Huge disrespect from wife, how to handle

MandingoMaasai · 2024-07-27T13:49:16+00:00

How the fuck is this a dilemma?

goblinboglin · 2024-07-27T13:28:03+00:00

Divorce.

strong_xy · 2024-07-27T13:54:35+00:00

Boundaries are useless if not enforced.

goblinboglin · 2024-07-27T13:28:42+00:00

She's in love with the dude, otherwise she wouldn't cross the boundaries. If she hasn't fucked him already multiple times, she's longing to.

Ambitious_Buddy_6723 · 2024-07-27T14:29:27+00:00

I (35m) have been an entrepreneur for about 10 years. Have always worked a lot

Hello everyone I'm a beta bux

I have no issue with the sex life.

I can barely touch her without feeling disgust. I dont want to touch her and I dont want to fuck her.

Which is it? No issue but don't wanna fuck?

How deep in her frame am I, really?

Very

How does her female mind think?

Don't try to get in her head. Short answer he gives her the tingles and you don't. Branch swing in action

COMoparfan392 · 2024-07-27T14:36:30+00:00

"Before anyone calls me a beta pussy, I have no issue with the sex life".

One minute later: " I can barely touch her without feeling disgust. I dont want to touch her and I dont want to fuck her".

Your ego is going to keep you in misery if you don't wake the fuck up. Do you need to see her getting fucked on your bed before you talk to a lawyer? Lift, sidebar, STFU, and look up the "better beta divorce strategy" post.

sars445 · 2024-07-27T14:12:20+00:00

She is 99% having sex with him. Picture them having sex. You know what to do

SteveSan82 · 2024-07-27T14:54:56+00:00

Sorry to say but she is very likely fucking him.

Zestyclose-Bag8790 · 2024-07-27T16:25:08+00:00

The good news is you have some good advice in here.

1- hit the gym. Yes you will look better, but the gym is actually for your mental health. You will need it during this stressful time.

2- talk to a lawyer. Get all your ducks in a row. Bank accounts. Business ownership. All of it. Being prepared is how you reduce your fear.

3-any boundary that you allow people to cross without consequences is actually an invitation.

4- keep your narrative very simple. She will TRY to paint you as the bad guy and say you are irrational and jealous. You just repeat your simple narrative. She wants to have her co-worker and her family life. That is unacceptable to you. If people ask you to provide evidence of her behavior, don’t. Just say SHE made her choice. She knows and I know. No one else needs to.

5: If she makes attacks on your character. Keep the same simple narrative. Acknowledge that what she says and what she does are not the same thing. You watch what people do, not what they say.

GQ1111 · 2024-07-27T15:36:07+00:00

If you are feeling disgust towards her it means the glass is not just broken it's shattered too.

You don't even need have read sidebar or anything MRP related to understand that she is bulldozing her way into this ignoring your request for boundaries. Which also means means she has no respect for you.

I concur that this is mathematically heading into a divorce but like others said she wants you to kill the puppy. Better lawyer up and follow the legal advice but as you have no actual evidence this will be drawn out but there is no other way around it. You are just delaying the inevitable.

DonkeyTeethBSU · 2024-07-27T14:06:46+00:00

She has no dread and walking all over you. Likely you are a drunk captain letting her do whatever she wants and she knows it. In this situation I would plan an exit route and protect your business.

HornsOfApathy · 2024-07-27T15:51:52+00:00

You're only as pathetic as you allow yourself to be treated.

You're highly pathetic because you lack the ability to enforce a boundary because you're scared. Of what? Doesn't matter.

Before anyone calls me a beta pussy

We didn't have to. You already know it's true.

cre4mpuffmyf4ce · 2024-07-28T19:45:46+00:00

Woman should police this shit themselves. It should never even need to enter your radar. A good woman knows exactly what is appropriate and what isn’t.

You should have the utmost trust that she would never fuck around behind your back; that she would rather stab a dude who made a move on her than risk your relationship.

Your situation is too far gone. Just leave man. You’ll be happier. Work on yourself and find someone worthy of trust.

You made a mistake with this one, the sooner you throw it out and move on, the quicker you get happiness.

BobbyPeru · 2024-07-27T23:19:47+00:00

Ok, consider this tough love.

So, you “drew the line,” but then she crossed the line with no real consequences. Then, she figured she could cross more boundaries by inviting him to the work event when she knew she’d be pissed. Now you’re online asking internet strangers what to do after she keeps crossing boundaries.Tell us more about how you’re not a beta pussy.

I’m not even going to begin touching the subject of whether or not she’s having sex with him, except to ask you one question — do you really think women full on fall in love with coworkers unless she has had sex with him many times?

Praexology · 2024-07-27T23:49:49+00:00

You drawing the line

The Soyman's Guide to destroying your life and marriage.

• Establish impotent rules without enforcement

• Allow your wife to browbeat you with plausible deniability.

• Failure to accept negative social framing

• Presume she is dumb, instead of holding her accountable

You're cooked.

intothegreatbelow · 2024-07-27T18:12:25+00:00

Have some self respect.

Gawldalmighty · 2024-07-27T18:34:05+00:00

Pretend everything is okay until you are ready to serve her the papers. Talk to your lawyer, don’t say shit to her about divorce. It was generous that you offered to stay with her if she quit. You tried saving the marriage then. She’s too much into this other guy.

deerstfu · 2024-07-27T17:35:32+00:00

When wife (35f) started working after our last kid was born she fell in love with a coworker.

How did you find out?

boringbobby · 2024-07-27T21:02:07+00:00

She told you she was in love with another man and you still stayed with her? Didn’t divorce her yet?

UnusualLiterature588 · 2024-07-28T08:41:53+00:00

Tough man. Oftentimes I've read replies on this sub that instantly call for divorce at the most minute indiscretions and thought geez these cunts are over reacting but yes this is very bad.

Disrespect from a woman is as you probably know a sign of not having frame control and her not being in love with you.

Divorce is highly likely and she has probably cheated like the rest of the comments suggest.

Do you have access to her phone? If you were to go through her phone and she says " don't invade my privacy" etc, immediately lawyer up.

In the mean time, eat well, hit the gym hard and start monkey branching

OppositeKind5257 · 2024-07-29T03:30:07+00:00

What often gets overlooked in the comments here, and in general on this sub, is that not all women are as cunning and calculating as many think. Believe it or not: There are women who are more naive than you can imagine, and they share such feelings with their partner because they believe it's their duty, or because he is also their best friend. On the contrary: The fact that she told him about it actually suggests that she hasn't had sex with the colleague yet. Otherwise, she would do everything to cover it up.

However, the fact that she subsequently did not respect set boundaries is a major dealbreaker.

Not-Jaycee · 2024-07-29T08:20:01+00:00

Glad you accepted and have come to terms with the reality of your situation

Get it done

Far_Prior1058 · 2024-07-29T15:30:51+00:00

So standard advice. Talk to a lawyer and see what divorce is going to look like. Gather evidence. Listen to lawyer. Get a STd test and DNA test the kids. Look up grey rock communication. If you serve her papers let everyone know why. You are not broken or the problem. She is. Good luck

MaryMyHope · 2024-07-29T13:32:17+00:00

Find a good, experienced therapist and a couples counselor. You owe that to the kids. The free advice you're receiving in this forum is worth what you're paying for it.

tautog77 · 2024-10-02T10:35:21+00:00

she will never care for you ever dump her in a fast well thought out way be a winner

Title	Huge disrespect from wife, how to handle
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Date	July 27, 2024 1:20 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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