How are you guys? I feel like someone should check in.

yyuyuyu2012 · 2024-06-13T16:38:21+00:00

Kinda meh, but my business I am working on is showing some promising signs (like 3 people wanted to invest in it out of the gate, and I have not even made any sales yet). Dating sucks, but met a girl outside the States and will see how that goes. Felt like telling my boss off for bullshittig and talking about me in front of coworkers. I will see how the business goes but barring that I might make a U turn and going into a type of trades (one that a lot of people don't talk about). we shall see but my boss really threw off my mood for a moment. Also the job market made me a bit blue. A few weeks ago I got angry at God/the Universe, and got the inkling that I should just give it to the void and the business started falling into place and my brain started coming up with creative solutions with the job situation. Jury is still out on dating. I know that whatever comes that as long as I worked my butt off and did not leave any stone unturned I can be proud of what I have done and whatever happens is destined to occur how it will occur. I just need to play the cards that are given, as I cannot chose the cards, but I can move tables if need be ;) .

Fragmented79 · 2024-06-13T18:38:05+00:00

Lonely, depressed, and bitter.

gettin_paid_to_poop · 2024-06-13T18:17:49+00:00

A mixture. Realising I'm making progress but also that I still have a long way to go.

My main current goal is to try to have more consistency in terms of healthy/productive habits. And that in turn helps me reach all my secondary goals, so I'm trying to keep that up.

Compared to where I was 4-5 years ago I'm doing so much better (in terms of mental health, emotionally, socially, financially, etc). I am probably not as good physically but it's a work in progress and that's on my list. :)

Thanks for asking. I like your username btw 😁

Worth_Panic2490 · 2024-06-13T21:24:39+00:00

Life is good. I have a lot of good people and friends and hobbies. Financially we are doing well. Got some nice time off, and my job isn’t that bad.

I have Borderline Personality Disorder, which can make any day a dramatic flare up. But that doesn’t mean that life is bad. Or even the day. I can work through my moods.

Currently in bed relaxing after work with my wonderful doggie, while my even more wonderful husband makes me dinner. He doesn’t work, he takes care of everything else, and I work. Life is good.

CanDiscombobulated23 · 2024-06-14T02:34:11+00:00

I (22M) feel very Isolated and nearly suicidal. After I learnt about the redpill and men’s rights and basically began to “awaken”, I realised how little most people understand about the psychology of the dating market and how VERY little people care about men or have any empathy whatsoever towards us. They really don’t give a fuck about us, and sometimes “they” includes other men.

Now realising this, I thought maybe if I share what I’ve learned with other people, maybe we can raise awareness. But all people ever take this as is being misogynistic only because understanding the ails of men comes with acknowledging that women do have a part to play in it. And that is such an uncomfortable concept for people to grasp that they would rather be intellectually dishonest and continue to blame men for the very problems they are complaining about. Even some of the people closest to me who I regarded as some of the most logical, intellectual and enlightened individuals, literally have a mental block when it comes to these topics.

So I feel isolated, because nobody gets it. I can only find people who get it online, but a huge chunk of them just degenerate into woman-hating, which I don’t like. But I understand the frustration and hurt behind that.

The reason I try to talk to people about it is because I’m not an incel, which if I was, people would use to invalidate my talking points. I have a very beautiful girlfriend, $70k/yr job in Software, all at such a young age, and many male and female friends. I should be happy, but I’m not. Because nobody is willing to confront the uncomfortable truths behind men’s issues. It’s the intellectual dishonesty that upsets me, especially when it comes from other men.

I recently checked myself into therapy because I heard from a psychologist that 50% of men who commit suicide have no history or evidence of mental illness (like me) but they do so because they feel socially isolated (like me), primarily because they aren’t allowed to voice out their frustrations, and when they do, they get shut down and told it’s their fault. I don’t want to become another statistic and I’ve never thought I’d be close to unaliving myself but this has brought me the closest. I can’t even talk about these things to anyone in person anymore because it either devolves into an argument or they accuse me of being a misogynist or an MRA (which carries a negative connotation).

People just need to realize that the men are really not okay and a lot of it is not their fault. That’s the only way change can happen. Otherwise the world fucked and there’s no point living in it anymore.

kkkan2020 · 2024-06-13T16:57:20+00:00

The police do wellness checks but by that point no one has seen you for weeks and there's a very foul odor coming from your house.

paraque159 · 2024-06-13T15:56:17+00:00

It’s difficult. Every breath I take is stealing air from a strong independent woman and oppressing her.

PhormalPhallicy · 2024-06-13T19:59:12+00:00

Ya know that meme of the dog with the house on fire around him, and he's saying, "Everything is fine?" Maybe it's the panel of a comic originally.

Anyway, I'm simultaneously the dog and the firefighter who eventually has to come save him.

EOD_Bad_Karma · 2024-06-13T16:00:59+00:00

I thought my life peaked when I was roughly 29-30. I’m now 40, have had two businesses started and failed. Got a degree in electrical engineering and my life feels like it’s reached a new peak.

I’m doing fairly fantastic overall. No bad debts, making in the top 6-7% in the U.S. for income, many close friends, multiple girlfriends. Being disabled kinda sucks but I’ve gotten used to that by now, minus the whole “legs feel like they’re on fire from the inside sometimes” portion.

Just constantly working on life and things feel like everything all suddenly clicked together. Only took about a decade to get here after many big L’s.

Tangible_Falcon · 2024-06-13T18:24:20+00:00

It's coming up on 2 months since I spoke to another human; so overall pretty shit.

Enough-Staff-2976 · 2024-06-13T19:25:05+00:00

I live by Ashwagandha. It relaxes me. All of the craziness becomes background noise.

2024-06-13T19:43:04+00:00

I’m feeling rather happy. Monday I met a new coworker (we both are summer help), today we went to lunch together and she asked if I would be interested in joining her for trivia night next week. I said I was interested in that. Not sure if that counts as a date or not.

Royal_IDunno · 2024-06-13T21:28:35+00:00

My mood is sorta meh, it is what it is I suppose… trynna look for a new job at the moment and it’s my 25th birthday this Saturday and don’t really have no one to spend time with as everyone else is busy with work or something else so my mood is juss meh oh well.

iweptshelaughed · 2024-06-14T00:06:35+00:00

Most definitely wife is just shitting all on me for having setbacks no car so we share hers and she’s lost all respect for me it’s so toxic it’s crazy

LeaderOfTheBeavers · 2024-06-13T17:25:15+00:00

Very poorly. But hey I learned that crisis evaluations sure are fun!

MagnaCumLoudly · 2024-06-13T17:47:17+00:00

My life is a living hell of higher and higher expectations and anxiety that I’ll never truly be able to build some sort of wealth, a home, or family.

Techdude_Advanced · 2024-06-13T19:38:48+00:00

Not happy not sad. Just working on things and slowly getting things back to normal. Thanks for starting this.

Texas_Shepard · 2024-06-13T21:51:46+00:00

I was very down for years. I got my shit back together slowly. After therapy took me a year later i met the women of my life and I've only been super happy now and only focusing on career now

Memedealer1999 · 2024-06-14T00:42:15+00:00

Been a rough day yesterday night 😕😕😕

Modernhomesteader94 · 2024-06-14T02:32:43+00:00

Not good Man! Life is sad if you’re a man in the 21st century

Valus22 · 2024-06-14T02:47:08+00:00

I’m struggling and have been for a long time now. Taking it a day at a time but the older I get the more I feel like im not meant to be in this world. Made so many mistakes. Just turned 28 and have no close friends, significant other, or support system. My only significant accomplishment is getting off of drugs. I’m about 2 years away from an engineering bachelors, but I suspect it’s not going to be any different if I make it that long. Some small part of me has some hope and that’s why I’m still here. But for the most part it’s hard to see a light at the end of the tunnel.

HelloFuckYou1 · 2024-06-14T04:33:13+00:00

tbh, it doesn't matter....

we are men after all

warrenva · 2024-06-13T18:13:32+00:00

Depressed because I can’t seem to find a decent job in my field. Decided to say screw it and am studying to go back to school. Besides that, the weather is decent and I have a full belly.

Spare_Freedom4339 · 2024-06-13T20:58:02+00:00

Not the best, could be worse I guess.

LateDream · 2024-06-14T09:35:51+00:00

My life is going nowhere and I've been in pain frequently for the past 8-ish months.

SneakyHermitCrabs · 2024-06-13T15:56:52+00:00

All of the above if I’m being honest, but I’ll be fine. How’re you doing?

SneakyHermitCrabs · 2024-06-14T01:09:48+00:00

Wow, I wish I’d done this a long time ago. I feel better and it seems like it’s helped other people, too. Should I make this a regular thing?

skllyskullstyle · 2024-06-14T02:39:32+00:00

I myself am actually surprisingly doing good so far. That's suspicious. And I'm working hard yk?

SchwiftedMetal · 2024-06-14T02:43:24+00:00

It's always just purgatory for me. But thanks for checking in. Hope you're doing well.

HyakuBikki · 2024-06-14T04:00:20+00:00

contemplating suicide rn

Keldaras · 2024-06-14T04:44:46+00:00

Rough. Money is tight, it has been for a long time now. Just finished moving into another even smaller rental: a one bedroom apartment/renovated bachelor suite. Fifth time I have been forced to move in 4 years. I have not been able to properly settle. Living in a sea of boxes, no idea how to declutter and down size.

Commuting an hour to 1.5hrs to work every day for the next 1.5 months or so. I know that is not much for most people but being in constant rush hour traffic is very draining on me.

Very little if any downtime to spend on my own health and wellbeing after work.

I feel like I am constantly at my wits' end. Oh, and I did have a complete mental breakdown at the beginning of the year where I took time off work, only been back at it for around 2 months.

I often feel like I have no idea what I am doing, constantly stuck in a rut of barely scraping by, and it's becoming increasingly more difficult to see the point of it all.

HelpfulViolinist3562 · 2024-06-14T04:51:18+00:00

Well, having been laid off due to the company I worked for going bankrupt, sucks, but the real kick in nuts was getting the call two minutes after getting a call saying my uncle died. So I'm sucking off the government tit trying to find a job. Truthfully I'm just tired of the indifference of it all.

Malio94 · 2024-06-14T05:32:43+00:00

Sorta ok but sorta not. After not knowing what I wanted to do for work during my 20's Ive been making progress on getting my pilots license and I'm prepping for my flight test now (29). Also just bought a broken used Jeep which I brought back to life and is running well. On the flipside though I'm the most stressed, broke and in debt than I've ever been in in my life and it's kinda scary. Also haven't been out at all so far this summer since I've been too busy working, studying and doing flight lessons. Overall I can't complain though =)

IlIIlIIIlIl · 2024-06-14T05:42:22+00:00

Not well. I just "divorced" my mother. I never want to see or hear from her ever again.

UbiquitousWobbegong · 2024-06-14T06:06:19+00:00

Yeah, I straddle the border between passive and active suicidal ideation. But that's been the norm for me for 20 years. I'm still here, so I'm still winning.

I wish it were easier to find male groups irl where we could build each other up. I think that would make a difference. There's a lot of focus on sharing your trauma in meet-up groups for lonely people, and I think people end up wallowing in it. Learning new skills together and helping each other move forward seems like the healthier way to create positive momentum.

SneakyHermitCrabs · 2024-06-14T06:21:53+00:00

How about you? Are you doing okay?

Also just wanna say you’re awesome for checking in on everyone!

doctorobjectoflove · 2024-06-14T08:51:52+00:00

Good here. Don't feel like a victim and have a loving relationship with my partner and have many female friends.

I wish you my kind of success.

QuantumHalyard · 2024-06-14T09:05:23+00:00

I’m doing well, better than I have done for a chunk of my life so I can’t complain. Exams almost over but I have to leave the college I’ve grown so accustomed to and see much less of the friends I love but I’ll get over it in time.

What about you?

Kosmopolitykanczyk · 2024-06-14T12:30:54+00:00

I am behind financially and starting my business have to be pushed back which is a bummer but the rest is pretty nice.

gaut80 · 2024-06-14T13:23:22+00:00

Somewhat low, but it's usual so... as long as I don't feel completely down, I live by the day. Thanks for asking.

dreiviertel · 2024-06-14T14:52:53+00:00

My mood is "If I get run over by a bus, that's ok."

Need more?

BothAnybody1520 · 2024-06-15T05:24:24+00:00

Working 16 hour shifts constantly because half of our staff is on maternity leave or deployed with the guard. Yea so I’m really loving not sleeping or spending time with my kid. 🙄

nail_worm · 2024-06-14T19:57:33+00:00

Unfortunately, you caught me at a bad time. Usually I'm vibing pretty good, but this week my girlfriend decided to stop talking to me and has been giving me the silent treatment all week. It's been a struggle to not be connected to she who is my favorite person, but the real nail in the coffin is that based on my reaction (non-emotional, stoic business as usual attitude) to her silent treatment she has determined that I must not love her any more and will not have a conversation with me about it (you know, silent treatment stuff). I know she is going through a lot right now and this is all a negative over-reaction to the problems in her life. But it hurts to be both the victim of her neglect and deemed the problematic one about it.

I appreciate you asking the question and I would like to return the favor because I hope you are well yourself.

TheTankCommando2376 · 2024-07-01T01:13:55+00:00

I'm feeling pretty good what about you?

Title	How are you guys? I feel like someone should check in.
Author	SneakyHermitCrabs
Upvotes	106
Comments	153
Date	June 13, 2024 3:33 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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