Wondering if anyone else has had experience with something like this. When I negotiated my divorce agreement and signed it, I was in a different job but a related industry to where I am now. I was pretty much on a career track in the previous job and travel really wasn’t a thing outside of two conferences a year that I always went to and that always happen at the same time so provisions were made in the agreement for them.

My current job was a bit of an unexpected opportunity-I still go to those two conferences every year, but already I am looking at three additional separate overnight trips coming this spring. I always have my kids Thursday afternoon after school into Friday morning when I drop them off per the agreement (my ex lives in the same town less than 10 minutes away) and of course, all three trips are Thursday to Friday.

My ex is a narcissistic control freak and she will bend over backwards to invoke the ROFR every single time because my only two real options for childcare are my parents or my girlfriend, both of whom she hates with a passion. As soon as I got notification of the first upcoming trip I lined up my mom to pick my girls up from school on Thursday, handle all of the after school activities, give them dinner, stay the night, get them off to school in the morning, pick them up from school on Friday and stay with them until I got home. I lined it all up ahead of time deliberately so that it did not look as though I was crawling to my ex for “help,” but rather saying “FYI-I’ve got this covered, but I am coming to you only because the agreement says that I have to.”

Needless to say, she immediately shot back with a text saying that she would take them. I am certain that when I let her know about the other two trips she will do the same thing. Knowing that, I am worried that she is going to try to use the fact that I am traveling more to try to get more child support out of me given the fact that our agreement was not crafted around me having a job that required travel. Just curious if anyone else has ever been in a similar situation and how they handled it?