Single turning 30

Wife_and_Mama · 2025-02-13T22:02:29+00:00

I'm also very picky with looks and character.

Elaborate. What are you expecting to find? How does it compare with what you offer?

Nerdslayer2 · 2025-02-13T23:08:43+00:00

If you are very picky on looks and character, and are picky in the same way that other women are (for example, liking men who are confident, which is extremely common for women, versus liking men who know a lot about geography, which is rare), then your own attractiveness level needs to match how selective you are being. Let's say your standards eliminate 99% of men. That 1% of men who are left are probably able to date 99% of women. Are you also in the top 1% in terms of attractiveness? If not, why are these men going to pick you?

A lot of women fall into the trap of having sex with a man who is in the top 1% (or whatever their standard is) and then they think they can have a serious relationship with that caliber of man. They tell themselves the reason that guy just wanted to have casual sex and not a serious relationship is because he is a jerk or "he just isn't interested in anything serious right now", which is usually the line attractive men give women who don't meet their standards for a relationship.

Men have a much lower bar for who they will sleep with versus who they will have a serious relationship with. Meeting the sex bar is easy and tells you very little about whether you meet the relationship bar.

I think it is very likely that your standards are simply too high and you need to lower them to have a realistic chance at getting a boyfriend.

Edit: Try using this tool for the standards it includes. Then reduce it further for each additional standard you have and your estimation of what percentage of men meet the standard. https://igotstandardsbro.com/

Gwyneee · 2025-02-14T05:20:40+00:00

If you're picky I dont think there's a lot more to be said. You want a better man and the better the rarer.

NorthernOracle · 2025-02-13T22:03:57+00:00

Step one is are you even being realistic. Snarky domain name but real dataset.

https://www.femaledelusionalcalculator.com/

Snoo_20476 · 2025-02-14T11:03:26+00:00

I remember this feeling. When i turned 30 i was honestly so disappointed. I thought I'd be happily married living the fairytale.

I was a single mom. Living comfortably but very single. Worse even, i was in a situationship. I was sick of failing at relationships so I made a literal list of every single qualities I wanted in a husband. A wish list, so to speak.

Then i made a list of qualities i needed in a partner. Qualities that complimented my own and made up for my weaknesses. I stopped chasing a feeling and started looking for what made sense. I was basically hiring for a boyfriend with the opportunity to promote. If a man had all the qualities I needed but only some of the qualities i wanted i would consider him a qualified candidate 😂

It was the most fun in dating I ever had in my life because I took back control over the direction of my life. The hard part was making time for different guys or sending the "im sorry were not compatible" text.

Dartze695 · 2025-02-14T08:57:09+00:00

Honestly the way you come off, seems like you need to face some deep trauma first with your therapist. It feels you're not ready.

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Full text: I'm turning 30 and i badly wanted to have a boyfriend but I'm not attracted to guys around me. I tried dating apps but nothing is consistent there. I ho on running, I joined a group og similat hobbies and still no luck! What should I do. I'm also very picky with looks and character. Huhu

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Title	Single turning 30
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Date	February 13, 2025 9:37 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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