Sickening court garbage

FUMoney · 2024-05-29T05:50:37+00:00

This is not unique to divorce, or family court. Any civil litigation is a cold, sterile process -- and in many respects, it must be. You would feel the same in a personal injury lawsuit, for example, where a doctor or hospital royally fucked up, injuring you for life. Or being the victim of a massive fraud.

Understand the courts are utterly jammed with family law disputes. Ugly ones, too, with domestic violence, potentially fatal drug use and abuse, horrendous gambling addictions, etc. If you've got a "normal" divorce, it doesn't even register with the judicial system. And no matter the case or cause, the judge should strive for impartiality, meaning she or he isn't going to commiserate with you. Similarly, if you ever have a jury trial, they too must be independent, to the best extent possible. You can seek justice, you can seek fairness -- but don't expect anyone, ever, to really "care" the way you do. It's never going to happen, and as I said, in many respects this is the way it must be.

Enough_Youth_4564 · 2024-05-28T22:48:18+00:00

Wait till to you go through the discovery phase, and she shares her arguments on why she deserves more money or more child custody. My ex portrayed me in the worst image ever (note, I’m a good man). I have 4 year history of our daily sms and what’s pp chats and pictures that any junior analyst can analyse to determine that her claims of abuse are lies.

But yes, expect the worst.

alifeofpeace · 2024-05-28T22:28:36+00:00

I’ll never understand what a normal divorce looks like. When you’re dealing with constant false allegations and a war with no end.

rsmiley77 · 2024-05-28T21:20:59+00:00

Divorce sucks. It’s painful. It’s infuriating to see the person you loved and relied on and who relied on you all of a sudden be cold and uncaring. It’s tough to see their version of events where they blame you and are themselves blameless.

I know it sucks but this is how the court system works. They don’t care about the details. They only care about splitting assets and moving o no to the next case. I know it can be a bit nameless. You feel like you’re just a number and to them you are. But in real life you matter. There is hurt and pain behind their rulings that they don’t have to see. They may see a little here or there but the pain and grief can last years.

My advice is to find a therapist where you can talk things out. Say out loud what you’re feeling. Have them help you arrive to the endgame of acceptance and moving on. It’ll come.

Brown33470 · 2024-05-28T20:40:58+00:00

Wait till you go meditate!! Stand your ground don’t budge an inch!

Mobile_Scientist_719 · 2024-05-28T20:05:08+00:00

Yeah, agreed. It's an industry.

Eviction takes less time. And slot machines have better returns.

stent00 · 2024-05-28T19:59:22+00:00

My ex said of marriage... it's just a piece of paper... that's stuck with me. Never again!

Old-Macaroon8148 · 2024-05-28T18:17:00+00:00

It’s a business deal sir. I know it’s difficult to have your commitments, hard work and sacrifices thrown in the trash and have your life treated like numbers in an excel spreadsheet but that’s how it goes.

It’s tough to watch, I know I’ve been there. Hang in there man, it does get better in time.

Title	Sickening court garbage
Author	Equivalent_Rabbit_62
Upvotes	15
Comments	15
Date	May 28, 2024 6:05 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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