What now?

MissionToe3030 · 2024-04-20T03:20:36+00:00

I think this is a troll post. Fake.

Decon_SaintJohn · 2024-04-19T23:04:42+00:00

Bro, sorry you're having to go through this. It sucks big time. You see this time and again on this sub aka a high value guy with low self-esteem and self respect that caters to women as a personal doormat. Many of us have been there, so you're not alone.

I suggest reading the book No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr Robert Glover

See if it applies to you. Best of luck to you in this trying time.

Neilkd21 · 2024-04-19T14:11:03+00:00

Short and sweet answer, leave her. Will be tough but if she has done all that and doesn't care about you then it's over. You will be better without her.

dday_throwaway3 · 2024-04-19T13:45:05+00:00

It's not just about being fit and attractive. You have validation seeking behavior coming here asking others if you have value in yourself. As you're finding out the hard way, that's not going to serve you well in life. Not much you can do about it now, but you'll need to address it during your reconstruction process. Start by reading "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Dr. Robert Glover to address your validation seeking and covert contracts.

CulturedGentleman921 · 2024-04-19T11:17:46+00:00

If you are fit and you're not a total jerk you can find other girls.

The main dating apps are all money pit hellscapes, though. Stay off of them.

Just stay away from women for a while. You're not in a good head space right now.

If you must bust a nut, scrape together some money for a high class escort.

CulturedGentleman921 · 2024-04-19T11:14:28+00:00

Talk to a lawyer and get your options.

DarkEnergy67 · 2024-04-19T10:48:43+00:00

Sounds like you don’t want to be her bitch, which is reasonable. Therefore leave.

But, plan your escape. Take your time and do your own research. Firstly, after divorce, you will be her pay pig, and it will destroy you over the years.

Solution? Become ill and lose your job. It is only money and she will take it anyway so let it go. Plan carefully to protect yourself and install home and car security cameras. Make yourself into a man that she wants to leave because some women go crazy if a man rejects them. Plan. Plan. Plan. It will likely take a year or more, but eventually she will leave you. You must plan ahead long term to avoid becoming her slave.

tragicaddiction · 2024-04-19T09:52:48+00:00

often with this kind of sexual stuff it's the thrill of a new person / excitement that's driving it, not because you want to betray, hurt or otherwise don't find the immediate partner attractive.

there is such a thing as sex addiction and yes females can have it too. I don't mean to excuse the behaviour but rather explain more the underlying thing of it which may help you move on from it.

right now your mind is in panic mode, it's worth speaking to a therapist about it all.

what is happening right now with your wife? is she doing therapy on this? did she acknowledge a problem?

what would you like to see happen right now knowing you can't erase the past... is there enough in the relationship that you want to try to move on from this or are you done done? maybe worth giving yourself a couple months to figure that out otherwise and see if your wife is willing to do sex addiction or other therapy in general.

Plenty-Entertainer71 · 2024-04-19T09:31:41+00:00

Are those 2 kids her from previous marriage?

Ptsdveterannavy · 2024-04-19T07:56:57+00:00

You know what to do but are here seeking advice to be sure you aren't overreacting. You need to file for divorce, she don't respect you and will continue in her ways. I wouldn't have adopted her kids, especially if she was being that way before marriage, and now, with a divorce, you're responsible gunshots for the adopted kids. She's treating you like a floor mat brother. Throw away the mat and throw a lawyer to her, get back to who you were before being with her.

Title	What now?
Author	No_Philosopher5664
Upvotes	10
Comments	12
Date	April 19, 2024 6:56 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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