How to stop Catching Feelings when dating?

easy-money-sniperr · 2024-07-25T23:08:57+00:00

You’re supposed to catch feelings. Just don’t let them control you.

Western-Month-3877 · 2024-07-25T23:24:09+00:00

Because those feelings are only residual of your orgasm explosion. Your orgasm releases the oxytocin hormone. So it’s your hormone talking, not you falling in love.

How to stop catching feelings? I’d just enjoy it while it lasts while I keep reminding myself of the fact I said earlier. It usually lasts for a few days. But don’t get mislead by it thinking that you’re in love. Because you’re not. People got trapped into it because they keep nurturing the feelings like it’s some kinda plants. They thought it was love and it was real. Don’t nurture it. It will go away by itself.

Kobe_curry24 · 2024-07-26T00:50:27+00:00

Just find a woman who’s in a relationship phase and your good what your feeling isn’t bad ,make your intentions clear with her and your get what you want , now if your Fcking party girls and trying wife then like c’mon , you should know the type of woman your sleeping with if you don’t ask some questions ,do some research b4 you put your dick in em lol

drunkenpossum · 2024-07-26T02:44:06+00:00

I’ll echo what other guys have said and say don’t lose that feeling. It’s good to be intimate and affectionate during sex, even if it’s with a casual partner. As you get more experience with women you’ll start getting a better idea of what you truly want in a spouse which will result in you not getting too attached to girls that don’t fully fit that standard or girls that don’t care about you. You have to understand that the girl moving away doesn’t always mean something inherently wrong with you it’s often just that you don’t fit the mold of her ideal partner, which is totally fine. Just enjoy the experience you had with another person for what it was.

But yeah don’t intentionally turn off the intimacy part. You don’t want to end up as some girl’s horror story of that guy that silently jackhammered her and puts his clothes back on immediately afterwards.

Mercredee · 2024-07-25T23:05:23+00:00

That’s actually positive. You don’t want to lose that feeling.

Secrecy_Guaranteed · 2024-07-26T02:16:43+00:00

Calibrate. Easier said than done

Future-self · 2024-07-26T02:47:25+00:00

Just repeat this cycle til you’re dead inside. Worked for me. Now I no longer catch feelings and pickup is way easier and less rewarding. Lol 🥲

Thick_Yogurtcloset50 · 2024-07-26T13:51:21+00:00

Idk bro, bother yourself with the other bigger issues in life, like making more money and supporting the community.

Typically for most men, we lose interest as soon as post nut clarity hits. I’m quite surprised at your situation but nevertheless. I think having bigger problems to worry about will definitely make you stop chasing them.

Also, please for life, remember women DO NOT LIKE needy men, EVER. Rather treat them normal after giving them the fuck of their life and they keep running back to you

GymBroTRT · 2024-07-26T14:07:58+00:00

This is probably the biggest cause of dating failures for men. They get emotionally attached/invested very fast, especially if you’ve lacked success with women. All you need is some pretty girl to bat her eyes at you and you can’t stop thinking about her.

This is a much deeper issue than just not caring. You are probably telling yourself deep down that you need women in order to be happy and that if you don’t have a woman that somehow makes you into a loser. I did the exact same thing you did for years, wondering why I would only date women for a few weeks before they lost interest.

You need to challenge this thought that women are the source of happiness and fulfillment. They are not. You are the only source of that in your life. Making another person the source of happiness is stupid. It’s like giving the remote control to your pacemaker to another person. You can’t control others. They can lose interest, fall out of love, fall in love with someone else…etc. They are unreliable, so making your happiness dependent on them is just stupid.

The other big change you need to make is to find a purpose or mission in life that keeps your mind occupied. I don’t mean go and save starving children in Africa. It can be your job, career, hobby, sport, whatever. Just something that you are working towards every day and that is the source of your happiness and fulfillment in life. This way, you will become less and less dependent on women for those feelings.

Tactically, some tricks you should use is to to not cuddle and linger around after sex. Tell a girl you have an early day tomorrow and that she should get going. Don’t overcommunicate. Try not thinking about them unless they are in front of you. Once they are out of sight, go focus on something else. Also, always tell yourself “this is enjoyable for now, but I may lose interest in her just like that if she does or says something stupid, so let’s not get all excited”. Don’t fast forward in your mind and imagine life with her, going out on dates, etc. Just get her out of your mind immediately.

The more you pull back, the more they will be the ones chasing you. They may complain and want to see you more, but that’s just the rationalization of what they think they need. What she needs is for you to make her feel special and desired, even if it is just for an hour every Thursday night.

You will eventually find the power in you and you will have the power in relationships. The more relentless you become about not getting emotionally invested, the more women will get emotionally invested in you.

Epiphanic_Eros · 2024-07-26T20:30:50+00:00

Wait longer before you have sex, and date more than one woman at a time. Then only have sex with the ones you really like. If the sex is great, and she's into you, then let those feelings fly! Ideally, there's mutual chemistry, and you both catch feelings. If not, let her go and start again

Firm_Birthday_3364 · 2024-07-26T20:55:30+00:00

Spin more plates. Go on more dates. Always meet new women.

MouseAware809 · 2024-07-27T09:09:21+00:00

Go fuck 10 other women and see if you feel the same about her.

Thi3fs · 2024-07-28T03:26:37+00:00

Half joking but also half serious. The toxic street saying “She’s not yours. It was just your turn”.. I have mistakenly caught the feelings only for a girl to immediately lose interest because I get too interested too quickly… it’s all trial and error in the end.

0xzeo · 2024-07-29T20:25:05+00:00

Oh man that's good. Be yourself, double text them, be nice, be caring. If she pulls back she is NOT the one! Good you just found out she isn't worth for creating a family. There are girls that will love when you do that, those are worth it.

Title	How to stop Catching Feelings when dating?
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Date	July 25, 2024 10:56 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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