[Rewritten to make this more of a debate] Certain logic that makes perfect sense in any other situations, some of us refuse to apply to relationships. But why should that logic stop applying only when it comes to relationships? Here are a few examples:

Fake it till you make it This is touted as universally good advice by most. If a company is looking for ABC, yet you only have AB, present that you do C and give it your all till you truly can. Don't like how you're viewed currently? Present yourself the way you want to be till that becomes reality.

Why not use this when it comes to dating? Why is the Blue Pill fallback advice "just be yourself"? Why shouldn't individuals who want to improve aspects of theor personalities seen as unattractive. Like a lack of confidence. They may need to feign confidence while they build true confidence. Clearly how they've already been presenting hasn't been working, which is why they are looking for solutions to begin with.

Trust but verify Seems like common sense. If we accept that we don't live in a perfect world. Sometimes people try to get one over on others for their own benefit. This saying exists to remind people that even if there's no clear sign of a problem, it never hurts to verify in a situation where you know you could be taking on a lot of risk if things go south.

This is applied to a lot of things, job opportunities, testing for STDs in new relationships, etc. However, for some reason, certain individuals sees it as taboo to apply this to the birth of one's child, in a situation where a man has zero way of knowing with certainty it's his and just has to have faith he would never be betrayed. Again, why should this logic stop applying in this scenario? It's literally call "TRUST but verify," meaning you should verify even when there's trust.

The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior This is used in almost every aspect of life. Get pulled over? Cops check your records. Apply to a new college? School checks your record? Apply for a job? They check your work history and do a drug test. Want a loan? They check credit. Want a house? They check credit. Same applies to credit card, so on and so forth.

But when you start dating someone, the past shouldn't matter? Wtf?

Why throw away logic and common sense when it comes to relationships? Have romcoms and Disney taught our society to just not use our brains at all when it comes to love? To just follow our vibes and our genitals and hope for the best? Explain to me why I'm wrong about this?