23:12:42+00:00

I find jumping out at them in the dark and pushing them into the trunk of my car is a sure way of getting a woman to talk.

Title	How to smoothly shift to conversation after a DM opener
Author	desperateseagull
Upvotes	58
Comments	40
Date	January 7, 2020 3:54 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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