Girls tell me I’m very attractive but don’t wanna go out

alexanderldn · 2024-11-12T06:51:24+00:00

Are you expecting them to ask you out? Because if you do. You’re gonna be waiting until you’re dead.

jaybee_the_Kumo · 2024-11-12T06:53:37+00:00

Go out and keep doing it. Simple. Will never be good at anything if you avoid it

Informal_Sherbert251 · 2024-11-12T11:18:43+00:00

The biggest thing I saw in recent comments is “You thought you’d be called a creep”. I used to think that way too. I was a gamer that did nothing but watch porn and hang with friends and until I got to hang out again my cycle repeated. The best thing you can do rn is probably just start listening to podcasts of things that are relevant to you and on how to communicate with confidence or be more compelling. Those will teach you the basics on how to talk to anyone and not just girls. The second thing to do is make sure to catch the vibe. Look and see if she’s even giving off signals that you are her type. More often then not when a girl gives a cheap excuse or a bad insult to shake you off, it’s because you aren’t her cup of tea. And there’s nothing wrong with that. Lastly, be outcome independent. As a guy you are supposed to lead but if your only goal is to get them in bed they’ll reject you for days. Lead them first that you are a solid guy and you have things together and that you’ll treat woman like another person. Then lead them home if they are your type and wanna be lead. Lastly if they are there and you are about to seal the deal, wait till they have the last second “wait, something doesn’t feel right” fight or flight signal. Every woman in their right mind will do this to make sure that you can take saying no and have control over yourself. Hope this helps. If you have any other questions let me know.

Lonely_Computer_2058 · 2024-11-12T14:13:14+00:00

Same here, but unfortunately or fortunately, however you want to look at it, girls are not as attracted to looks as you’d think. Sure it does help when walking up to a girl. You’ll definitely get more girls who are receptive to be approached, but then it’s all about game. If you are attractive but have no game, you’ll flounder.

I had the same attitude you had until I witnessed unattractive men pull and be more successful. It’s all about confidence, the emotion you make women feel.

There’s so much to learn and unlearn, especially when you’ve been relying on looks your whole life. You have to stop prioritizing that and instead focus on your inner value as a man. Looks can be a setback especially when you lead with them and have nothing to offer. Also you have an entitlement or expectation that girls should like you which is a turnoff. I’ve been told by a girl a while ago that she thought I was attractive, until I opened my mouth lol. You have to realize your success is tied to what you say and do, not how you look.

I’m also not going to sugarcoat it. This process of learning successful dating will take you months to years, but isn’t it worth it to invest in something that is heavily linked to your happiness? I’ve been on this journey for almost a year now and I am a novice, but I’ve learned so much from where I was originally and would highly suggest you do the same.

Figure out what you want from dating and determine your style of flirting and interaction. There are plenty of useful resources like Mark Manson’s models and books on body language. I suggest you do this in good faith too and not for manipulation as you’ll only make your life a living hell if you choose the latter.

easy-money-sniperr · 2024-11-12T23:00:04+00:00

Confidence and self love.

bbpharmacist · 2024-11-13T02:20:24+00:00

Honestly, this happens a lot with men I meet (f23) usually due to a lack of personality and charm imo. Most men are attractive, play sports, have good jobs, and are academically versed in their 20s. You're a good candidate on paper, but probably not in reality if you're lacking things to make you interesting.

Possibly your date ideas aren't exciting enough to interest them?

Maybe you pursue them without getting to know them well enough? I'm cautious around men for safety reasons, unless we know some basics about each other I won't be interested in a date.

EXTRA INFO BELOW

Every woman is different, but here are some things that men do that make me not pursue them:

• Be Upfront About Intentions: Misaligned goals waste time. If you’re after something casual but she's serious, that's a mismatch. Communicating openly about goals shows respect and saves everyone’s time.

• Plan and Commit: Don’t leave her hanging on dates or schedules. When she asks, “What time works?” give a clear answer instead of deflecting—it shows consideration and interest.

• Show Interest in Her Life: Enthusiasm about her hobbies and everyday details goes a long way. Even if it's not your thing, taking the time to engage shows you care.

• Respect the Talking Stage: If you’re seeing others, keep it discreet. Playing jealousy games rarely works long-term and can push her toward someone who makes her feel special and valued.

• Skip Chain Restaurants (Unless She Wants It): Local spots are more thoughtful and romantic. Dates don’t have to be pricey—small, unique places often make the best impression.

durkiobro · 2024-11-12T08:49:15+00:00

It’s something I’m trying to work on as well. People always tell me I look great but I’m awkward as hell. Especially around women. I’ve just been pushing out of my comfort zone by talking to more people both guys and girls and working on my social skills.

CandidInevitable757 · 2024-11-12T23:41:01+00:00

How can we tell you what to change if you don’t tell us what you do

KoleSekor · 2024-11-12T13:10:39+00:00

Deep-rooted psychological issues - You have insecurities. An intense desire to be accepted and not big enough balls to get rejected. The desperation is potent and repulsive.

Skills issues - you don't know what to think, feel, do, or say when encountered with the opportunity to engage with beautiful women.

I teach and support men as they learn how to overcome these things and more if you're interested DM me.

Title	Girls tell me I’m very attractive but don’t wanna go out
Author	Queasy_Bathroom_979
Upvotes	25
Comments	32
Date	November 12, 2024 6:38 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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