Does your action make difference?

SnooHesitations4922 · 2024-06-12T21:42:40+00:00

No.

The best relationships I had were with women that couldn't stand me at first, any one of them will tell you I did nothing correctly.

The hotter the flame; the shorter the burn. This is why seduction and romantic dating are two different things.

Seduction is about initial sexual attraction and lustful urgency. When things are hot and heavy initially one or both people tend to pull back fast, hence one night stands and hookups where u never saw them again.

Dating is about personality attraction built with time and patience.

Here's the real secret: it's EASIER to win over a girl that gives you a hard time at first. Anyone who has studied Shakespeare already knows this. You are far less likely to be kind and sweet to her...which means u are automatically not doing or saying anything un-masculine.

DavidCzeisler · 2024-06-12T21:51:47+00:00

Question? What does it take to post on this forum, or how much "karma" do you have to get?

Just curious?

punktfan · 2024-06-13T00:02:52+00:00

Yes, your actions make a difference! First impressions are important, the essence of who you are is important. But you can very easily destroy someone's interest in you by behaving like an asshole or an idiot. I swear half of this sub doesn't get laid because they act like entitled assholes who deserve pussy in demand without be willing to offer any effort or affection in return. Going the other direction and generating attraction with someone who wasn't initially attracted to you is much harder usually, I don't waste my time and effort trying to change someone's mind. If they don't like me, I focus my effort somewhere else. But I've heard dozens of women say that they didn't initially find their boyfriend attractive until they saw what his character was like from observing his actions over time. For women, a man's character and actions are far more important than how he looks.

ExpensiveGrave · 2024-06-13T03:25:58+00:00

Almost all the women that I’ve slept with or had relations with were significantly attracted to me from the get go. There wasn’t some kind of, “mm, she doesn’t really like me.” It was almost always very clear eyes looking at me and so on.

I generally agree that there doesn’t seem to be much in the way of action that you can do to affect results - other than fucking it up. The main thing I’ve noticed is guys not being forward enough with a woman who obviously likes them or saying really stuff they shouldn’t be saying in front of a woman. (Getting too comfortable - you need to have a bit of a presentation going for the first couple months you know a woman, imo)

This idea you can just win over women if you play the dialogue or action tree right is mostly bullshit. It’s mostly guys not realizing how attractive they are to women overall and not coming to realize, “oh, if I don’t act like a retard then women might like me”. Instead they assume they cracked the code - no, you were just being a dipshit and now you’re not… sometimes.

Badguy60 · 2024-06-12T20:49:11+00:00

I have to agree.

First impressions basically rule everything else

rich_god · 2024-06-12T21:06:05+00:00

No it’s not correct. But it’s not so much about what you do, more about the mindset you have that your actions express. Initial attraction is only important if you have a basic behavior that will not make you more attractive when people know you more.

Fit_Pirate_2655 · 2024-06-12T21:28:31+00:00

Yup. This is why i’m filing a lawsuit on my parents for making me 5’9” and indian.

TRTGymBro1 · 2024-06-13T00:08:15+00:00

You have to let go of this incredibly needy attachment to attracting every single woman you come across.

1keentolearn12 · 2024-06-13T08:08:48+00:00

Attraction beats action

Osiris_Raphious · 2024-06-13T00:46:56+00:00

Yes,... this is why seduction teaches you things you can do to increase that initial interest... Everything else is about you and her and if you vibe or not. You can be a recluse and pull a woman into a relationship, if there is something between you to make it work. Without seduction it is the same as OP just less obvious as the man isn't making moves to show he is interested and enticing.

Its like a game of life, or game of love. There are arbitury rules for engagement with the other party. Knowing those makes things easier and quicker.

saulisdating · 2024-06-13T12:06:53+00:00

“No matter how much good things you do and how much you behave well”

Define what those mean because it looks like you’re “trying to behave well” around women which makes you disingenuous and inauthentic.

You behave how you would normally behave. If you adjust your behaviour to try to behave “the right way” or so someone likes you, you’ll just come off as weird or creepy.

Title	Does your action make difference?
Author	cryengineP
Upvotes	44
Comments	73
Date	June 12, 2024 8:40 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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