Can You forgive a Cheater?

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Millionaire2025_ · 2024-11-20T17:40:36+00:00

You can forgive to smash again, but then you must dump. Wear a condom

AcrossTheShimenawa · 2024-11-20T17:41:55+00:00

No. For a woman to cheat, so many other things must have gone wrong in the relationship that it's unsalvageable. The cheating is just a symptom of a much uglier root cause.

Outside of freak occurrences, it falls into two buckets:

a) either she's not a cheater and she cheated on you because you're mismanaging the relationship

b) she is a cheater, at which point the question is how were you gullible enough to not see the signs

The freaks occurrences I mentioned are because she is human at the end of the day and not infallible. Either way it doesn't matter, even if it was an honest mistake there is no undoing it and a line has been crossed that can't be uncrossed.

Who cares how hot she is? There's slavish dependence on desire, and then there's principle. If you have principles you can stick to them even when the woman knows how to press all of your buttons.

ManaDeus · 2024-11-20T17:40:53+00:00

You should forgive a cheater, then move on, forgiving means the issue is done, not that you should go back to that relationship

MycolNewbie · 2024-11-20T17:35:03+00:00

Nope, hotness has nothing to do with it.

GiantDwarfy · 2024-11-20T17:54:12+00:00

Nope

A1Horizon · 2024-11-20T17:59:03+00:00

Nah, why forgive and waste your life someone with who’s willing to betray your trust like that?

eatloss · 2024-11-20T17:59:12+00:00

Wrong subreddit

idontcarerightnowok · 2024-11-20T17:42:37+00:00

no. forgiving a cheater is essentially refusing to admit the fact that they betrayed the core foundations of a relationship such as trust, loyalty, commitment and so fourth.

cheating can't be forgiven because it's not that hard to cheat lmao, if you lose feelings or start to get eyes for other people, end the relationship and go do wtv u want, but don't do it behind your partners back while they think you're faithful and in love with them.

cheaters are some of the most sad and manipulative people to exist, they'll never gain actual happiness in life.

To move on from being cheated on, you need to acknowledge you're better than them, and worth so much more and they never deserved you, and they lost someone who did care.

SnooHesitations4922 · 2024-11-20T17:45:48+00:00

If I expect to be forgiven, it is right to forgive. That does not mean I associate with that person any further and knowingly putting myself in position for a repeat.

BraveProgram · 2024-11-20T17:49:14+00:00

Whether you should or should can be debated all day. Only you can know your own situation.

Ive met two couples that got back after one of them cheated and both couples even went on to get married. In one relationship, there was resentment for years, idk if it's still there. But just ask yourself if you could live with it.

Personally, I could not, so whether I forgave them or not would be irrelevant to me because I wouldn't associate with them anymore.

Finally, if youre worried about hotness so much, youre already an idiot imo.

Solo_Astronaut · 2024-11-20T17:49:44+00:00

Forgive but never forget

LizzoBathwater · 2024-11-20T17:52:30+00:00

Depends.

In a serious committed relationship where it comes out of the blue? No way, she going to hell for that.

Things are on the rocks and I’ve already checked out? I’d be more understanding for sure but only because inside i already don’t care

MO_drps_knwldg · 2024-11-20T17:59:54+00:00

Never. Cheaters don’t even get goodbyes

Billykogos · 2024-11-20T18:00:09+00:00

We should be able to forgive everything

dontuse2601 · 2024-11-20T18:07:35+00:00

Nope.

tilldeathdoiparty · 2024-11-20T18:13:00+00:00

Who fucking cares about looks if they are rotten and awful inside.

Have some self worth, self respect and tell them to kick rocks, if they made a commitment and fail to uphold the very basic concept of a relationship you should move on.

If you forgive, they’ll never respect you anyway, at least show some decency and go find a hotter younger woman that will respect you.

Ur_Exgirl · 2024-11-20T18:19:37+00:00

I can forgive him for cheating on his ex or anyone before me, but not on me. Oh yeah, I asked him to get tested for sexually transmitted diseases.

TakeAChillPill99 · 2024-11-20T18:23:42+00:00

If they really held themselves accountable and commuted to not doing again, and it was a good relationship, I think I would. But cheating might be a sign of a larger issue in the relationship too so whatever that is would need to be addressed

MacDwest · 2024-11-20T17:43:22+00:00

Sure, people cheat for an assortment of reasons. I had a friend who constantly let herself in a pattern of self-sabotage by cheating due to fear of attachment (trauma) when things started getting more serious with a partner.

However, just because you forgive a cheater does not mean you should continue a committed relationship with them. Accept they made a choice that was against your established relationship parameters and move on to someone else.

Repulsive_Leg5150 · 2024-11-20T17:42:15+00:00

In my experience…only 3 times

Title	Can You forgive a Cheater?
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Date	November 20, 2024 5:30 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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