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pelota · 2020-05-07T09:35:56+00:00

Truth is your insecurities will hurt you more than being a virgin will. If you're secure about being a virgin and you don't make it a big deal, then it won't be a big deal.

caprisun64 · 2020-05-07T08:43:40+00:00

Yeah but I want to get this off my back ASAP. Forgot to mention I have received oral if that matters

Liberaler · 2020-05-07T13:01:32+00:00

Hey!

Sex should be something built on trust, honesty, intimacy and love.

How can you create such an environment without telling her the truth? You cant't! If you tell her, it will create closeness and she will understand why you act inexperienced and she will be able to "help" you (e.g. show you how a certain position works) and answer all your questions ... and she will not expect the sex of an experienced guy ... You will enjoy the sex more if you don't have to hide your inside ... Also, you will get used to really open up to your partner and that is the base of every really good relationship ...

Maybe she will reject you, but rejection is a natural part of life and will always happen no matter what you do ...

But if you just want the superficial sex portrayed by our degenerate pop-culture, it does not matter what you do anyways - just go ahead and lose your "virgin status" ...

But I recommend the honest way ...

ilikepie145 · 2020-05-07T08:40:36+00:00

When you find the right girl it won’t matter. I’ve had a few girls be turned off and ghost me when they found out I was a virgin. I still am at 22. Some girls just straight up say that they don’t wanna mess with virgins. I don’t really see how it’s that big of an issue but I try to not worry about it anymore cuz I’ll find the right girl. For hookups it would make sense but if a girl is looking for a relationship then she shouldn’t care.

haushaus8 · 2020-05-07T09:22:16+00:00

Truth be told, don't bother telling just have fun✌🏻 it's not that complicated.

Blurry-Nights · 2020-05-07T18:25:44+00:00

Being a virgin is no different than having acne or being short or poor or any of a million other "flaws" that men can have.

If you are self-confident and don't give a fuck, women will be attracted to you.

If you are worried about it, women will not be attracted to you.

goron24 · 2020-05-07T14:18:47+00:00

If she loses attraction because you're a virgin then she's a loser. Honestly lots of women would like the blank slate to train you in what they like.

beyond98 · 2020-05-07T14:19:34+00:00

We both are in the same boat XD, but I'm a couple of years older. Also lost handful of opportunities because of being stupid or not realizing they were flirting with me.

Maybe I'm not the person you would want to advice you, but when I would be about to lose my V-card and that girl asks me that question, I would say the truth. If she's comprehensive, I'd try to make her enjoy that moment, but if a LMR occurs, it doesn't matter, there will be more girls who find me attractive.

I've also read Models some months ago, and I noticed an improvement as I was starting to kiss some girls after 3 years and a half of not doing that, until we were locked-down. I still have to apply some lessons from the book. I'm due to read also No More Mr. Nice Guy!, but I can't as I have some workload and I don't find the moment to read it.

Currently, I'm centered on my studies, girls can wait till this situation improves.

Good luck, bro ;) Hope we soon can experience that thing, but if not, we have to be patient

erect_sean · 2020-05-07T17:39:57+00:00

At the end of the day it’s all about what you believe. If you think being a virgin means you’re a loser then you will always act afraid when you’re getting closer to a girl and it’s probably why you haven’t been able to seal the deal when you had the chance.

Think about other first time experiences with girls that didn’t make you this anxious. Your first kiss for example. It’s probably because they weren’t such a big deal but getting laid is. Once you do it you’ll find it less important

samsabz · 2020-05-07T18:33:52+00:00

I find this double standard strange I would love to date a virgin woman any day over a non virgin woman, but some woman don't want to deal with a guy being one. It's just the way it is but don't ever lose your virginity under pressure or in a rush make sure you really want to do it with that person because you are into them not because you are becoming desperate.

Argonnis · 2020-05-07T22:16:26+00:00

To be completely honest with you, being worried about being a virgin will be your downfall. The more emphasis you put on it will definitely be sensed by any gal and can/will be taken as a sign of desperation (which whether you know it or not really is). Become accepting and comfortable about the fact that you are a virgin and it will be noticed!!!

EasternFix6 · 2020-05-08T01:11:34+00:00

If you are weird about it, it'll be weird. If you own and have fun with it, it won't be weird. Gotta start doing it to get better though.

ryan_dfs · 2020-05-08T07:50:30+00:00

I wouldn't mention it unless they ask about it. The stigma is awful around it.

The only difference is if it was someone you're looking to be in a relationship with, I would be honest.

revente · 2020-05-08T08:04:59+00:00

Use craiglist to find a dude to blow. After that, technicallyyou won’t be a virgin anymore!

tf_17 · 2020-05-08T08:11:45+00:00

Just don't tell her about it then?

AloofAlliteration · 2020-05-08T15:36:01+00:00

Some girls find that attractive.

I know some older women that would seek you out because of that.

There's a sense of corrupting innocence that some people take pleasure in.

Don't let it cloud your mind and just go for the gold then you'll look back at this situation some day and laugh.

caprisun64 · 2020-05-08T23:40:49+00:00

Thanks a lot for he opinions and advice real helpful. What I’m learning is I’m more scared of rejection than anything. All of this I think is my internal fear of rejection and being alone, which is making me alone.

Jacob_961 · 2020-05-07T12:04:55+00:00

The girl doesn't know you are a virgin and it is not something that you need to disclose anyway. No girl will ask you if you are a virgin or not.

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