WTF

LashkarNaraanji123 · 2024-10-29T15:56:34+00:00

This is a great time to buy a video surveillance system on Amazon - check with your lawyer too about state recording laws, usually it's okay to record your entry area/door, at least if there is a sign. She's probably spun a helluva tale about you too, so watch out for that.

Call that lawyer, and check any social media you all share for any fib stories about you, and have a lawyer draft a cease and desist letter if she's half-truthing and spreading baloney.

warwww · 2024-10-27T22:09:17+00:00

She did this and you guys have no kids? Man I swear some guys here are just lucky 😔

80 % of Women file for divorce and leave
80% of Men only mourn the loss of seeing their kids everyday and being in their lives the way they want to after a marriage ends.

Most here aren’t in mourning of their ex spouse who cared nothing for their vows. Most are saddened by the loss of their family.

For her to have done this and you guys don’t have kids is truly a blessing.

Sea_Emu_4259 · 2024-10-27T19:51:39+00:00

FREEZE your joint accounts/credit card/check IMMEDIATLY to stop your ex running up any new debts or withdrawing money. That only advice could save you Thousands.

⚠️DO NOT ever meet her without a witness or phone recording (without telling her).
You are at risk fo false domestic violence accusation

Scan or copy all relevant documents without filtering you can do that later. The goal is to gather as much information as possible, as you never know what might be useful down the line.Shared car? Consider hiding a tracker in the car, to prevent them from being hidden or sold to a cheap price to a friend so she can get it back after divorce

Communication Strategy: Limit communication to ONE channel and ONE person (eg: email to provide a electronic trail) and slow down responses (>=24 hour) to avoid engaging in verbal diarrhea. Compose replies but dont send them. Give it a day and re-read it and tweak it if needed. Consider all your messages can be read out loud by her attorney in court. No more in person/phone call conversations . She left a voice message? Reply with a message. If you lose your phone chances are you don't have a backup whereas email will still be accessible with precise timestamp.

4 Eyes Strategy

In that speed game, u need a good advisor to avoid pitfalls. you NEED an attorney . If you can't afford an attorney to reply to all questions, consider having a trusted friend or family member/brother with good analytics capabilities act as a second brain to help you navigate the situation.
Never take major decisions without consulting him
This brother advisor usually also play a role of mental support

deconblues1160 · 2024-10-27T17:05:03+00:00

See a lawyer ASAP. There is no talking. The relationship is over. Start protecting yourself financially.

rsmiley77 · 2024-10-27T12:11:14+00:00

You woke up to this? Wow.

So what should you do? File for divorce or wait for her to file. It would seem your marriage is over. With what you have told us I don’t know if a lawyer will be needed if things stay cordial. Do you own the home? Was it purchased while you were both married to each other? If not maybe the dog is the only thing worth fighting over.

This is the part where someone (guess me) should make sure you understand to close any accounts where you’re both on. Make sure she isn’t on any of your credit cards. I’d also go as far as to open up a new bank account with another bank. What about car insurance? They have funky rules where they’ll let the person who isn’t the main account holder close the account but not the primary with someone on the account. Basically there’s a way that she may be able to close your insurance accounts with no notice to you. Makes no sense but happened to me. Finally use this time to work on you and both your mental and physical health. Good luck.

Movieman_Steve · 2024-10-27T11:41:12+00:00

Sounds like she's been married before if you mention the stepdaughter. Start consulting with all the lawyers in the area. That way it's tough for her to even talk to one. If you really love the dog (I mean come on who doesn't love dogs), maybe that will be a major point with lawyer to talk about full custody of the dog. My wife left me 5 mos ago, after our last dog had passed (in Jan) but took all 6 of the dogs (that we had adopted during our 20.5 yrs of marriage) remains with her. Catalog everything she took and hopefully she didn't take anything of yours before the marriage. You don't say what your age is but I hope your young enough to start over financially because she might fight you on everything you have money wise- like retirement funds. House- rent or own? If owning, who's name is it under- your's or her's? That will be a fight if both. I looked into buying my wife out of our house, which we are selling right now, and the buyout loan payments for 30 yrs on a 220K loan would've been over $1700 a month.....for 30 Years. I'd be making my last payment for that loan while I'd be in my mid 80s. Apartment for me for now and loving it. And yes I'm still going thru the divorce process, thankfully no kids between us.

helloworld2389023 · 2024-10-27T11:39:48+00:00

WTF is right, you get a lawyer ASAP. Now I’m going to give you some advice that this forum gave me but I didn’t listen and I learned the hard way. It’s over, she is not the same person you married and you need to see that. Your lawyer will guide you, listen to them. DO NOT try to work it out together, don’t trust her and for your own sanity go to therapy before you do dumb shit.

cowboy-Jim · 2024-10-27T07:05:52+00:00

Sorry to hear. Maybe Get a lawyer so this can be strategically documented for your profit.

Title	WTF
Author	PresentCondition1564
Upvotes	16
Comments	10
Date	October 26, 2024 7:56 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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