One and a half year marriage ended abruptly

Commercial-Rub-3223 · 2024-06-26T03:32:37+00:00

You guys are giving up too easily ask her for marriage counseling first. See if she has an open to do so. Don't give up keep fighting your showing that your quitting. But if she cheated then don't be amicable and get a good lawyer to destroy her legally

darkerwithin · 2024-06-25T19:30:11+00:00

She is being amicable about everything. Work quickly and when it is all finalized ghost her. This may seem like harsh advice but you will find it prudent when the dust settles.

How to keep strong? Survive each day as it comes. Don't look back. You have lost nothing where your partner treated you with dismissive responses, did not allow you to be yourself and unceremoniously discarded you.

Is the grass greener on the other side? No. The grass is greener where you care for and water it. Don't be surprised if at some point she attempts to come back to you. Unless you would like to repeat your present experience do not take her back.

I cannot emphasize this enough if she is agreeable for the moment then work quickly to get yourself free and the best deal possible for yourself. You will find her far less agreeable if her new life doesn't work out and you refuse to take her back.

captainchippsixx · 2024-06-25T00:53:44+00:00

She monkey branched to another guy. Once she was sure she liked the guy she asked for a divorce. The separation was planned event. Women think 2-3 moves ahead to get the outcome they want.

probebeta · 2024-06-25T00:07:38+00:00

If you don't have kids you dodged a bullet my friend. To stay strong go lift weights like your life depended on it. Thank me later. Gym, workout, self care, make money. There are plenty of women and you have lots of runway left. Dont waste it on women and feelings. Make her regret her decision, not to prove it to her but to yourself that you can do much much better.

DatabaseSpace · 2024-06-24T17:11:34+00:00

If you're going to have to go through a divorce, it's much better to go through it when you are instead of years later. If you earn more you end up paying alimony, possibly losing your house to pay off the other person's share of the equity, I lost $50,000 from my 401k. I mean who knew someone that never contributed a single penny to your 401k would be entitled to 50 grand? They never mentioned that to me in the 401k meetings at work. Anyway, usually when women need space to be alone and are thinking about divorce, that means another guy is involved. That's how they roll. I would consider yourself lucky, make sure you are in good shape, get some decent pictures of yourself and go meet someone new or at least start dating around but don't get too serious yet. I'm bad at the second part myself.

Android_1234 · 2024-06-24T02:51:41+00:00

I am about 5 months out from a complete blindside. Hindsight is 20/20 and I probably should have seen some signs but I didn't. I have taken count of what I did in the relationship that should have been improved upon no doubt but I never expected anything was bad enough to elicit a divorce. I loved her with all my heart and that wasn't enough and that's ok.

Try to stay amicable if you are able. I was able to in my divorce and that helped limit expenses and more emotional turmoil tenfold. You are embarking on a journey you never wanted to be on, but you are on that path now. You have a few options here. You can either turn back and attempt to run to her, knowing full well she initiated this and desired it. You can stay stagnant and not move all; wallowing in your self pity and confusion. You can push forward and march down the unknown path, discovering what lies ahead and taking it step by step. The last path is by far the hardest but most rewarding. I certainly spent time on the first couple of paths and while it is important to let yourself feel all the things, those paths will not lead you to the future and healing.

We have this one life. We have this rather short time to make the most out of it. You can only control your actions/reactions and your emotions. That is it. Literally everything else is outside of your direct control. Can you influence it? Absolutely. You cannot however directly control those external things as you've seen. The grass will be greener where you water it. For now that is yourself and your path to healing. Never feel bad about having tough days (spoiler alert they will keep coming and going). I do however implore you to realize that this bump in the road is but a part of your overall journey. Continue making solid, informed decisions that will help you heal. I'm thinking about you tonight brother and hope you know you've got someone who has gone through it rooting for you.

upvotersfortruth · 2024-06-24T02:33:43+00:00

Is the grass greener on the other side?!

For the vast majority of us, YES!

Title	One and a half year marriage ended abruptly
Author	shalalala77
Upvotes	15
Comments	19
Date	June 24, 2024 1:18 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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