My divorce was finalized and signed off by the court. My lawyer says that I'm now officially divorced. I still have to deal with her and the selling of our house but it's going to feel weird to describe myself as divorced at 54. Didn't think that I'd be using that word after 20+ yrs of marriage. Might take some getting used to- thank God you don't have to use it on a work resume just a dating one. So hopefully..knock on wood...my dealing with this whole divorce process (Still have the house to deal with) will be done on Thanksgiving. I know some divorces take baby steps and a chisel to go thru but screw it, I took a giant step and a chainsaw to get it thru the court system to make it finalized. I was served July 29th, 2024 and it was finalized on Oct 28th, 2024- no kids, walked away with what I wanted with only half of the $5500 savings account going to her. Now it's really time to party and start living my life. I was hoping before this whole separation started to live a life still married with her in it sharing life adventures together but the serving of divorce papers showed me what type of person she really is and I hope that no guy has to go thru life the same way with her as I did these last few years that I've looked back on and realize now that she didn't love me like I loved her. Now don't get me wrong, I wish her all the happiness in the world , just not with another guy to screw his life over with. The only person I'm going to miss on her side of the family is her dad, he was a great person to talk to when I was married. But now it's going to be weird if I reinitiate that communicative relationship with him while not married to his daughter. Now it's time to play the lottery and hopefully win. And to get busy living. I will still offer what advice I can on here and I thank everyone that gave advice during these few months.