What event in your childhood/youth made you aware of anti-male discrimination?

Yoinkitron5000 · 2025-01-14T00:04:37+00:00

One of our schools best sports teams coach (not going to clarify for PII reasons) who was beloved by pretty much the whole school got stabbed to death by his wife in a fit of post partum depression (once, in the back). The entire conversation afterwards was how hard it must be FOR HER to deal the the loss of her husband who she loved so much.

I didn't have to mental tools at the time at my disposal to pierce the feminist propaganda about how fucked up that was but I knew deep down that something was very wrong about the conversations taking place.

Looking back that was probably my red pill moment.

63daddy · 2025-01-14T00:06:16+00:00

Having to register with selective services when the girls didn’t. Vietnam was still a recent memory then. When I was even younger, I remember a friend of my dad’s talking about how affirmative action for women caused inefficiencies in his line of work.

After that it was hearing propaganda about female victimization that I knew wasn’t true, such as the false claim no women could vote prior to 1920 it the claim the pay gap compared equal work.

17gorchel · 2025-01-14T03:31:54+00:00

I was falsely accused of rape by a female classmate in middle school. We were just sitting together as a group on the bleachers waiting for our turn to participate in a P.E. activity in the gym. I was sitting next to her, and my shoulder brushed against hers because of how closely packed together we were. She screamed that I raped her and we got sent to the vice-principal's office. Thankfully, the vice-principal was sane, and she shut her ridiculous accusation down. Honestly, the gym teachers should have shut this false accusation down, but they didn't. But this kind of discrimination happened regularly with me getting in trouble with girls, and the girls would always win even though I was innocent every time.

ld2gj · 2025-01-14T02:31:32+00:00

My sister pretty much getting away with everything and anything. At first, I thought it was because she is the youngest and the daughter, but realized her friends (some oldest) were also given special passes on everything. It really clicked when I was 19 and at my first duty assignment (military) and saw a female airman make a false allegation against her ex-boyfriend and nothing happened to her when it was shown it was false. It was so bad, that we had our own leadership telling us to have minimum contact with him.

Vegetable_Ad1732 · 2025-01-14T03:25:18+00:00

In the 7th grade I had a male teacher who gave every girl extra credit. Not a single boy got extra credit. One girl was complaining because she did not get as much extra credit as some other girls. I told her none of us boys got extra credit. She said nothing. I was too young to have the nerve to make a stink about it.

WonderfulPresent9026 · 2025-01-14T01:54:59+00:00

i think i was in third grade i don't remember exactly what happened i might have been in the wrong but ill tell you how i precived it.

I walked into class a random girl accused me of destroying her text book. I said no i didn't (I think in retrospect what may have happen is i bumbed into her and accidently through it down without noticing but again this happened when i was like 7 not to mention considering a book touching the ground as destroying it is way out of pocket)

A teacher got called it was he said she said (She said had way more power) I got beaten by the teacher and yeld at for "Lying" (Again i may or may not have thrown the book down on accident i genuinely don't remember what i do for a fact remember is that i for sure atlest believed i didn't throw it down genuinely) my parents go called I got yeld at by my dad for being a lier then I got beaten again when i got home, (All for a exercise book that couldn't have cost more that a dollar twenty five and literally only touched the floor)

I realized at a very early age that the words of a woman simply meant more than mine and this truth has been repeatedly enfored the rest of it.

Edit : the worse part is due to future events that happend later I have good reason to think the girl in question had a crush on me my entire primary school life so it could have very well been a cry for attention)

LennoxIsLord · 2025-01-14T03:25:43+00:00

In Middle school I was jumped by a group of girls since one of them didn’t like me very much, and they beat me pretty good until I got my hands on one. Started swinging and that was the indication everyone needed that it was time to break things up now.

They continued to bully me for the remainder of my time at that school, but if ever it got physical or loudly verbal I was always the one removed from the situation to go sit in somebody’s office. One of the girls, Z, tried to get her brothers to jump me after school, but I ran home.

Another one of them, J, convinced her brother that a self inflicted bruise she gave herself was because I hit her. Didn’t even have classes with this girl and barely ever saw her in the hallway, but the brother took her word for it, and we never saw eye to eye again.

In high school I had a girlfriend, and we broke up quite publicly during a lunch period with spectators in the halls. After this, she used the situation to craft a story that I was beating on her, and that I beat the new girl I was dating at the time.

Usually schools assumed because I was the boy in the situation, I was at fault. My own mother made the same assumptions the first few times I got into it with girls in school, and even in my own mind I used to always assume I was the problem.

No-Carpenter1285 · 2025-01-14T04:12:15+00:00

Also 7th grade. Girls got a locker room and a teacher guarding the door. Boys were forced to change inside the gymnasium and girls would watch through a window and not get in trouble

Throwaway5617368 · 2025-01-14T00:04:54+00:00

When a girl started to spread around lies about me out of resentment. When I confronted both of her and her friend (she was involved too) in an argue, people started to look at me like I was the harasser for not leaving them alone. Yeah, no shit Sherlocks, I wanted nothing to do with them in the first place, but I had to defend myself from slander.

Before that, I thought we were all equals, after that I knew my word was less relevant than theirs. Doesn’t matter how you act, as a man you never win situations like that.

llmethuselah · 2025-01-14T04:37:06+00:00

Forty years ago I was in high school and the school curriculum and assessment methods in my state were being re-designed. Reading about it in the newspapers there was only one stated aim: to increase the matriculation marks of girls relative to boys. It was not lost on us that there were equal numbers of boys and girls going to university at the time.

A small number of us, both boys and girls, were genuinely good at any subject we did and we discussed this among ourselves. We realised the boys, even those who were great at languages and humanities had all chosen mathematics, physics and chemistry because the answers were objective, and you could not be marked down for being a boy. The girls including those who were great at mathematics and science had all chosen languages and humanities.

So I first allowed myself to form the thought into words in year 11 of high school, but based on prior decisions, we all clearly already knew.

Upper_Berry1947 · 2025-01-14T01:35:17+00:00

Year 11 English teacher...me and other guys had been receiving A's, some B's in English all through high school. Made it to this class and not a single guy (we checked, as it was a shock) ever received anything above a C. The girls magically got better marks that year and then it all went back to the same pattern it had been all through school, in Year 12 when we had a different teacher. She was not a fan of guys, it seems.

disayle32 · 2025-01-14T01:01:08+00:00

When I was a baby, my genitals were mutilated. Had I been born a girl, I would have been protected from that. Finding out about this blatant inequality was the start of my journey down the rabbit hole at age 20.

Top_Row_5116 · 2025-01-14T02:48:39+00:00

Many times, it wasn't just a one moment and done. It was multiple events that built up to the... I guess you could call it radicalization of my views on the topic. The biggest one I'd say is when I had a gf in high school. She was really abusive and would punch me constantly for the smallest things. I had complained to my mother about this only to be told that she was being playful and that I should man up. And everyone around me never did anything about it. Even when we were at church, the adults never did anything. My gf was even at the time my cousins babysitter and when my cousin saw my gf hitting me, she also started to hit me as well. Again, nobody did anything about it. I'm glad to be out of that relationship now.

New_Manufacturer5975 · 2025-01-14T03:49:06+00:00

During Middle School, could not pay attention to save my own life. I'd always stare at a wall. 1 day I got in trouble for staring at a girl even though I was just nodding off. Another time is when a slimeball POS kept saying I had a small dong. Didn't tell any teachers because I knew at that age I was better off telling a door than telling a teacher.

iAmTheBombSquad7 · 2025-01-14T09:51:18+00:00

In my case, it wasn't even subtle. I was a nerdy, scrawny little kid with glasses (same today, I'm still shorter than women younger than me).

People bullied me relentlessly. Boys, and especially GIRLS. Now, boy bullies were seen as aggressive already and often I was helped out.

Not girls. Everyone was on their side constantly. THE MALE BULLIES were afraid of them, because hitting girls was wrong or something. Imagine "mean girls" but in primary school and with a third of the braincells. That's it.

One day I just lost it. I couldn't take the insults, or the slaps. I just broke down at them and started screaming like a lunatic (at 8 years, mind you) and beat a bunch of the worst bully girls with a chair. Really. Everyone was against me, and COUNTLESS OTHER BOYS CAME TO BEAT ME IN THEIR DEFENSE. IN ELEMENTARY SCHOOL.

That was the day I learned that no one cares. My own father scolded me for beating girls and being a "woman hater" and I was given the stinkeye for the rest of my school years by everyone. But you know what? Somehow the bullying stopped, at least.

That taught me that people being afraid and avoiding you is MUCH BETTER than being bullied and nice just to be liked. Which further cements how baffled I am how much men give up for society, when I was treated like this from so early. Most of Reddit on its own feels like some sort of Twilight Zone to me with all the absurd stuff they say about people.

bronahhill · 2025-01-14T06:05:00+00:00

I had a wireless mouse for my chromebook at school in fifth grade. I used that mouse all year. My mother spent her hard earned money on that mouse. On one of the last days of school, I accidently left it in my ELA class. I went remembered and went back to get it. When I got there it was gone. I figured I would never find it, and it was my fault for losing it. Well, in my homeroom at the end of the day I spot my wireless mouse. I knew this one was mine, because it was the same color, and had the same exact scratch, in the same exact spot on the back. A girl whom I knew, and was friendly with was the one who had it. I went up to her nicely and explained how that was my mouse, and told her about the mark on it and everything. She denied having swiped the mouse. So I went to my homeroom teacher (who is still one of my favorite teachers till this day despite the story) and explained to her my dilemma. She called the girl to her desk and we all discussed it. All though I could tell her every nick, and scratch on that mouse, she said she couldnt be sure, and let the girl keep the mouse. I still don't know why she didn't take my side, even with me proving clearly that the mouse was mine. I don't hold a grudge against her, and wasn't really even angry at the time. The last day of school that year, my teacher even pulled me aside and hugged me, while crying and told me I would do great things. She was a wonderful teacher, but that was the day I started to realize that the word of a man, doesn't hold the same weight as a women's.

Southern_Water_Vibe · 2025-01-14T04:06:04+00:00

Mostly the emotional abuse in my own family.

When I was younger it came out as an angry knee-jerk against women. That was unfair. I was a horrible middle-schooler, I'll be the first to admit.

At that age, though, I couldn't even name what was happening as abuse. The stereotype of an abuser (cartoonishly evil and definitely male) was so far from who I was living with that it took me years of reading and soul-searching to be certain that it really was that bad, it wasn't normal, and it wasn't just some fault of ours.

If the genders were reversed I would have figured it out as soon as I popped open a book on the topic.

PsionicShift · 2025-01-14T08:43:06+00:00

It was whenever my dad told me to never hit a woman, even if they hit me. I thought to myself, “Hmm, that doesn’t seem fair.”

PhrophetBuster · 2025-01-14T07:03:06+00:00

When I was in 6th grade I was falsely accused by a girl that I destroyed one of her rings and when the teacher asked me if I did it, I swore that I didn't do anything but the girl only had the reason cause I stood next to her and cause I was a guy and only guys are capable of destruction. At that time I paid no mind but when I realized that I was accused only cause I was a male and stood next to her

therealtoxicwolrld · 2025-01-14T01:26:32+00:00

It would have to be my dad constantly trying to avoid conflict/arguments with my mom. Also my mom being bossy, etc.

atakantar · 2025-01-14T06:40:49+00:00

The number of drinks bought for girls vs the number of drinks bought for boys.

demogirl06 · 2025-01-14T16:18:09+00:00

My guy friend’s mom was divorcing his dad. She falsely accused him of molesting his son. Women can say any shit they want in divorce court, order BS restraining orders against men for nothing, and make those men spend over $100,000 defending themselves.

I watched this play out again as an adult, with my tenant and his two little children.

I am a girl, and my dad got custody of me fair and square without this nonsense because my parents never married. I am grateful they had an amicable relationship after they split. No fucked up games.

Sorry to the dudes who have vindictive ex-wives who drag the kids through the mud.

Capricious_Paradox · 2025-01-14T11:57:04+00:00

I would say it was a variety of events, but one in particular that baffled me was when I was probably about eight or nine: at some sort of party at school there were a couple of boys being unduly loud. Well, the teacher decided to punish all boys by having them sit down until the end of the "party", while girls were allowed to continue standing up, going around the room and chat. It was such a ridiculous way for the teacher to express her disdain of males that I still remember it to this day. Of course, I know this is silly compared to what many men face in their lifes, but seeing how this particular event wasn't seen as unjust or anything really made me think about how men face less protection.

Fun_Butterfly_420 · 2025-01-14T19:50:40+00:00

There was a lot of casual misandry among girls in my school, both students and teachers

dirtyYasuki · 2025-01-14T04:42:20+00:00

I was indoctrinated by modern feminist propaganda when I was young. When I grew older, I did personal analysis of feminism's principles, doctrines, ideologies, and practices. After careful consideration of the theories of feminism and their practices and after considering the arguments of MRAs and the manosphere, I no longer considered myself a feminist.

All you have to understand that feminism does not fight for justice and equality is see how they treat those they claim to fight for and fight against. Their hypocrisy cannot be hidden.

Don't listen to what they say, watch what they do.

Illuminati8339yt · 2025-01-14T14:05:41+00:00

When I had girls spanking me/ stuff like that in school and nothing was done

throwawaymarblez · 2025-01-14T00:44:36+00:00

When KAM was trending. I was in elementary school at the time.

BayouGrunt985 · 2025-01-14T11:35:42+00:00

Steubenville (the catholic college in Ohio) being a female dominated university and expecting Ken to be "nice guys" and telling them it'll get then what they're after.... and then cowering in fear and calling out the big man to assist when they finally realize their balls were stolen and what they were promised was a crock of shit

Mysterious-Citron875 · 2025-01-14T11:40:38+00:00

This woman is a child abuser and an opressor, what she did was extremely cruel and sexist, you had every reason to feel upset about it.

Electronic-Bend9999 · 2025-01-29T14:59:27+00:00

on my 7th grade, two teachers said that all men are untermanchen, and all men should be dead.Since we are small, no one did anything to them only complained in private.Also, the bathroom.Male's alway don't have a door.So you can see anything passing by.Once I was in the bathroom, I noticed that there were two girl looking my penis. In college, I see a lot of female students go to man's room to refill their water bottle, because the lady's room are further. Also in my college, a fat feminist teacher said male are bad and should be castrated.I wanted to get my score so I said nothing.(a few years before that, I was talking about feminism is bad at class and I was kicked out from university for my extreme speech).

dejour · 2025-01-14T13:35:49+00:00

Honestly, that is something I occasionally see in mixed gender sports. Men not thinking women are good and therefore never passing to them. If a woman works to get open and available 10 plays in a row and never gets the ball, it is very discouraging. It is something worth fixing, but this was a clumsy attempt.

Better rule IMO: "Each individual player can only score once."

And maybe the best idea is to explain the problem thoroughly and encourage everyone to pass to players who are open.

Title	What event in your childhood/youth made you aware of anti-male discrimination?
Author	StubbornSob
Upvotes	203
Comments	48
Date	January 13, 2025 10:04 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/1i0q0l4/what_event_in_your_childhoodyouth_made_you_aware/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/MensRights/what-event-in-your-childhoodyouth-made-you-aware.1541360 https://theredarchive.com/post/1541360

Comments