I HAD A GIRL HOME WITH ME FOR THE FIRST TIME!

Lon4reddit · 2020-07-01T13:51:40+00:00

Don't forget OP is 15 yo...

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ace1244 · 2020-07-01T11:27:23+00:00

There’s nothing quite like the feeling of success with a girl/ woman. I’m very happy for you. 😊

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fakeittillumakeit0 · 2020-07-01T09:47:30+00:00

Nice job! Keep your motivation up.

Frankcastle0117 · 2020-07-01T12:44:23+00:00

Good job chief!

fakeittillumakeit0 · 2020-07-01T17:30:57+00:00

Dude good for U no pressure u did well u had ur first experience Great!

WhatRemainsAfter · 2020-07-01T17:53:50+00:00

Way to go boi. Enjoy the ride. Cheers!

recyclablebanthas · 2020-07-03T02:06:15+00:00

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3 Days ago I had a girl home with me for the first time ever.....decided to make my move and it ended out in me and her kissing.

Afterwards we cuddled and talked.....

Sounds like it was a nice experience and it's fine that it only went as far as it did, obviously.

Even if you weren't 15, if you want to go your own pace because you want something different than quick sex, that is each person's prerogative.

All the guys who jumped in here and more or less trolled you for not having bagged her the first night, are in the wrong sub.

If that's what you wanted and It happened, then that's a win. No one else should determine for you, what your goals should be.

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(Currently she is not answering back to my streak on snap as she used to): shes just Opening Them, but i dosent think it means anything)

Social media is a tricky beast. Our social interactions have adapted and changed much over the last 20 years due to the advent of the internet.

And part of the trickiness is that online interactions are not like interactions in real life. You don't get all the information in online interactions, that you get in person.

In person, you can see her facial expressions, body posture, and all the other body language, as she's speaking, or even when she's not speaking.

Online you have text, punctuation, emojis, GIFs, etc, but it's not the same as actually seeing the physical responses in her body, in real time, as you interact.

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So, while the tendency might be to want to place a lot of importance on online interactions, these really should be considered a side dish compared to interacting in person. This stuff is supplementary, not the main event.

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Another common issue, is that our online conversations can take on a life of their own which crowds out other aspects of our lives.

We all should have things to do with our day. Interests and concerns that should be more important to us than sitting around waiting for a response to come back on social media.

This idea that we should have priorities in our lives higher than sitting around waiting for messages, is at the heart of advice that says you should wait before messaging back.

But simply making her wait for a reply to a message, is incomplete.

Simply making her wait for a response, is fake unless it's backed up by you actually having a life that keeps you too busy to immediately respond to every message or reply right away.

Just for your own sanity, you might consider crafting a life for yourself that makes it impossible for you to be able to immediately answer every message that comes in, as it comes in.

This can take a lot of different forms. You might be taking online courses and studying things you're interested in. You might be improving your skill set in a hobby that you really like. You might be doing something with friends. And so on.

The point is, for your own health, it's important to be able to set the phone down and have periods of your day where you're not constantly checking it.

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Lastly, while you can definitely go the manipulative route and just look at her messages without replying for some arbitrary amount of time, just to make her wait, doing it this way will eventually come across as fake.

This will have side effects. Being manipulative can work. A lot of things can work.

But being manipulative works in a way that screens out people who don't care for manipulation. People who are emotionally well-adjusted and balanced usually don't have the patience to deal with manipulation.

Ironically, being manipulative also has a way of attracting and keeping people around who are also manipulative. Which can drag you down.

2udaylatif · 2020-07-01T15:39:21+00:00

Good job

pleaselie · 2020-07-01T16:52:54+00:00

Congrats bro, soon, what you did will become the norm.

DeFancyKebab · 2020-07-01T18:44:51+00:00

Damnn broo you did really well, Im 15 too and haven't done more than making out lol but goodluck bro and like a lot of the comments have said, don't over pursue

Gloomy-Jicama · 2020-07-01T19:16:22+00:00

Don't listen to the people who say you should have screwed her. You're 15 man. Doing whatever you're doing is normal.

Lusy827 · 2020-07-01T20:41:40+00:00

Yayyy! Congratulations :)

AestheticIllSquad · 2020-07-01T20:51:17+00:00

You did the best thing sometime it’s good not to not rush. And with the not answering snap sometimes girls just want you to miss them really bad or she could be playing you who knows.

Kichinjaaa · 2020-07-01T21:02:46+00:00

hey, congratz! you‘ll be a good man one day

Razortruck · 2020-07-01T21:16:17+00:00

Good job! Now go get tested for Covid.

Damn kids these days. . .

2020-07-01T22:09:39+00:00

Congratulations. It has been YEARS since that was me. (Before cell phones and social media!) but I still remember how it felt to be alone with a girl that first time!

No, you did not need to have sex with her. You are correct. Cuddling and talking are awesome and are really under appreciated by some men. The relationship is the important thing and what you did was really part of strengthening that.

Sex is only a part of a relationship. Not a goal, or the relationship itself.

Your post displays something some men do not learn until later in life...And that is that you value the person not just part of their anatomy.

She on the other hand, may be giving herself some space because maybe she’s afraid of the feelings she had at the time. Don’t panic, give her a little time. Give it a few days and call her.

loser-two-point-o · 2020-07-02T01:26:15+00:00

Happy for you

notathr0waway1 · 2020-07-01T15:09:50+00:00

Please keep in mind that if you can do it with this girl, you can do it with another girl. And another girl after that. And again and again and again. No girl is irreplaceable.

fakeittillumakeit0 · 2020-07-01T19:28:11+00:00

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The only girl I've ever seen in my room is in the glass

pto1155 · 2020-07-01T16:32:56+00:00

Man don't post here unless youre 18, Wierd af reading this and Ur 15

proactive-defense · 2020-07-01T13:57:30+00:00

You have experienced a rush of hormones that have associated this woman with positive emotions.

She will be very perceptive as to your lack of frame, you may start to supplicate to her, get a ONEitis. Be wary. She is actually trying to get this to happen. It makes her feel good about herself. She does not actually care about you or your particular set of lips. Merely that you make her feel wanted.

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Title	I HAD A GIRL HOME WITH ME FOR THE FIRST TIME!
Author	fakeittillumakeit0
Upvotes	815
Comments	119
Date	July 1, 2020 8:17 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/hj67oq/i_had_a_girl_home_with_me_for_the_first_time/
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