One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 26 Progress Report

somedude9797 · 2020-06-23T13:36:00+00:00

It needs much balls to do this all alone. Keep doing it man.

In my view, it would be a good idea to plan on how u want to structure your text, e.g. approaching, small talk, flirt, date

KingDiogenes55 · 2020-06-23T16:07:30+00:00

dude, you inspire me to keep going on my journey too. keep rocking!

Dominus-Prime- · 2020-06-23T21:11:29+00:00

How many approaches have you had in these 26 days?

talionrayon · 2020-06-24T00:11:34+00:00

See, improvement. ABout the blanking part, you are getting boxed in my man - just think about your standards. You are not there to open only, your goal is - 1. Get ass 2. Or let her help you get into the sack with other girls. For that, you need to scan logistics pretty well - like where is she from, who is she waiting for, how is her view from the place she stays(covert question to know what kind of person she is ), how's her plan looking next day etc. PLus, having a plan for a weekly meetup helps, like a container event you have with your friends on a weekly basis. This gives you confidence to ask her to it and makes you look like you have something to offer. Damn, I wish I was in your place damn it. Home is getting into my nerves XD. Btw, after opening like the 3rd interaction, I would, compliment her about complimenting me, like 'Oh thanks, wow you are really nice' and continue on asking - where are you from?(her response)-Oh, I haven't been there/ I've been there. Is it true what they say about girls form......?(her response)....and continue.....always compliment on her good behaviour and reinforce it, goes a long way into setting the tone. Btw did she say she had to meet her friends after you were like hovering there?

revente · 2020-06-23T14:14:16+00:00

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GGuy999 · 2020-06-23T22:47:40+00:00

In my case the blank -ness after open occurs when I'm in my head too much, overthink etc. You should stop worrying about what to say and just say whatever you think about, have fun no matter how she reacts, and be proud of the BALLS you have to approach in times when not everybody does!

ForeverKarlMalone · 2020-06-24T02:13:36+00:00

I said it before but I’ll say it again. Talk LOUDER and slower! Stop getting blown out of every set because of your fast quiet voice

Neil1398 · 2020-06-24T02:57:22+00:00

I started approaching as well consistently like 4 days ago. And man it is it hard. Most chicks don’t really give the time of day. However I spent all these years running from away from girls giving choosing signals or girls I found attractive. So I feel like I’m doing for all the times I took the easier route.

One thing I need to work on is stopping the girl. I’ll just keep walking if we’re going the same direction.

Looking back the individual approach doesn’t matter much to me. You quickly develop that mindset that there’s always another lol.

FlatDistance5 · 2020-06-24T04:59:15+00:00

Not sure if your doing this already and I haven't seen it mentioned yet. But start taking cold showers it'll help you, in my experience, be more free flowing. I always point to the fact that your using the London daygame model, but the model is mostly a guide, kinda like checkpoints to the ultimate goal of laying your subject. So you need more improv (free-flowing convo) on your way to the next checkpoint. I know it's a little woo-woo but cold showers will help you in that department. Try it just 1 day this week cold shower 2 min see if it doesnt change your conversation for the better.

Also you mentioned canned material that is a great idea write down your positive interacrions and take pieces from it to see how it plays out in other sets until you get into the flow.

Good luck bro. I'm enjoying seeing your growth

GREManFromMars · 2020-06-24T11:47:03+00:00

Good job!

febgeekymom · 2020-06-28T13:30:15+00:00

The funniest comment I got was when my ex husband was trying to hit on me. I was in front of my bike, looking in the attached bag for paper and pencil go take notes and he says, "is this your bag?" My first thought was, "no dumbshit, I'm looking in someone else's bike bag..." but I I respond, yes, it was, cue annoyed look

Point is, I later married him despite his dumb pick up line... Hugs. The one worth keeping should hopefully appreciate your courage and boldness

training4wizardry · 2020-06-23T19:13:16+00:00

A good practice day. A decent way to work on getting out of your head is to focus on the girl and what she is feeling. But to do that you have to be comfortable within yourself which is attained many ways, and practicing with interactions is certainly an important one.

So concatenating openers from Day 25 comment. I just threw that word in, but when I approach my eyes are calmly scanning things on the girl and everywhere. Every single observation is an opener. Once I hit the spot (eye contact, physical position, whatever) it's just go time and I just deliver what is in my mind, That Will Reach Her, in that precise moment:

So at a pottery class (Ghost, art, hands, single girls are already subconsciously primed) last weekend with some girl (that I really like) called me up at the last minute and invited me: then during the class, some girl at sink with clay, I'm rolling up with my clay in hand, check out body, black silky blouse, it has flowers on it, nice hair good length I have a thing for brunettes, almost side by side, she's looking forward, so am I kind of, but oh her eyes may be big, I'm still looking forward, kinda, her body tenses slightly as I get side by side (at top of the class I entered LARGE so yes girl you are going to start feeling things very soon) her body tenses slightly because A MAN is standing by her (that's what I think, anyway), I turn on the next faucet, water is flowing, I turn my head at her, she quarter turns her face toward me then GO! "hmm I don't think you look quite messy enough" Eyes meet!! FULL EYE CONTACT I'm thinking 'Lord help me you're prettier than I thought!!' She tilts her head down and looks up at me shyly, my heart pounds faster, she is saying something I have NO IDEA what she JUST SAID! Her eyes look EVEN BIGGER now and she is all shy and nervous with her body (twisting her shoulders back and forth, in a rocking motion that centers kind of toward me) all while she looks up at me with huge eyes: BOOM, I just opened. I already hooked 20 minutes ago before I ever said a word, this just put a nail in it, SOLIDLY (as I would soon find out). There were 8 girls in that class, 2 guys, I opened every single girl in full view of all for sure. One phone number, the card of the close-to-hot instructor, and meeting the girl that invited me at her house on wednesday (tommorrow).

So, every observation counts. They are all openers. The words you say count, but they also don't count at all. The real interaction is all the other stuff (the fun stuff), imo sometimes the words are just social gibberish that just need to meet some minimal standard society 'requires'. Sometimes the words totally matter.

So Practicing concatenating openers: Rando When Harry met Sally prop cover:

https://www.visitfairfieldcounty.org/events.php?calname=cal&id=602

Meg Ryan. Rolling up. In the park, nice jacket, she would look good wearing a hat, pretty leaves out today, could care less about harry, preppy shoes, late 80's hair do, on the spot, eyes meet, GO!

Hi like your tweedy jacket. You could pull off a hat with this outfit. Hey who goes to the park looking like an accountant. Oh probabaly an accountant. What's in your purse that thing IS HUGE. You could like, carry a SEVERED HEAD in that purse. Don't stalk me. You look like Felicity - Dean and Deluca, lets go. Hey I used to wear penny loafers (whatever) in high school- Yes! I wear polo, but only when I'm cleaning house. What a beautiful day- WE lucked out. etc. etc.

It does not matter really what I say. It does and it doesn't, but that is not what is really going on. I likely would not float the 'huge purse' or the 'severed head', but I would sure think it, and I would be smiling. The beauty of cold approach is you learn to say things when really you are paying attention to all this other stuff.

As far as going blank after the open. Here you just need stuff in your head. Become intellectually curious ABOUT EVERYTHING. For example since you are keying in on artistic and fashion detail

Watch and study Alexander McQueen ASAP: amazon torrent rental whatever

https://www.amazon.com/McQueen-Blu-ray-Joseph-Bennett/dp/B07HPZVBSC

He's a british fashion designer guy.

Boom: art and fashion, plus a heartbreaking story:

Open blah blah art fashion whatever, Go! Oh I just watched Alexander McQueen. What a story. London fashion scene. New York fashion week. Car on fire in the runway. Can fire be art? Ok prove it. I understand color now. Materials can define art. Do emtpy spaces make art. MOMA. The Lourve. He cried at the end of that exhibition with the paint and the dress. Christian Dior, Tom Ford, competitors, guinesses. DKNY. The importance of his Mother right. What defines great style. Suddenly, everything I do is inspired by art. I'm about to take a pottery class (WE could take a pottery class). Etc. etc.

Anything that makes good conversation, just keep going on with statements until something hits. Laughing, maybe some light safe touching, etc. Teasing etc etc.

All good, KEEP GOING !

febgeekymom · 2020-06-28T13:33:06+00:00

The felt like an idiot part: you're doing good my friend. Doing good. Just means your interest in her is genuine

Title	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 26 Progress Report
Author	Hanan019
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Date	June 23, 2020 1:00 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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