What mindset do I need to adopt for fulfilling experiences with women

KoleSekor · 2025-04-03T16:59:13+00:00

If women think you're unsure whether or not you want to/could have sex, there's no way in hell they'd ever sleep with you, so there's that.

Plastic_Friendship55 · 2025-04-03T15:24:43+00:00

One side of you is telling you to be natural. To gain experience and knowledge. As much as possible.

The other side is telling you to be a simp. To be worried about thing you easily control (std). That you should feel shame.

I would advice you to avoid the side that wants you to worry and feel shame. Nothing good comes out of that. And please, there is nothing noble in being a simp.

But since you are inexperienced be aware that the choice to enjoy as many women as possible is a difficult one. You don’t just make up your mind and then have sex with 200 women. There very well not be many women out there who would want to have sex with you. For most men just having sex with two different women in a year, can be a struggle. It took me years of hard work and effort to reach a point where I now can have sex with 30-40 different women in a year. And when I decided I wanted to reach that point, I had already been sexually active for 25 years and had the basics of seduction in place. It’s possible but very hard work.

So start slowly. Have realistic expectations. Work on yourself, especially your social skills. Your goal should be to get a date. That’s it. When you’ve had a couple dates raise the goal to have sex. If things work out you can continue and maybe enjoy more women.

Most likely you will end up in the middle of your two sides. A bit experience but found a woman you want to commit too.

Realistic-Load-1302 · 2025-04-03T13:11:10+00:00

This depends on a lot of factors, it isn’t like a cake recipe bro. First off, how old are you? If you’re uncomfortable sharing any info here, I would absolutely love to help you personally and you can dm me anytime.

liftingnstuff · 2025-04-03T14:32:52+00:00

Your dating goals should be your own. STD's are an overstated risk, the STD prevalence is highly concentrated in certain demographics. Don't sleep with low end sex workers, intravenous drug users, and gay dudes and your risk of STD's is virtually none. Add in protection and it's even lower.

Hookup culture is only toxic on an individual level if you make it toxic or seek toxicity. I would say it's difficult to find a life partner with virtually no experience because you have no real understanding of compatibility and preferences. It's not one or the other where you can only have casual sex or look for a girl to marry.

As a complete beginner you're also putting the cart before the horse. Your mindset should be that you want to learn how to develop emotional connections to women. Going into any encounter with a defined goal of sex or marriage is not going to be beneficial for you.

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-04-03T17:24:48+00:00

Every path has its own risks and benefits. Quit overthinking it.

If sex was food, just give it a try and see what you think of it as you’re a virgin as of now. Imagine someone says “I want this, I want that, I want everything in the store” but when asked if he’s ever tried one, he said no.

Ciabbata · 2025-04-03T17:41:51+00:00

Its great that you're exploring different mindsets. Remember, genuine connections often lead to the most fulfilling experiences. If you're open to it, I have a Telegram bot that can offer personalized tips on building meaningful relationships. Good luck!

MysteryLiezer · 2025-04-03T18:30:16+00:00

If you’re not embarrassed to tell a woman that you’ve never been on a date, do you think your confidence will:

Make her want to fuck you?

OR

Make her want to marry you?

Likewise, if you’re embarrassed to tell a woman that you’ve never been on a date, do you think your embarrassment will:

Make her want to fuck you?

OR

Make her want to marry you?

Now, whether or not you’re embarrassed to tell, do you think actually doing so will:

Make her want to fuck you?

OR

Make her want to marry you?

Each response should match with a question, while the response of “neither” matches with the remainder.

Think about it!

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-04-03T19:06:17+00:00

Work on yourself and your social skills. Practice talking to a wide variety of people, both men and women, young adults to older people. Have casual conversations and just feel comfortable being in the presence of other people. Extend that into obviously talking to women you initially find attractive and want to get to know.

Don't worry about being a virgin. Everyone has to start somewhere. Ditch the mindset that because you think you're a late bloomer means that you should just jump into casual sex with random people. Date to get experience with finding a compatible partner for more than just sex. Screen them well so you can find a good person to grow and share experiences with beyond the bedroom.

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-04-04T02:55:50+00:00

Well, the problem is that you're trying to judge without even having the experience yet! How can you possibly know what is fulfilling for you until you experiment? I started thinking I want casual sex, and look at me now, I only exclusively use pickup to get relationships.

The only way to know what is fulfilling for you is to go experiment to see what suits you. See my post on "why you can't get laid" - it has nothing to do with "not getting laid" but more so on why you're not acheiving your dating goals.

That post is still relavant to me today. It reminds me that if I don't do those principles, even with my skillsets, I cannot achieve my dating goals.

restecpa88 · 2025-04-04T12:51:09+00:00

A 25 year old virgin worrying about sleeping with too many woman is like a skinny man who’s never been to the gym not going because he doesn’t want to look like Arnold

Affectionate-Ant4888 · 2025-04-06T19:08:15+00:00

you will have to need more than a simple mindset lol ; you have to study like crazy the old gurus; get obsessed over that stuff; apply and apply and go out into the field.

Title	What mindset do I need to adopt for fulfilling experiences with women
Author	LavishnessFormer7843
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Date	April 3, 2025 1:06 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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