The hidden danger Victims pose.

leosandlattes · 2024-10-20T19:05:24+00:00

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Gravel_Roads · 2024-10-20T17:55:04+00:00

This whole post is basically just your opinion.

You don’t think abused women “deserve” to be in relationships.

But the world doesn’t divy out relationships based on who “deserves” them.

People get into relationships when someone is willing to date them. So if an abused woman finds someone to date her, she’s factually dateable even if you don’t want people to date her

DreaminInChocolate · 2024-10-20T17:56:18+00:00

women who are victims of abuse don't deserve to be in relationships, at least not with normal decent men.

You're free to reject any potential partner for any reason. That could be their past partners or their lack of partners or experience. It's all equal and no one deserves or is entitled to a relationship.

MiddleZealousideal89 · 2024-10-20T18:56:47+00:00

You're free to not date them. I'd argue that nobody "deserves" a specific type of person they want. If you can find that person and they want to be with you, awesome. If you can't find them or they don't want to be with you, that sucks but you're not owed this specific kind of partner by the universe. Life is full of unfairness and while we can mitigate some of it, not all of it can be addressed.

AngeCruelle · 2024-10-20T18:49:05+00:00

To me, it's all about patterns.

Almost every person I know, male and female, who has had at least a couple relationships had that shitty one that may have at least crossed the line into emotional abuse. They learned from it. They didn't have that issue again.

And then there's the ones with a pattern of ending up in these sorts of relationships with terrible people. My own sister is unfortunately a prime example. I love her, because she's my sister, but I would definitely hesitate before calling her a good person. She has definitely screwed over some truly wonderful men who adored her to the moon and back in terrible ways. In a fucked up way it's almost a relief when she dates less than stellar men because at least she isn't damaging someone who wasn't already.

EulenWatcher · 2024-10-20T23:23:24+00:00

First of all, it isn't gendered. Abuse isn't something that only men perpetrate and women suffer from - there are male victims and female abusers as well.

Secondly, a bad ex != abusive ex or "a bad boy" ex by default. People can have all kinds of relationship problems that lead to breaking up and poor attitude towards their ex partners. Some people are also dishonest and/or have a wrapped perception of reality, so their interpretation of their past experience isn't reliable.

Thirdly, people who have gone through abuse or any other traumatic experience are strongly advised to seek therapy, and many of them do.

Lastly, negative baggage isn't gendered either. Both men and women can bring a bunch of problems from his previous relationships and destroy his new ones.

StruggleMuffin75 · 2024-10-20T18:46:14+00:00

I'll be honest, regardless of deserving or not deserving, I'd avoid any interaction with a woman who has gangbangers in her retinue of exes, just for my own safety.

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MyLastBestChance · 2024-10-20T22:19:36+00:00

I’m not sure if you realize it, but plenty (the majority) of abusive men are not gangbangers. They are regular everyday men. It’s likely that you have abusive men in your social circle or family and don’t know it.

They don’t tend to advertise their private behavior…they also don’t traditionally lead with that behavior. It typically comes out later and gradually. Think of the frog in a pot thing. It’s typically coupled with isolating the victim from friends and family, denigrating the victim and chipping away at their self esteem and creating financial dependence. It’s typically coupled with periods of love bombing and profuse apologies.

The highest rates of DV occur with men who are police officers, corrections officers and military. So, basically the opposite of gangbangers…after that it’s textile workers, clerks and customer service workers. Normal everyday men.

So go ahead and blame women for the reprehensible behavior of men who are supposed to be “safe” and “protectors”.

LillthOfBabylon · 2024-10-20T20:31:31+00:00

as a prominent user here saidd there is no excuse to want them or love them. thee is no consideration or benefit of the doubt to be given to them.

Copy and paste what this user said.

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QuantityAcademic · 2024-10-21T02:08:21+00:00

I wouldn't say "deserve". But I've lived with a woman who was abused (my cousin). I saw the dysfunction. I think most men should avoid such women for their own sanity.

purplish_possum · 2024-10-20T18:04:14+00:00

A lot of words to say 'don't put your dick in crazy.'

Title	The hidden danger Victims pose.
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Date	October 20, 2024 5:44 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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