Virgins: Why haven’t you had sex yet? what’s taking so long? how old are u?

Pegmaster6969696969 · 2024-07-03T12:24:33+00:00

I lost my virginity at 22 with a random internet girl who lived close to my city. Here are some reasons why it took so long.

I'm not attractive. When you're not handsome, or even ugly like me, you have to rely on charisma (game) and money.
I was really introverted and had social anxiety. I still do, I have just gotten better at pretending I dont. In that sensez, I didn't really know how to talk to women and flirt. Sure I could be their friend but nothing else.
Even when I learned to flirt, women only saw me as a friend. This is what I call the "teddy bear effect". Teddy bears are cute and we all love them, but imagine one with a dick and now it's ridiculous, maybe even repulsive. This is how women have viewed me my whole life, as some sort of emotional support pet that can do the job, but makes her nauseous when she tries to view it sexually.
Maybe the main reason: I wasn't into casual sex. This is the time when I used to believe in love. I was under the delusion that the first time had to be with someone special and that it couldn't be with anyone. After years of rejections and suffering I decided to give up on love and look for casual stuff and for my first time I was really lucky. Since then I've been able to have casual sex every couple of months. I went from 0 game to some game in a few months which is an exponensial growth in my eyes.

ElPROFESOR32 · 2024-07-03T12:37:29+00:00

30 still virgin

Short-Gear5686 · 2024-07-03T12:04:35+00:00

16 years old, i havent had so much female friends so i dont have girlfriend, planning to cold approach but dont know how to make convos fun :/

Valravn6666 · 2024-07-03T12:22:35+00:00

25 here, and I’m still a virgin because I was extremely antisocial during most of my time in high school and college. I’ve been working on overcoming this over the past year, and I now feel comfortable having conversations with others. I’ve developed my personality, and I have confidence now. The next step for me is losing weight and building a physique so that I can start attracting the women I want.

TheSnake1313 · 2024-07-03T12:01:43+00:00

What about you?

R000TKIT · 2024-07-03T12:35:29+00:00

I am not a Chad. I'm not rich. I'm don't have body like Adonis. I'm also brown, and I read that brown men aren't desired in the west where I grew up. So I avoided interacting with women. Been 13 years since I last talked to one. Now it's too late and I missed out on my prime to attract someone.

rodneyhaxle · 2024-07-03T13:13:51+00:00

I have kelloids.

Alkariel · 2024-07-03T13:26:21+00:00

I did take long. But i was mostly personal insecurities.

Norj3n · 2024-07-03T12:39:31+00:00

I lost it at 28.

Too shy and inhibited to talk to any woman, and I'm fairly sure I'm on the spectrum too. I was told you just gotta take regular showers and be yourself, so I did. I never really went anywhere, and when I happened to go I didn't try to talk with anyone, and I honestly thought I was doing my best because I didn't smell and I was being myself.

I still can't talk to women in live situations because every single one if them looks like they're too important to spend any time talking to me. Or that my attention is just plainly not wanted and they'll get annoyed with me talking to them. I don't think I'm ugly or anything and it's not about any singular attribute in me that I'd think that makes me unwanted to them, it's just a baseline gut feeling that I'm just somehow not their type or whatever. I can't really explain it.

I also used to have MASSIVE hangups about sex, and I thought that any form of approach would be seen as 100% sex motivated and the reception would thus be 100% negative, and I didn't know how people end up having one night stands and such. I thought I gotta somehow make it obvious that I have only purely platonic motives here, and I didn't know how, so I never tried to talk to anyone. Not having female friends didn't help so I didn't have any real knowledge on how women think and behave and how we're actually more alike than it would seem.

phantompersona1023 · 2024-07-03T12:58:22+00:00

30 years old, virgin, mainly because of my weight I'm ashamed of how I look and I feel like I'm a a big fat unattractive monster. This has absolutely tore my confidence to shreds to the point where I've become a kissless, sexless incel at 30.

TuneSoft7119 · 2024-07-03T13:56:48+00:00

M26. I am christian and waiting for marriage.

I have never been on a date, always turned down, and now I have missed my chance since theres no single girls anymore. Plus I am ugly and undatable according to every girl I have asked out.

Available_Bass9725 · 2024-07-03T12:20:43+00:00

Reputational reasons after the August 2021 incident and the mental effect it had on me which ended me on antidepressants and eventually I had increased prolactin and erection issues.

Furthermore, I am not wasting my first time on some random generic girl. I have my standards. I want my first time to be special with a beautiful virgin redhead girl that we have emotional connection with. Does the latter even exist though? there is an abyss between the sexes but I was told it exists. So if others had it I want it too. I'm not worse than them, am I?

Jumpy_Tooth_8117 · 2024-07-03T13:26:17+00:00

I moved a lot during the period that I wanted to lose it and was picky with women

Title	Virgins: Why haven’t you had sex yet? what’s taking so long? how old are u?
Author	WakeNBake411
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Date	July 3, 2024 12:00 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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