I’m interested in learning more about seduction.

ancientweasel · 2025-03-10T16:04:11+00:00

Learn to be COMPLETELY detached from the outcome. Your job it to go tell the universe what you want because you are being honest and eventually it will pay off. 90% of women are unavailable anyways. Knowing you'll probably have to ask out 20 to get a date makes it easier to just not care.

AssistTemporary8422 · 2025-03-10T17:27:53+00:00

I have a lot of female friends, and I can talk to them easily, but when I’m talking to my crush, I just can’t seem to find the right words.

One thing that might help is rehearse some lines for starting conversations, small talk, questions, stories about yourself, and funny things. Focus on platonic conversation first before moving on to showing intent.

I’m not good enough for her,

What makes you not good enough?

‘she’s probably in a relationship,’ ‘she won’t fall for me,’

These two statements are fortune telling. Its like you think you have a crystal ball that tells the future and only gives you bad news. Even if your chances are low for an individual woman they aren't zero.

I’m not good-looking enough

How attractive are you relative to the women you are talking to and how are you improving your looks?

LucaCoco_ · 2025-03-10T17:14:24+00:00

When you'll learn what makes a man attractive, how much controll you've got over it and you will work on it feeling of "i'm not good enough" should be conquered.

Scared_Tap2977 · 2025-03-10T21:10:57+00:00

Best place to start? “The Unapologetic Man Podcast”.

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-03-11T01:43:18+00:00

I have a lot of resources on my profile. Start with the beginner posts.

Chicagoj1563 · 2025-03-11T14:24:38+00:00

You probably have got decent advice already. What I would add is to try and get good at talking to new people in general. This is normal social skill development. As you have already noticed, most of us aren't good at this without practice. When you want to approach a girl, you get all sorts of limiting beliefs in your head and it gets in the way. With practice you can make this a non factor.

Try to find places you can go where you can socialize, especially with women you don't know. Try not to take anything seriously. Detach yourself from the outcome and focus more on practice, improving, and having fun. Laugh at rejections. And try to eliminate all those limiting beliefs. Instead of "I don't think I'm good looking enough" replace that with "I'm going to have some fun with meeting someone new". And when you walk away, eliminate all self judgemet. Again, make it fun.

Turn it into a game where you are improving your social communication with each interaction. With enough practice, you won't have any thoughts. You just go in and approach, no thinking required. IT's all in the moment.

You don't have to become a cold approach pickup artist. But you do have to play the numbers game and practice for a while. So, try to figure that one out first. Parties are a great place to practice.

As for flirting, use your personality and amplify it. Women respond to guys who are fun, on their own path and purpose, expect things to work out in their favor, and aren't going to be overly reactive to her challenges. SO, say a few things other guys wouldn't say. Stay in your own lane, use your natural personality. Don't be something your not. But, do things like accuse her of hitting on you. Have fun engaging conversations where you are teasing her a bit in a playful way. Disagree with her when it makes sense. But, mix it with your normal personality. Don't over game.

MineDesperate2920 · 2025-03-11T14:45:33+00:00

Being comfortable only comes with practice. So just keep practicing. More so the part of talking to girls you like

Antonio31415 · 2025-03-11T16:13:26+00:00

Also good sir might want to chime in and tell you that when you will eventually get a girl to like you and sleep with you,before you two do the deed for the first time,it’s very important that you tell her “I’m gonna explore your body tonight” That leaves a decent room for failure and takes the performance anxiety from both of you

Formal-Confidence-91 · 2025-03-10T19:49:19+00:00

Here’s a concise and powerful response for the original poster:

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You’re already ahead of the curve by asking this question. The best approach? Treat this like a self-development journey. Don’t get caught up in the “game vs. looks vs. money” debate—focus on becoming the best version of yourself, and attraction will follow. Here’s what I recommend:

Mindset & Confidence (Stoicism) • The Obstacle Is the Way – Ryan Holiday • Meditations – Marcus Aurelius • How to Stop Caring What Others Think – Stoic Mindset (YouTube) → Stoicism helps you detach from fear of rejection and build rock-solid confidence.
Fitness & Physical Presence • Bigger Leaner Stronger – Michael Matthews • Athlean-X / Jeff Nippard / More Plates More Dates (YouTube) → Get in shape, improve posture, and take care of grooming—this will impact how you’re perceived.
Social & People Skills (Cold Approach & Social Confidence) • The Charisma Myth – Olivia Fox Cabane • How to Be Socially Confident in Any Situation (YouTube) → Cold approach isn’t just about dating; it teaches presence, social intelligence, and real-time adaptability.
Online Presence & Social Proof • Learn how to build an elite dating profile (photos, captions, vibe). This also teaches digital marketing and branding skills.

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Do this, and you’ll naturally become more attractive without chasing validation. If you want book or video recommendations for each area, let me know.

epimpstyle · 2025-03-10T17:32:19+00:00

Whenever I see a girl I find attractive, I get all nervous and scared that she might reject me or think I’m creepy

You can erase your thought that she thinks you are creepy if you actually consciously do something creepy like asking someone for directions and then walk in the opposite direction or tell someone "hey excuse me, quick question" and then act like nothing happened and walk away. Doing these things will make you feel like a weirdo, and you will see that talking to a girl is much better than doing such weird things. You don't know that feeling until you try it. It is like trying to explain what honey tastes like, it is hard to say, you have to taste it.

Even if she thinks you are creepy, what do you think will happen? Will she call her friend and tell her that some guy started talking to her? Will she start filming you or taking pictures of you and posting them on the Internet? Will she call your parents/neighbors and tell you wanted to talk to her? Will she call the cops? Will she scream or punch you in the nose? Imagine any possible scenario and you will see everything makes no sense and is ridiculous.

Even if she thinks you're creepy, she'll forget you, just as you forget a beggar who asks for pennies, and after a few hours, you won't even remember him.

Actually, hesitating to tell her something is creepier than actually talking to her. Look at this VIDEO filmed in Ukraine, I walked behind these girls for 50-100 meters and one of them saw me, she literally told me that she thought I was stalking her. That's because I didn't tell them anything, to them I was a weirdo. Everything changed after we exchanged a few words (I decided to leave because they were too young for me).

Being afraid of rejection is another story but at least I guess you have seen that it is not creepy to talk with a girl.

Title	I’m interested in learning more about seduction.
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Date	March 10, 2025 3:52 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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