Do masculine men typically appreciate complements regarding their appearance? For some reason I worry that texting my boyfriend who is quite masculine and traditional (but would never self-identify as red pill even though much of his ideology matches) something like “hi handsome” would feel emasculating? I want to give him complements but don’t know if focusing on looks is the best way to make him feel manly. I also don’t want to come across as shallow and only able to appreciate his looks instead of his other amazing traits. It would however feel weird to text something like “good morning my brave and fearless leader” lol. Thoughts on giving casual complements to your man about his appearance? This is really only in the context of casual text conversations. I give complements verbally regarding non-superficial things when we are together or being intimate.

Additional context, my boyfriend and I are working on rebuilding our relationship after a stint of conflict. I shared something about my past that I should have shared much earlier in the relationship but didn’t and unfortunately this delay in disclosure has led to some disillusionment and feelings of betrayal on his end. This was over a month ago and it’s been very difficult to get past, although I believe we have made it through the worst parts and are now working on getting back to normal. I am very lucky to still have him, even though I really screwed up. Me pre-crisis wouldn’t think twice about sending a “hi handsome” text but I am trying to be more tactful. Also, is texting first emasculating? Should I trust that he will text me when he wants to (especially given the conflict and that sometimes the thought of me can still anger him)? It’s not a power game, just don’t want to bother him if he doesn’t want to talk yet. But I also want him to know I am thinking of him and love him. Thanks all :)