Wtf happened to my game?

Osiris_Raphious · 2025-01-05T01:17:16+00:00

If you feel like you succeeded in work, then you need to reframe your game.

Approach and state intent early, dont just aimlessly flirt and run game. When you were 18-25 online dating was heating up. Now its old news and everyone has had some experience with it. So just running game isnt enough, you need to show and run with intent. If you want a long term relationship, or a short term fun, you need to approach from that position.

If you want to date date, then prepair for questions and ask questions that fit that theme. If you want just to have fun, then its a numbers game.

Either way you clearly have pressure to perform. And other issues, its not just you, its changing times, dynamics, life, wars are heating up, economy is fucked. But at the end of the day, your success is just a part of it. You still need to go at it and have fun, if you arent enjoying yourself, they can tell. Psychologist may help, but so can just sittign down, writing down a few lists, of pros and cons of what you want out of life, and how you want to spend your time. Your job and career will help you land and keep a relationship, but you need to drop the baggage and be confident going for what you want, not what you think they want. You are the prize now, act like it, be selective, challenge them, you have the right to choose and vett them just the same as they vett you.

CrazyRepulsive8244 · 2025-01-05T00:28:46+00:00

Sounds like some sort of trauma or just socially rusty. Depends on how bad it is. Better start grinding on it though it's harder in your 30s by far

Chicagoj1563 · 2025-01-05T01:22:33+00:00

You just have an inner game issue. You didn’t have it before, but now you do. Not a big deal. Go out and game to resolve it. Shouldn’t be too hard to do with the right mindsets.

Your game would likely surpass what you were doing before with a little practice.

Just_Ad5344 · 2025-01-05T06:05:09+00:00

Did you recently gotten out of a long relationship? Same thing happened to me after I got out of one. Completely had to start back from the beginning and start all over

DSkyUI · 2025-01-05T07:29:05+00:00

You need to go practice more, seems like you had a five year pause, and you’re surprised you’re rust. What is the catastrophe about? Just do it more until it feels normal again.

InternationalSwan162 · 2025-01-05T01:23:59+00:00

We and the women we’re going after are more mature with life experience, and for high value adults - self-actualization.

This is a different game now. Who you were as a kid is irrelevant.

Adventurous_Diet4620 · 2025-01-05T01:26:14+00:00

That doesn't make sense. I have women approach me from time to time still and I'm 32, I have the looks(chad) and money but have gained a little weight since I was in highschool. Back then I had the looks(chad) I had the body, but I didn't have the money. You need at least 2 of the 3 to be successful with women, and the one you can't really change is the looks(I mean unless you spend thousands of dollars on plastic surgery). Just be relaxed and act/distracted. I'll give you an example, if you look at porn alot, and stop doing that all of a sudden , about 3 days in little things will start to irritate you, because your not getting your fix, but when you do your mind won't be focused on getting girls attention it will be focused on work and getting done for the day. And women will start to notice you more. One of my biggest problems when I was younger if you call it a problem was I was oblivious to women approaching me(I've had It happen alot) or saying hi to me and stuff. When I got older I realized I was a Chad. Also when women are ovulating before they have thier period they will start acting more feminine towards you and you will notice thier advances more. It sounds like to me you worry about female attention too much. The next day you go to work wear a plain shirt with one color on it nothing special and plain pants or jeans and decent looking shoes with plain socks, this will help. Women like a guy that doesn't try to hard so by wearing plain clothes they will think "he doesn't care what anyone thinks about him because look at how he dresses". Thier I've given you some pointers on how to get the girls to notice you again.

WhyteChorizo · 2025-01-05T01:50:57+00:00

times change

hansieboy10 · 2025-01-05T03:10:09+00:00

Everyone is overreacting. Just be a bit more social and gradually increase that. Pay attention to body langue and extend your comfort zone progressively.

AssistTemporary8422 · 2025-01-05T05:20:55+00:00

Its the anxiety man. Might try cold approaching again and desensitizing. Social skills is a muscle you have to use or you will lose.

Severe-Evidence-1501 · 2025-01-05T05:34:52+00:00

Honestly if you have a good job and you’re financially stable, that’s awesome and something you should be proud of. Don’t worry about women too much, it will happen when you least expect it. Watch you will meet a lady and it will come so naturally with her all this will go out the window.

everydayguy_ · 2025-01-05T06:55:56+00:00

I had a 2 year break from playing the field, where I just went full monk mode and focused on myself pretty much, and felt like I had completely forgotten how to seduce a woman.

Just get the ball rolling again and the rust should wear off. Everything will come back to you faster than you think if you already know what to do. Like if a skateboarder got back on after not having done so for a few years.

Women in their early 30’s are interesting. There’s significantly less single women in this age bracket, but there’s definitely still a decent amount. The ones that are single at this point usually have came out of a LTR that consumed most of their 20’s, serial monogamists who will never find what they’re looking for or to put plain and simply thots that are refusing to let go of the glory days they had when they were 21 (and still behave as such).

Don’t forget you can always date younger women too. You have a bigger range at 30.

jackthehat6 · 2025-01-05T09:20:33+00:00

you just looked a lot better/younger back then. Hence more hot young girls were attracted to you (and even approached you as you say)

Beachwood90068 · 2025-01-05T09:35:11+00:00

Don't overthink. Get yourself centered on the qualities and achievements you can be confident about. You're confident at work, right? Just bring that same attitude to talking to women.

Try this. Imagine someone has asked you why you would be a good candidate for coaching. Write down all of your strengths so you can convince them that they should coach you because you would be a quick win. Keep going through the list in your mind when you are on the way to work, at the grocery store, etc.

Puzzleheaded_Back181 · 2025-01-05T01:25:38+00:00

You know how guy’s say woman hit the wall after 30? Well guess what bud that doesn’t just happen to womab

lildudefromXdastreet · 2025-01-05T02:02:25+00:00

How long did you go without talking to women?

Intelligent-Roll-763 · 2025-01-10T16:55:18+00:00

Two main factors at play here :

Your game got rusty: by not practicing or executing the moves you lost in technical ability, but also in overall presence and charisma. Women can smell when you have experience and success with other women. They can also tell the opposite.
Tiles have changed :

In the laspse of time you were inactive, game has changed. Women have more options, they are more demanding due to social media and online apps. You need to adapt and become more efficient and know how to have a greater impact. Sadly the answer isn't to " have more money" as mainstream media tries to portray, but better yet to learn the proper type of game .

What would be your biggest challenge when it comes to approaching women wince you started again?

Academic_Put_300 · 2025-01-05T00:25:27+00:00

Go to the gym *

Title	Wtf happened to my game?
Author	Academic_Put_300
Upvotes	22
Comments	34
Date	January 5, 2025 12:24 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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