Girl im talking to say she wants me to be more vulnerable….

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IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2024-07-10T02:23:35+00:00

Instead of making up stories (that she'll eventually find out are lies if you stay together for a while, which will create a whole entire set of problems), call her out on it.

My wife, back when she was my girlfriend, said the same thing. I told her, "No you don't. Any time I show vulnerability you freak out. That's what women do. Either that, or you use it against us later and laugh at us." Her mindset changed immediately.

Anyone that you're with for a long time is going to see you in a vulnerable place eventually. If they don't have the mindset to handle that, your relationship will be doomed.

Silly_Randy · 2024-07-10T06:32:18+00:00

I would have switched it on her.

"Ive been vulnerable. You haven't been paying attention? Woowwww".

Then become cold with her and watch her follow me around like a lil cute puppy.

Blitted_Master · 2024-07-10T00:16:13+00:00

Tell her a story about some time you fucked up and accidentally did some impressive shit.

Peelfest2016 · 2024-07-10T00:20:44+00:00

This could be super corny if you’re not careful about how you deliver it, but your greatest fear is living a life of no consequence. Going to the grave without properly having made your mark on this world only to be forgotten a few years later. Terrifying. And manly.

jamesfalken · 2024-07-10T03:03:00+00:00

I would just brush that shit off and not give her this stupid thing that she's asking for. Faking it is maybe the lamest shit, if you want to genuinely open up to her on your own terms tell her some truth.

roakmamba · 2024-07-10T07:24:08+00:00

Just tell her we'll get there eventually if you play your cards right. Because if you haven't then she hasn't done the work to get shit out of you and get to know you more.

TRTGymBroX · 2024-07-10T10:53:03+00:00

Repeat after me. What vulnerability is NOT:

talking about how your childhood priest molested you
how you were bullied in middle school and forced to lick the bathroom floor by your bully
being a total loser in high school and having no girls interested in you
that you are often depressed and super anxious and don’t think you are good enough for her
that you’ve considered killing your self over a girl

And so on and so forth. Leave this shit in the depths of your psyche or for your therapist.

Being vulnerable with women means talking about how you feel about her, how you enjoy seeing her and she makes you happy. Showing your appreciation for her and what she does and how she takes care of you.

Particular-Tax4511 · 2024-07-10T07:25:32+00:00

Here’s an idea, just don’t do it. If she wants to know bad enough she’ll keep chasing for it. Eventually she’ll treasure the little bits of you that she gets to know. Just be mysterious lol. Say one thing, then do another, be someone who peaks curiousity, playful one moment, cool the next. As soon as she thinks she knows you do something unexpected.

Sporty_guyy · 2024-07-10T09:11:01+00:00

Just sell her some emo shit .

HeavenPiercingMan · 2024-07-10T01:30:08+00:00

You could talk about personal things but do it with a strong tone. Reframing them as worries that you accept but won't let you get the best of you.

"it sucks, but it is what it is. We all gotta deal with it and move on" or something like that, showing resilience I guess.

Ronnyvar · 2024-07-10T09:37:25+00:00

it’s a trap

blinkb28 · 2024-07-10T12:12:34+00:00

"It's not that I'm hiding my vulnerabilities, I just never really feel vulnerable, maybe that's weird but I don't want to make up stories"
If she's dumb enough to believe in "men should disclose their vulnerabilities to their partner", she's dumb enough to be satisfied with this answer.

IamWisdom · 2024-07-10T12:15:55+00:00

Don't do it!!!! Once you do it she will get bored and turn and run. Keep doing what you're doing.

Several_Ad_8363 · 2024-07-10T05:54:37+00:00

She's trying to get a relationship delivered "to order" instead of building it herself. If you're not ready to open up, then don't do it for her entertainment.

Also, you say you're "talking." This is what kids call being a pen friend pretty much. She shouldn't expect emotional intimacy before there has been physical intimacy.

No-Preference8767 · 2024-07-10T03:39:08+00:00

Pretend to be vulnerable about ?

Think of things you don't care about that other people care about and say you care about those things.

Ex : let's say you know you have a big nose but you genuinely don't give a shit about it. Pretend you're insecure about how big your nose is. That way if she ever tries to attack you about your nose you can logically process she's trying to hurt you without the emotional pain

cemj86 · 2024-07-10T04:41:56+00:00

Go ahead and let hear lead you and find out

Accomplished_Ice6927 · 2024-07-10T06:58:06+00:00

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Title	Girl im talking to say she wants me to be more vulnerable….
Author	Accomplished_Ice6927
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Date	July 10, 2024 12:09 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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